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16 years old
im 16 years old and im currently 2 weeks pregnant. im not sure if i should continue my pregnacy. my boyfriend is 17 we both want to continue school but, i want to have this baby. i dont know what to do.
Great advice as always from Specialmom.
Many young girls in your situation can not think straight. They think it will be easy to raise a child. It is the hardest job you will ever have. If you decide to go ahead with this pregnancy you have to be well prepared. You will need an education, you will need money because babies are so very costly. Can you be sure you will stay with your boyfriend. Both of you are so young that chances are you will not stay together. So, you have to be prepared to do this on your own. Yes, it can be done but you may have to give up many things. Possibly your education, friends, no going out when you want to. Babies cry and sleep only when they want to, not when you want them to. They need your attention 24/7. It's a lot to think about and you do have several options. We're to listen and support you with whatever you decide to do.
Many young girls in your situation can not think straight. They think it will be easy to raise a child. It is the hardest job you will ever have. If you decide to go ahead with this pregnancy you have to be well prepared. You will need an education, you will need money because babies are so very costly. Can you be sure you will stay with your boyfriend. Both of you are so young that chances are you will not stay together. So, you have to be prepared to do this on your own. Yes, it can be done but you may have to give up many things. Possibly your education, friends, no going out when you want to. Babies cry and sleep only when they want to, not when you want them to. They need your attention 24/7. It's a lot to think about and you do have several options. We're to listen and support you with whatever you decide to do.
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Hi there and welcome to med help.
Well, first, I think you mean you are six weeks pregnant? Your period was due two weeks ago, right? so, you'd be six weeks (as you start counting on the first day of the last cycle which starts with day one being the first day of your last period).
What you need to do is think about your options realistically and then pick which one is the best for you. No one can force you to do anything. YOU have to choose what will be best for you.
You have options to consider-- termination or abortion is one. This is a good one when it is just not a good time to give birth to a baby. This happens if it would absolutely disrupt your life in a way you don't want to deal with or 'can't ' deal with. There is no shame in choosing this option because it does set a woman free from what could be a bad situation for her. Then a woman can go on to have a baby when she is independent as in when she is an adult. Abortions are inexpensive and even free based on income needs and pretty easy to do and recover from. Then you get to go on and pursue your education and set yourself up in life to be in a great place when you decide to begin a family. So, this is one option to think about.
Then there is the option of adoption. This is really a beautiful option and gives such a gift to a couple that can't have kids. Win win for all. A couple that is at a place in life to care for a child and wants nothing more is given that wonderful opportunity for you and you are able to do what is best for you at this time period in life. You'll be able to pursue school. And then down the road, you are able to begin a family of your own to care for. Now a days they have 'open adoptions' in which you can even know the child and communicate with the adoptive parents. So, this can be such an awesome choice.
The last choice to consider is to keep the baby and raise him or her on your own (well, with your boyfriend and of course the help of your parents as they will most likely need to be involved since you aren't independent of them yet). Now, many teen moms can make this work. It takes a lot of planning and is hard, I can not lie. You'll have significant struggles. But again, teen moms seem to do it and things turn out fine. Make every effort to stay in school and get that education no matter how that is because this is the ticket to taking away some of the struggle down the road. So, if you have decided to keep the baby or are making that decision, get plans together for who will watch the baby, where you will live, what you'll do about school (do not drop out and get further education PLEASE), etc.
So, think realistically about your options and choose what is the right choice for you sweetie. take care
Well, first, I think you mean you are six weeks pregnant? Your period was due two weeks ago, right? so, you'd be six weeks (as you start counting on the first day of the last cycle which starts with day one being the first day of your last period).
What you need to do is think about your options realistically and then pick which one is the best for you. No one can force you to do anything. YOU have to choose what will be best for you.
You have options to consider-- termination or abortion is one. This is a good one when it is just not a good time to give birth to a baby. This happens if it would absolutely disrupt your life in a way you don't want to deal with or 'can't ' deal with. There is no shame in choosing this option because it does set a woman free from what could be a bad situation for her. Then a woman can go on to have a baby when she is independent as in when she is an adult. Abortions are inexpensive and even free based on income needs and pretty easy to do and recover from. Then you get to go on and pursue your education and set yourself up in life to be in a great place when you decide to begin a family. So, this is one option to think about.
Then there is the option of adoption. This is really a beautiful option and gives such a gift to a couple that can't have kids. Win win for all. A couple that is at a place in life to care for a child and wants nothing more is given that wonderful opportunity for you and you are able to do what is best for you at this time period in life. You'll be able to pursue school. And then down the road, you are able to begin a family of your own to care for. Now a days they have 'open adoptions' in which you can even know the child and communicate with the adoptive parents. So, this can be such an awesome choice.
The last choice to consider is to keep the baby and raise him or her on your own (well, with your boyfriend and of course the help of your parents as they will most likely need to be involved since you aren't independent of them yet). Now, many teen moms can make this work. It takes a lot of planning and is hard, I can not lie. You'll have significant struggles. But again, teen moms seem to do it and things turn out fine. Make every effort to stay in school and get that education no matter how that is because this is the ticket to taking away some of the struggle down the road. So, if you have decided to keep the baby or are making that decision, get plans together for who will watch the baby, where you will live, what you'll do about school (do not drop out and get further education PLEASE), etc.
So, think realistically about your options and choose what is the right choice for you sweetie. take care
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