how do i tell my parents?

[Love_Bugga]

ok Im 17 and i found out i was prego not to long ago. How do i tell my parents that im pregnant ?
if anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated thanx
-Geny

[Love_Bugga]

thank you for all of your help i just wish it would of worked out better than it had i told my step mom she told my dad i got really stressed out, and before my dad got home i got jumped on by the dogs.and then with the stress i started spotting, then went to sleep woke up at 3am in alot of pain in my stomach and back it was so bad i felt like i was gonna puke. woke my dad up and could hardly move it was so bad i blacked out. But with my step mom knowing i was pregnant sat there and watched the dogs jump all over me not trying to stop it. i have made an appointment for the 30th when my ob gets back in town to see if i lost the baby. Im really scared but my body was not fully healed from the abortion my mom made me have back in july so when i heal i told my fiance that if we did lose the baby that i wanted to have one after we graduate. and he agreed he said after reading the daddy book i got him he was really excited.
thank you all again for all the help

[Jeanie20]

I would just be honest with your parents.  Bring a friend of yours for moral support.  It won't be easy either.  I mean you will probably get the I'm so disappointed in you and all that but then again they could surprise you and be supportive of your decisions to keep the baby.  I hope that's what you want to do.  No matter what once you have that baby they will change their minds about it.  They may feel that they are too young to be grandparents but you know these things happen and you have to just deal with it head on.  I will be honest with you my sister-in-law was 17 yrs old when she got pregnant and it was really hard b/c her dad wanted her to have an abortion and her mom was very disappointed in her and didn't want her to make the same mistakes she made b/c she was 17 yrs old when she got pregnant too.  At the time my hubby and I were just dating and we told her that we would support her decisions and be there for her.  Her boyfriend at the time married her about 6 months after the baby was born and they had another baby like 3 yrs later but since then they broke up but at least they tried.  Well, now it's 15 in a 1/2 years later and my mother-in-law just loves my niece and she does great in school and all.  See things all work out in the end.  Please keep me posted.  Good luck & Happy Holidays!!!

[irish742]

I'm 20 and pregnant and my dad was calm.. he told my mom. but they both dont want me to have it. my mom knows of an abortion last year i had and she told my dad so when my dad found that out he bugged but he was more fine with me being pregnant!

[AHP84]

Well, first of all, the only person who can go after your fiance for money that concerns your pregnancy and your child is YOU.
If you do not wish to legally enforce child support payments on him once the baby is born, then you do not have to sign any legal documents or request any legal action, and no one can make you. That is, if you genuinely trust that your fiance will be there for you and with you to help you support the child. If you have the slightest doubt in your mind that he might leave you, just keep in mind that you can pursue legal action to get child support. But again, only you can do that. Your step mother and no one else has no power in that case.

Sounds like you two are on the right track at the moment; seek out jobs and start working as much as you can to earn some money. If either of your jobs offers health insurance, get it.
Your next step, along with finding jobs as soon as possible, is to contact an organization, social agency, and/or church to help you find housing and get government aid such as Medicaid, WIC, daycare payment help, etc.

Good luck!

[Love_Bugga]

ok so i told my step mom and she told my dad. im not so happy bout it... my step mom might go after my fiance for money and i cant have that... what do i do im trying not to stress out  hes going to be there cuz his dads gonna kick him out 2 but hes there for me hes gonna get a job, im getting a job. but hes staying with me. theey said theres always adoption, and my fiance and i both said no that its our kid were gonna keep it.

[AHP84]

You still have options if your mom does kick you out. Would you be able to live with your dad? If so, it might be stressful to move and change school districts, but that is a sacrifice you have to be willing to make if you want to keep your baby.

If you can't move in with your dad, and your mom kicks you out, then seek out an organization or a church that can help you. Many organizations or social service agencies have programs that help pregnant teens and moms to keep their babies and still have an opportunity to finish school and get a job to get on their feet, and housing. Look into what your state has to offer.

[Love_Bugga]

yea well my mom said she would kick me out

[Rosa20]

You just have to tell them! It wont be as bad as you think it will be!! :) i got pregnant at 15 and i thought all would end when i told my parents but they truly were supportive and really only wanted what was best for me!! After they got over the shock of me being pregnant they enjoyed the pregnancy with me and she five now! They wouldnt change a thing!

[miracle202]

hey i am old enough to have a child and trust me i am afraid to tell anyone that i am preggo because of my situation but this baby is coming i found out yesterday and i am unsure how to tell anyone

[Love_Bugga]

thank you, im on some prenatal vitamins but not all of them and i think im going to tell my step mom firs. just cuz shes closer to my age.and she will take me to all of my appointments.

[Love_Bugga]

you know thats why im scared.... because of my mom v.v my mom made me abort my first child and she told me that if i ever get prego again im out of the house...and then i know my dad will cry but he wont be mad and he will support me. i told one of my older brothers when he took me baby the other day. the worst part about it is if i do have to move its gonna cause alot of stress on me because of the new school district.
i love my family, but i have to say my mom dosent trust anyone. not even her own kids.
shes a total *****. yea shes my mom but i cant stand her she will not understand, she didnt even care when i wanted to keep the baby she only cared about herself, not how an abortion would affect me.

[April2]

My 17 year old daughter told me just last month that she was pregnant. Yes, it was a shock, big time but the thing is, I was more sad for her because I knew this just now made life harder for her and that this would force her to grow up and she would have to now make sacrifices for this child. We had some long talks. I was honest with her and she was with me. There were some tears and hugs and I think in a way this drew us closer together. Yes, I'm still trying to adjust to this but I believe all babies are a gift from God and God will somehow get us through all of this.
You are your mother's baby, don't forget. She cares about you. Even if she is shocked, disappointed or even angry, that's understandable and to be expected at first until the shock wears off some. Give her time to get used to the idea. It's a big adjustment for everybody. But in the end, you will have this beautiful miracle and this very well could draw you and your mom closer than ever before.
I wish you all the best. Like the above poster said, just be honest. The words will come when you're ready to talk to her. Don't put if off, though, or it will just weigh heavy on your heart. You need your mom right now and you'll need to see a doctor soon and get on some prenatal vitamins and get proper care. Take care and God bless you and your wee little one. :)

[Megs2girls7]

You just have to be honest and tell them. It's going to be hard but your parents might surprise you. I was 20 when I found out I was pregnant. I told my mom and she flipped. She even went as far to write me a top 20 reasons to abort the baby. It was really hard to hear from my own mother. I stuck to my guns though. I told her that I was keeping the baby and she can either support me in my decision or not see her grandchild. Since I got such a bad reaction out of her I was scared out of my mind to tell my dad. I waited till I was 6 months pregnant to tell him. Then when I did he was very supportive and told me that no matter what he still loved me and we'd get through this. Total opposite reaction than I thought I would get. Now 5 years later my parents are totally in love with their granddaughter. No one regrets the decision to keep her.

I hope your parents have a better reaction than my mom did. They're your parents and they should love you no matter what. Keep me posted on what happens. Good luck.

(Sorry for the long story)