hi.

[brobroq]

I'm only fourteen and I'm expecting. What should I watch out for?

[remar]

I don't think anyone is judging. Young pregnant women really need to know the reality of having a baby so young. It is the hardest job you will ever have. Babies take all of your time not to mention they cost a fortune. I really don't think the responsibility should be put on the grand parents. They raised their children. This can be so very hard on grand parents. Many have to struggle to help with the grand child. It can be so very stressful. I truly hope the young girl who posted this makes it. Being 14 and pregnant is quite a shock for many of us to hear because that is so very young. So, again, I don't see any judging here, just advice.  

[babygirlchanelle]

Y does every 1 feel the need to judge, yes she young, but y should she be judged all because of her age, doesnt mean she cant be a good mum, and if her family are willing to surport her untill she can surport her self fully then thats there choose wouldnt any 1 want to help there daughter through a hard time, i no i wld. yes 200 isnt enough but at least it some thing.

Hold your head up and prove a lot of people wrong.

[teenmomtobaby_]

Hey im 15 and expecting my second child when i got my first I was 13 you can do It im Sure but i would finish school online if you can!!

[mas713]

My mom had one of her kids at 13, shes a wonderful mom and shes there for us day and night reguardless. she grew up and took responsibilty. that was over 20 years ago and Im not saying now and then is any different. good luck with your baby I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and baby. if you need too message me. Im proud of you for deciding to keep your baby, good luck and best of everything to you.

[shinieshoes]

I see how that could happen. My school didn't have a daycare for teachers. They just shoved the pregnant girls in alternative school so they could finish quicker. Teen pregnancy wasn't as common or as acceptable in 2005! We maybe had 2 girls get pregnant the whole time I was in high school. Things are very different these days for sure!

[poodyk21]

@Shinieshoes the daycare was originally for teachers but more and more srudents became pregnant and eventually became free to students with childen trying to finish school at lot of schools have daycares but many aren'tfree.

[shinieshoes]

They have daycare in schools now?!? Wow lol a lot has changed since I was in school apparently. Anyways... There are some 30 year old mothers that are despicable and treat their children like dirt... While being older and more mature helps it doesn't guarantee a good mother. Go to Sam's club to get your diapers sweetie. I only pay 40 bucks for like 160 pampers. They also have huggies and store brand. I go through about 2 and 1/2  boxes in a month and I change my baby probably more than some people do. I think they say your baby will use up to 12 diapers a day.  That's a little less than 120 bucks a month. Try your hardest to breastfeed and pump because that's free lol! And if you do have to use formula I buy the 35 dollar box of enfamil that has 2 of the big container bags in it. It's cheaper than buying it by the can!  You can do this sweetie! Don't listen to all the naysayers on here! Yes it will be hard but I don't care how old you are it's hard for everyone and no one is ever completely prepared! Ill pray for you hun! Congratulations!

[nursej22]

I dont agree with the "You will be fine comments"  because the reality is we dont know that. Not to be negative nancy but  when we get pregnant we never really know what we may get. N that's reality. yes we have all these test to "predict" all these things but we dont know.....but this last part is not to be rude or anything please do excuse me in advance. But try your best which I see from what you have wrote your capable of doing...n I see your family is willin to help but remember your the one that created that child they shouldn't have to support it. Yes I know im not the one n I shouldn't be worried but a part of having a child is financial.  Not only loving it n waking up n all that stuff.

[GigiBella]

Bless you and your decision to keep your baby. You are very young and Im glad you have a strong support system.  Make sure you get prenatal care asap. Listen to your doctors, read parenting books,  and try to find a parenting class. Stay in school even if u have to do night school or GED. Good Luck

[poodyk21]

Yes some ladies are judging but sometimes its reality.Cause it is harder when you have someone else to depend on u and the baby sometimes does end up suffering because of our mistakes. Ive seen plenty of young moms step up and at my school daycare was free so it was several 7th graders and 8th graders children in there

[calico236]

Not being rude in the slightest,  this is straight out of the nursing textbook.  Pregnancies that occur from ages 16 and under are at higher risk of complications and deformities.  So get a good doctor and preferably soon.

