Vasectomy

[Questions187]

Are vasectomies permanent?  I had one 7 years ago and now a friend claims she's pregnant.

[Dr J Singh]

Hello,
Chances of pregnancy after vasectomy are very less but recanalisation can occur due to adhesion formation after many years of vasectomy also. So chances of pregnancy are there although less likely. You can get a DNA paternity test to confirm whether you are the father.

I hope it helps. Take care and regards.

[Questions187]

Thanks for your answer, I had complications but not to that extent.  I did have a sperm count and was infertile.  I don't really believe this friend, or maybe the friend was with someone else, so I just figured I'd ask how likely it was that I could've gone from infertile to fertile 8 years later.

[rmprdl1964]

After your vasectomy did you have a sperm count done several months after the procedure. If a sperm count was done at that time and no sperm was found than that would indicate that you are infertile.

I had a vasectomy in 1998 and never had a sperm count done after as I ended up with complications after my vasectomy. Ended up with a left hematoma. Had that removed but a small hole inside the scrotum remained. A year later on my birthday I underwent emergency surgery for a left orchiectomy. I had developed a Staph infection.

Only having one testicle now and it being quite a while since the surgery, my wife and I have not had any more children.

An aquaintence of our's had a vasectomy but did not go for the sperm count after the procedure. To the surprise of he and his wife they ended up with their sixth child. I think that you can see that it is important to have a sperm count after the surgery. As rare as it may be the possibility of still bein fertile is reall.

If this friend claims that she is pregnant after a sexual relationship with you, means that both of you will have to waith untill the child is born. After the child is born a paternity test will show who the father is. Having had a vasectomy does not allways mean that a pregnancy is not possible.

In a case of an unwanted pregnancy resulting in a child being born, one should take in mind that adoption is a very reall and good option. There are many couples who would gladly raise the child as their own. This said, I think that it is best for all involved that it should be a closed adoption. Meaning that the birth parents have no parental duties during the child's live untill the age of conscent. After a child has grown into an adult, it is up to the child should he or she desire to contact their birth parents.

Just a few months after our oldest son was born we were contacted by a friend who knew that we wanted to adopt a child. She knew of a family who had a 14 y/o daughter who was expecting her second child. We ended up adopting this child and had him with us at the time of being three days old. Not knowing what problems an open adoption could bring we allowed the birth mother to take part in the live of the child. At first 2 years the mother stayed in contact. Than after that we did not hear from the family untill the boy was 13 years old. The mother phoned us and accused us of having moved not providing a forward address. Meanwhile we had been in the same place for almost 12 years, and we had provided the family with our address and phone number. The birthmom did not even realize that by phoning us she knew that we had not moved.
At the age of 14 his family once again got in contact with us requesting us to visit them and possibly having him stay over at their place.
To make a long story short, after he started to have contact with his birth family and having stayed over several times, we started having some really bad behaviour problem from a boy who had not been a problem before.
At the age of 15 after having had major problems with his birth family as well as him causing problems, conditions for us became so bad that we had to come up with a solution. We asked our son and his birth family if it would be better if he was to live with them.
After several incedents with this family, things were brought before the court and custody was transferred from us to his birth mother.

We only have contact with him through MSN messenger. This boy has been in trouble with law enforcement in regards to having posession of drugs. He no longer is in school and he does not seem to adjust well to adult live. Being disabled and being on a limited income, we cannot risk the well being of the other 3 children and cannot have him living with us again. We most likely would be able to deal with him but not with the birth family.

I realize that what has taken place in our situation does not allways take place, however having contact with the birth parents while living with others does send mixed messages to a child and do cause reall problems. I even know of a friends of my dad's who thought that he had Norwegian parents. It was not untill he was in his mid 30's that he found out that he was adopted. His parents did not disclose that his parents were Laplanders. For several years this man broke off any contact with the parents who raised him. Only after his adoptive father got sick and he was contacted by his adoptive mom did he contact them again. In the meanwhile he missed several years of life with the people who raised him and treated him as their own.

The thing that I want to make you aware of is the fact that no child is unwanted. Adoption is a good option.

All the best.