she can have tylenol for pain but she cant have anything with aspirin in it. you should really try changing her mind and going to the doctors its very important for her to go to the doctors. as for her not wanting to see you every pregnant women has mood swings i was like that when i was pregnant. she'll loosen up a little when she feels more comfortable about her being pregnant. continue to be their for her shes going to need it.
She can take Tylenol for pain, but that is it. No Advil or other pain relievers that have aspirin in it or other medications. I would continue to urge her to see her doctor, as prenatal care is very important, both for the baby's care and for her own health. Hopefully she will listen to you soon and can see her doctor. Good luck.