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Hi, I've been having declining health recently, I'm 27 years old and male. I have had a history of very low blood pressure, if I don't drink grapejuice at least once every 2 days I feel groggy all day and not in the mood to do anything.
during the day I live a very stressed life being watched on skype all day by my girlfriend and having to deal with her requests for me to help her do her college projects. I have atrophy because she wont let me leave bed most days because then I wouldn't be able to talk to her freely as my room is the only place no one else goes. She also wakes me up early on a daily basis due to a difference in time zones. as with alot of girls these days she also causes monthly stress during her time of the month (it makes her crazy).
in the past several weeks I have noticed my sleep has been much different than normal. it started with strange dreams, then progressed into something different, most notably I have had the following problems:
I wake up from a dream and can't move my body, my arms and everything are incredibly heavy. During this time I can barely speak but have learned to force myself to be able to speak loudly, after a few seconds if I don't focus I will drift back into a dream immediately sometimes even if my eyes are open. typically the dream I'll drift back into will be a direct continuation of the dream I was in last as if I had never woken up or merely 'paused' the dream.
I'm getting concerned as today I was almost comatose unable to move even if I forced myself awake. during these times I cannot tell if I am still breathing.
This morning I woke from a dream and I think I was dead, I couldn't move my body and when I tried to stress my muscles to pour energy into them to try and forcefully move I felt as if I was emiting a strong wind in all directions but still my body didn't move.
I can move my hands but not my arms or any other portion of my body in the above state.
Either I die when I sleep, or there is something wrong with my subconscious and it wont re-engage muscle control when I first wake-up. either way It leaves me in a very creepy feeling most mornings.
what can I do?
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during the day I live a very stressed life being watched on skype all day by my girlfriend and having to deal with her requests for me to help her do her college projects. I have atrophy because she wont let me leave bed most days because then I wouldn't be able to talk to her freely as my room is the only place no one else goes. She also wakes me up early on a daily basis due to a difference in time zones. as with alot of girls these days she also causes monthly stress during her time of the month (it makes her crazy).
in the past several weeks I have noticed my sleep has been much different than normal. it started with strange dreams, then progressed into something different, most notably I have had the following problems:
I wake up from a dream and can't move my body, my arms and everything are incredibly heavy. During this time I can barely speak but have learned to force myself to be able to speak loudly, after a few seconds if I don't focus I will drift back into a dream immediately sometimes even if my eyes are open. typically the dream I'll drift back into will be a direct continuation of the dream I was in last as if I had never woken up or merely 'paused' the dream.
I'm getting concerned as today I was almost comatose unable to move even if I forced myself awake. during these times I cannot tell if I am still breathing.
This morning I woke from a dream and I think I was dead, I couldn't move my body and when I tried to stress my muscles to pour energy into them to try and forcefully move I felt as if I was emiting a strong wind in all directions but still my body didn't move.
I can move my hands but not my arms or any other portion of my body in the above state.
Either I die when I sleep, or there is something wrong with my subconscious and it wont re-engage muscle control when I first wake-up. either way It leaves me in a very creepy feeling most mornings.
what can I do?
This discussion is related to Strange things keep happening .
You need to get yourself into a good routine of sleep pattern and get up at the same time every morning.
I know exactly what you mean when you wake up and cannot move and have to force yourself to move and get out of bed. I have the same problem, but I do suffer from osteoarthritis in most of my joints.
It isn't healthy to stay in your room and be on Skype, just in case your girlfriend needs you. She has to learn to do her own studies and not rely on you to help her. It is her course work, not yours.
You need to get out of your bedroom every day and go out into the fresh air and do some of your own living for yourself.
Join a club or gym in whatever interests you so you can spend time on your own hobby.
Make time for her when you can contact and see each other, but not be there every minute of the day for her beck and call. That is a one sided relationship which will not last very long.
Best wishes.
I know exactly what you mean when you wake up and cannot move and have to force yourself to move and get out of bed. I have the same problem, but I do suffer from osteoarthritis in most of my joints.
It isn't healthy to stay in your room and be on Skype, just in case your girlfriend needs you. She has to learn to do her own studies and not rely on you to help her. It is her course work, not yours.
You need to get out of your bedroom every day and go out into the fresh air and do some of your own living for yourself.
Join a club or gym in whatever interests you so you can spend time on your own hobby.
Make time for her when you can contact and see each other, but not be there every minute of the day for her beck and call. That is a one sided relationship which will not last very long.
Best wishes.
psychosematic depression due to stress from your situation. unless your girlfriend is poisoning you
I want to be in the relationship I've had talks with her about this she has agreed to help by not contacting me so early in the morning and such.
her roommate is studying medicine, she said it called sleep paralysis and is quite common.
I found that out after posting this.
still it probably is caused by stress and anxiety, oh well hopefully it's fixed now
her roommate is studying medicine, she said it called sleep paralysis and is quite common.
I found that out after posting this.
still it probably is caused by stress and anxiety, oh well hopefully it's fixed now
You are experiencing high levels of anxiety and most likely depression as well. Anxiety and depression can cause lethargy, difficulty sleeping, and strange dreams. It sounds like you are unhappy and don't want to be in the relationship. Feelings of being trapped can cause dreams like you described. You pretty much have three choices.
1. Continue this controlling, draining, unhealthy relationship and do nothing about it. Be miserable while your health deteriorates
2. Talk to your girlfriend. Tell her that you need time apart and that it is affecting your health. If she doesn't respect your space and health, then you break up with her.
3. Break up with her now. It doesn't sound like you want to be in the relationship. You sound like you are miserable and it is affecting your health. No relationship should drain you of energy or of your time.
I'd suggest number #3. Honestly, the relationship is unhealthy and the sooner you end it, then the sooner you will be healthy and happy.
If you decide to end the relationship. Explain things clearly to your girlfriend. Explain it only once. Write an email if you have difficulty talking to her over skype - especially if she doesn't listen and isn't willing to have a mature conversation. If she gets obsessive with texting, calling, yelling, name-calling, crying, etc. Ignore it. You don't need to continue to explain yourself or get sucked into any drama. You already made it clear why the relationship isn't working. If she continues to bother you. You block her number, email, facebook, and twitter. You don't respond to any texts. Eventually she will move on. Just don't give in and get sucked back into the toxic relationship.
Or.... you can always stay miserable and feel sick.
Your call.
1. Continue this controlling, draining, unhealthy relationship and do nothing about it. Be miserable while your health deteriorates
2. Talk to your girlfriend. Tell her that you need time apart and that it is affecting your health. If she doesn't respect your space and health, then you break up with her.
3. Break up with her now. It doesn't sound like you want to be in the relationship. You sound like you are miserable and it is affecting your health. No relationship should drain you of energy or of your time.
I'd suggest number #3. Honestly, the relationship is unhealthy and the sooner you end it, then the sooner you will be healthy and happy.
If you decide to end the relationship. Explain things clearly to your girlfriend. Explain it only once. Write an email if you have difficulty talking to her over skype - especially if she doesn't listen and isn't willing to have a mature conversation. If she gets obsessive with texting, calling, yelling, name-calling, crying, etc. Ignore it. You don't need to continue to explain yourself or get sucked into any drama. You already made it clear why the relationship isn't working. If she continues to bother you. You block her number, email, facebook, and twitter. You don't respond to any texts. Eventually she will move on. Just don't give in and get sucked back into the toxic relationship.
Or.... you can always stay miserable and feel sick.
Your call.
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