[julieeenewmum]

No one's trying to be judgemental & if I came off that way I didn't mean too I'm not as young but I'm in the same dam boat I'm 17 & like I said she can do it it's just going to be very difficult & it's not fun depending on others & open adoption is a beautiful thing it's not giving away her child that takes guts & I believe that is really responsibility giving your child the best life possible and if you know you can't financially . You can do it but just be smart about your support system & saying your family has more than enough money doesn't look very good its not your family's child it's yours it's your responsibility too provide for him or her not there's .. best of luck to you

[Emi10172013]

Honey don't let these negative comments get to you yes you're young but what's done is done I would suggest to start taking prenatals as soon as possible and start drinking more water and trust me nobody is ever really ready for a baby not even people who are older it's a lot of responsibility but from what I've read you sound very responsible and ready to take care of your baby and $200 every 2 weeks is a good start for baby as long as you budget your money but as soon as you're a little older I would look into getting a better paying job :) good luck on your little blessing

[oct3014]

Good luck with your pregnancy! Being 14 is young but you making the decision to keep your child and save up the little money you do make is very responsible! Most 14 year olds dnt even want to wake up and work. My best advice to you would be to eat healthy take your prenatals and join the ten forums because you will get way more support from them than on here which is sad but true. Good luck!

[julieeenewmum]

Your 14 you can do it but your going to be very dependant on others & that's the reality of it . I'm 17 & I've had to drop out work full time & my bf works part time going too college the other half of his time & were already struggling as we have a car payment I've been paying my own phone since I was 16 , it's a very hard decision I don't believe in abortion I think it's a very cruel things so whatever you do whatever comments you read don't run to that as your last option your verrry verry young & I think open adoptions are the best thing ever you can still have a childhood you won't get all that negative feedback about getting an abortion & most of all still be part of your child's life again if you keep the baby it's not fun at all having too depend on people & you think you have a great support system well that's what alota people say I was 20 dollars short on our phone bill & my mom definitely did not forget , it's not a good feeling having too owe people money or having too barrow things , make the rite decision for you & your child be brave about whatever you go through with just remember you have the rest of your life too have kids when your ready , you can still have a child hood now & be part of his or her life with adoption think about it

[nursej22]

You will need baby sitters that are reliable. Just make sure you stay in school no mattter how hard it gets luv. Try to save up as much money as possible from what your getting now. Baby showers are a blessing if someone can throw you one cause you'll get most of what you need. Pregnancy is wonderful until the last 2 or 3 months then its just uncomfortable.  Labor is extremely painful if you do it natural.  I hear epidurals are miracles. I had my first natural. I hope your getting financial support else where because 200 every two weeks definitely isnt enough to afford a baby. Prepare to be exhausted beyond belief when baby first arrives butit gets easier once baby starts to sleep thru the night. But a great support system is essential.  And someone to talk to.

[Brianamz97]

I'm a young mom also. Dont let anyone discourage you. I knew from the moment I found out that I was pregnant that I wouldn't let anything or anyone discourage me from being the mom that my baby will need. I told myself this even before telling my bf just in case he didn't want the baby, I wasn't going to depend on him. If he wanted to leave then that was fine, but I was lucky to have a really loving and supportive boyfriend and family. You can do it. We started early in my pregnancy stocking up on everything for the baby. We now have an overload on diapers until he's like 30lbs and an overload on outfits until he's 2 years old. It's not impossible. I'm only 17 and my bf is 18. Show people that you are different. Prove it to yourself. Take classes. My boyfriend and I go to a Christian pregnancy center to take classes every week preparing us on what to expect. And we took a childbirthing class provided by our hospital. Find resources. It won't be easy, but it isnt impossible. If you need to talk, you could always message me.

[brobroq]

I'm not giving something I bring into this world up. Excuse me if I sound selfish but my family has more than enough money to help me.

[tiarose92]

I agree that your not ready but I feel u really think you are but when the baby gets here you'll find out! Your 14 your still a baby omg! I couldn't imagine having  all my freedom takin away from me at that age u can't even work... I'm so sorry u have to go threw this i hope everything works out...

[Whitney_G]

I agree with Gabriellakd... You have another thing coming if you think you can.provide for a baby on 200 dollars every two weeks. As far as you being with your bf for four years, a 10 year old doesn't even know what a relationship is.

Just wait until he isn't ready for this baby and he leaves..I'm not saying that to be rude,it's just a very real scenario.

[MommyG614]

$200 every two weeks isn't even enough to cover diaper costs for the month.  And if your gonna expect your parents to come up with the money to raise your baby you might want to consider adoption.

[julieeenewmum]

I'm young & I'm pregnant (17) but I totally agree ^ cleaning the restrooms is not gonna work out very well as you get further along

[gabriellakd]

200$ every two weeks is not enough to support a baby at ALL. Sorry to break it to you but what are you doing having sex at fourteen?!

[LucyMarie1991]

If you work cleaning you may want to give that up as it isn't safe for pregnant women to be around cleaning products too much. Anything with bleach in it you shouldn't really use anymore as it can harm baby's developing lungs