Pregnant or just period

[gj227]

SO lately my bf and i had unprotected sex( stupid for being only 14) and i want to ask and say a few things. Ok so is this my period or pregnancy? Symptoms: Cramps, supper light bleeding( burnt red like), nausea, bloating, blue veins popping out of my breasts, tender and bigger breasts,and super hungry all the time(but eating heathy)sometimes i crave paper or dirt. I am not just making this up!!! this is real! Also can you have bleeding during early pregnancy? i want to test... but i do not have the guts to ask my parents to run me to the store and get me a stupid test! Thank you so much for any help at all! XOXOXOXOXO to everyone who helps me!

[laci25]

I am with Clysta, that you should just go ahead and speak with your parents.  However, the decision rests on you.  No one can make you do anything.  What I suggest is listen to the advice that everyone has given you and make the choice that you feel is best in your heart.  Like Clysta said, whether you ask a family friend or just talk to your parents, the choice is up to you.  I know it is hard but your parents are your family and will be the ones helping you if you are infact pregnant.  I would also suggest, being that you are still so young, that you not worry about sex or burden yourself with the stresses and emotions of sex at your age.  Sex always complicates things when you are young.  It is hard enough for an adult who gets pregnant.  Please take this as a learning experience and if you don't abstain from sex, then at least practice safe sex.  I suggest birth control and condoms together as neither one is 100%.  Good luck and keep us posted.

[penswriter]

As a manager in a restaurant I can tell you we refuse to higher anyone under 16 and only hire 4 or 5 between 16 and 18. Like clysta said WAY to many restrictions. As far as pregnancy goes get an hpt. Having unprotected sex is extremely irresponsible. If you're not pregnant it would be wise to get on b/c and always use condoms.

[Clysta]

It's your choice to ask a family friend, but you would do better to just speak to your parents. They will have to know eventually, and it would only be delaying the inevitable.

[gj227]

thanks. i'll look up some stuff and ill see if i can find anything!

[gj227]

should i  ask a family friend?

[Clysta]

You might be able to, but almost no company hires children as young as you. There are too many restrictions places on minors that make it difficult to work and there are many guidelines they must adhere to. Under the FLSA the minimum age in a non-agricultural place is 14 and the guidelines are these:
    * Non-school hours;
    * 3 hours in a school day;
    * 18 hours in a school week;
    * 8 hours on a non-school day;
    * 40 hours on a non-school week; and
    * hours between 7 a.m. and 7 p.m. (except from June 1 through Labor Day, when evening hours are extended to 9 p.m.)

It's just easier to hire someone older. You might be able to find something though.

[laci25]

It is very possible to be pregnant especially if you have been having unprotected sex.  Your symptoms could very well be those of pregnancy, however, they don't automatically meant that you are pregnant.  Craving paper and dirt is usually the cause of an iron deficiency.  Iron deficiency is also common in pregnancy.  I think you really do need to take a pregnancy test and if you are too scared to talk to your parents then at least get someone to drive you to your local health department and have them test you.  Just know that if you are pregnant, you will eventually have to talk to your parents.  I know it is hard, trust me I have been there.  If you are not pregnant then you need to see the dr about your cravings to see if you have low Iron and need to take a supplement to straighten that out.  Let me know if you have any other questions.  Keep me posted.

[gj227]

ok thanks. am i to young to get a job, or can i get one?

[Clysta]

It's possible. Anytime you engage in sexual activity, especially being unprotected you're risking pregnancy. You have little choice now but to speak to someone to help you out. If you are indeed pregnant you're going to need prenatal care and the support from your parents. They're going to end up paying for the child as you're too young to do so yourself. If you're NOT pregnant, take it as a learning lesson and use protection. You're too young to be having children, and shouldn't even really worry about sex at your age now anyways. You have your whole life for it.