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[laura1977]

Moms this question is for you.

I have made the startling discovery tonight while looking at some pics of me....................I NEED TO LOOSE WEIGHT!  hehehehe
Remember I'm a stay at home mom and my husband works lots of hours and I have a 2 year old and a 5 year old in school, so I need a way to do this that will work around my schedule.  Should I buy a treadmill and just walk every night............. HELP ME........... hehehe
Man it is weird how it creaps up on you and you don't notice it till you see a pic of yourself.

[Happy2girls]

I have to agree with Laura on this one.  I guess anyone can cite cases to support their biases but I held both my girls (my oldest daughter had colic too, it was the longest three months of my life, but that's a different post)  and they are both doing wonderfully, in school, with friends and in extra-curriculars.  My oldest is more reserved and my youngest is more outgoing.  I personally always believed that you hold a baby when it's crying for attention, that's how babies communicate.  If your daughter said to you, "Mommy, I need a hug or can I sit on your lap"  would you deny them.  What do you mean by an independent 10 month old, I don't understand?

[laura1977]

I would like to add that my 5 year old daughter that I held alot, walked at 9 months old.  So that right there shows her independance.  I remember everyone couldn't believe such a little child was walking, it almost looked kind-of funny in a way.

[laura1977]

well I have two kids.  One is 5 and when she was a baby I held her all the time because she had colic really bad, and she now is one of the most independant girls in her class, I have to pretty much TELL her that I am walking her to her class because she would rather go on her own.  So I can't say I agree with you that your 10 month old is independant just because you didn't hold her all the time.  At 4 months old, a baby should be held and babied......hence the word baby.  We aren't talking about 7 or 8 months old.  You know babies are only babies for so long, and when your daughter gets older you will miss the fact of being able to hold her.  Some babies require much more attention then others.  It has been said that harder babies that have colic get more attention then easier babies that are quiet.  I so believe this to be true.  My 5 year old got alot of attention because she was so fussy, but my 2 year old when she was a baby I had to make sure I picked her up often enough because she was the type of baby that would sleep all the time and be able to entertain herself.  
Holding a child doesn't mean you are spoiling it.  I just don't want you to think that just because you didn't hold your baby alot is why she is indepenant.  Independance comes naturally in some children and others aren't like that because they are quiet and has nothing to do with spoiling them.  You could have 5 or 10 kids and they all would be different even if your mothering skills weren't.  

[Avas Mom]

I have to kind of disagree about not spoiling a baby. Yes a 4 month old can be spoiled!!! I rarely held my daughter when she was younger because i felt she would be spoiled and want held all the time! And shes now 10 mos old and is very independant. My friend has a son who is 4 mos younger than my daughter and she never ever put that baby down and when i baby sat for her and put him down all he did was cry, thats all he was use to. Im sorry but i had this same argument with my bfs mom and we are no longer on speaking terms(along with a load of other reasons though) I just dont agree when ppl say you cant spoil a young baby.

[ksanden]

u see i have tried to spend time w him but he goes on th computer every nite and plays on it. he picks out tues to be w/ me because thats movie day. he will watch the movie with me then go on the computer and play.. ive tried so many things i went out and got a poker set to play with him, went out got a wii and still nothing has change im just so loney. als because of our son we dont sleep together i sleep on the futon in our room. its been that way for the past 2wks
ksanden

[TMB1975]

Hey Laura, I have a suggestion since you are a stay at home mom, and I will tell you this really works. This work out is fun and challenging you will see a difference in a week. I bought this from an infomercial. I am usually not a believer in these advertisements but  I decided to give the Billy Bootcamp workout a chance and it works. And since you are at home how much easier can that be, you don't have to leave the house to go to the Y.M.C.A. but yeah check it out online if it sounds interesting to you. I lost 40 pounds with it and watching what I ate of course. Good Luck!