it sounds most likely like panic atack,thus you should do an EKG to exclude a possible heart condition
thank you so much just your reply eases my mind
When you push on a bone it will hurt. You seem to have a fear that something is going to happen to you and leave your family alone and in trouble. This is anxiety. You have yourself so worked up that at night your brain "looks" for pain until you "find" it. This is typical of anxiety. The resulting feelings are symptoms of a typical panic attack. Panic caused by your fear of illness results in the feeling of a "wave of fear" that makes your blood pressure rise and you feel like you are going to die. Although I think your pain in your ribs is just from your physically pushing on the bone, I think it might make you feel better to see a doctor just to ease your mind on the matter. Anxiety can be treated with meds, but all anxiety meds are physically addicting. Antidepressants are a better choice, but they are prescription and all cost money. If you can realize that your problems are in your mind rather than physical you may be able to train your mind not to "look" for pain and your anxiety can be controlled. If you wish to try and over the counter remedy, you may try some Tylenol PM, which works to relax you so you can sleep better. Check with the pharmacist first to make sure that it is won't work against any other meds you may be taking. Pharmacists are there to give you advice and don't cost you anything. They will not give you medical advice, but can recommend some over the counter meds that might help you. good luck