please help me

[becky149]

right so im 6 wks pregnant and me and my boy friend both are adicted to drugs iv gave them up as blaitently its not the best idea to take them when pregnant but my boyfriend has not he still does them but not around me. i am 15 and he is 19 . and i dont know if it is fair to bring a baby into this relationship i am finding it really hard to decide and am now considering abortion advice please? am i too young to give birth? should i have the abortion?

[dannidfave]

I personally do not believe in abortion, with abortion you are still harming your child.  I think that you made an adult decision about having sex now its time to make an adult decsion about how you are going to handle yourself.  

Some facts about abortion:
1. Puts harm on your body and may possibly disable you from having children ever again.
2. The way they kill the babies are brutal (99.9% of fetuses have a heartbeat around 6wks which makes them ALIVE).
     (a).  They pop the baby's skull and pull their little limbs apart
     (b).  They pour a saline solution on the baby causing it to burn to death.
     (c).  They jab it with needles until it is dead.

tell your parents no matter how upset they get ( you cant get an abortion without them anyways).
Find a program that helps pregnant women with addiction (you can get through it I PROMISE).
Look up information on open adoption, while you cant take care of the child you birth imagine the pleasure on someone else's face who cant have children EVER, than the pain you may feel after the abortion.

Hope all goes well.

[Caddy1992]

i think that doing drugs during your pregnancy isn't very mature at all your harmin your child
if you decide to keep him/her there may not be any affects on the child at birth but the child may struggle to learn later on in life
doing an open adoption isnt bad and you chose the family your child goes to plus open adoption means you have visitation and you can get pictures and email the parents of your child and still watch them grow while doing the best for your child
i believe you should search the side effects of drug use on children beofre you decide to keep it

[becky149]

i havent told my parents and dont know if i should ,i am trying to get off drugs but on new years eve  took 3 lines i feel so bad but will be at the doctors first thing tommorow to get checked, i have a scan next week and me and my boyfriend have decided to not make a decision on abortion or birth yet but we have decided against addoption as we both hav had or known people to have bad exsperiances through adoption and are not ready to put our child in this position . we are not sure if we would be suitable parents either tho so have decided to not rush into anything but we are aware that a decision has to be made asap

[Caddy1992]

i think you should consider the consequences cause once its done there is no turning back ever
you may be young but you kno what your not much younger then me and im 17 and im 8 months pregnant and i couldnt be happier
i was once addicted to drugs myself but after you get over the bump of stopping your life becomes so much better and having a baby really opens your eyes to what you are doing
my boyfriend has stopped doing drugs himself it took so long but i think having a child really sets your priorities straight and opens your eyes to what you are doing to yourself
having a child makes you grow up really fast because its not just you anymore there is someone else to care for
but honestly its your life and if you dont think your ready then your probably not but i was scared ****-less when i first found out but thats all gone now and i couldn't be happier with the way things are in my life
best wishes
just please do the research on abortions and see the side effects
going with adoption isn't so bad .. it may be the hardest thing in your life but it also may be better for the child ...

[April2]

Do you have the support of your parents? That would help a lot.
Yes, you are young but there have been plenty of girls your age who had babies. It might be hard with school and all but you can still do anything you wanted to do before. You don't have to give up your dreams just because you're pregnant.

The fact that you gave up the drugs because you're pregnant tells me you've already made your decision about this baby, whether subconsciously or not. I think you'd regret an abortion and may always wonder about what could have been. Most women to experience regret and even grief after getting an abortion. It's a big decision and should never be taken lightly. At 6 weeks pregnant the baby already has a beating heart.
Adoption is another option. There are many couples who long for a child and cannot have one. Again, it's a very big decision. I pray you can make the best decision for you and for your child. God bless.

[HaYnSweetie]

I think that you should be 100% sure before you decide to terminate.  I do think you are too young to have a baby, but then again there are many other teenage girls having babies. You should really think about the life ahead of you. Finish high school, go to college and then deciding on having a baby. My cousin had an abortion, she wasnt ready...5 years later she is happily married with 3 beautiful kids. Not every person is going to be depressed about having an abortion...women have them all the time. Just make sure you ask alot of questions about the surgery for it.

[ShayShay192]

I dont think abortion would be the right choice. You are very young to be having a baby but there are plenty of young teenagers having babies. People dont think about the consequences of getting abortions. Its very hard on your body and can even cause you to have difficulties trying to get pregnet again when ur older and ready. I have a couple friends who have gotten an abortion and they said that was the worst mistake of their lives. It haunts you and causes you to have depresion problems pretty much for the rest of your life. Your are young, but you're not too young to give birth. If you are worried about bringing a baby into this world and into you and ur boyfriends lives theres always adoption. There are plenty of people wanting a child so bad but cant have one. Im 17 and im pregnet also. Its scary I know. It is your choice! I hope you think about it through alot before you make any decisions. Good luck and God bless!

[hehaho]

i think your way to young to be having a kid, and your boyfriends broke the law for having sex with someone underage. if your having doubts and you think abortion is the best way, i say follow your heart