Any advice?

[Jadabug55]

Well I'm 18 and my mom is kinda forcing the option of abortion on me and it makes me want to cry that she would just let a baby die like that. I just can't I can't do that. I'm perfectly stable and capable of taking care of the baby I have my GED and I'm in school getting my license to do hair before I go to college and I have a job and I'm with a guy who helps support me. He makes quite a bit of money and saves most of it. She and her friend say they I will be depending on them when I won't and it just makes me cry when I think of abortion cause it's like killing my baby before I meet them..they are alive. Ugh I don't know what to say to her and I don't know how to feel I just want to make people happy butI can't do tthat and be happy myself.

[specialmom]

Hi, well, you'll have to plea your case with your mom!  You're in a tough spot,  It sounds like you are dependent on her and would need her support to have a baby and she's basically at this point saying no.

What IS nice about abortion is that you get to go on with your life in tact.  Many women have abortions and do not regret them at all for that reason and then when they are 'ready' to start a family, they do so.

But I think it would be traumatic to be forced into an abortion though.  You have to be in agreement even if scared, nervous and doubtful about it.  

so, talk to your mom and see what your options are.  Perhaps she'll let you put the baby up for adoption.  good luck sweetie

[Jadabug55]

I currently live with her but the guy that I mentioned I'm moving in with him soon.

[luxah]

If you know you are stable enough to care for a child then do that. With the way you put your situation, I can only think that of you were to go through with an abortion, it would haunt you for the rest of your life, and thats not fair to you. It has to be your choice what you do. Are you living with her? If not then why would it matter to her if you have a baby? If you have a job, why would it matter. I understand the need and want to make others happy, but at the expense of your child, thats not right and not their choice. Even if you were 15 she still can not legally make you get an abortion, just like now. If you don't live with her, then ignore her till you know you can talk to her about the baby. If you live with her then that could be difficult,  but its still your choice. Good lucl hun, and I'm sorry she's not being more supportive.

[Jadabug55]

Yeah I know my mom wants best but abortion isn't a good option for me. I would cry for the rest of my life with guilt on my back about killing a poor baby. All I think about when I hear abortion is when my dog gave birth to dead puppies and all it does is make me cry. I believe in life. Life not killing.

[ciaramarieg]

I'm glad you're thinking right and aren't getting an abortion! I think it's very mean and unfair of your mom to be acting that way towards you, I'd be very upset as well. If you're 18 then you're legal to do what you want anyways! Congrats and goodluck with everything!

[kate09_bordenbaby]

Hunny a baby is always a blessing never a bad thing if anything choose adoption if u don't think u can Handel it bc I had to go to the hospital and I'm only 8 weeks and they did an ultrasound and my baby has a heart beat and it's strong and your Mom can't make u do that!!  There's alot u can do u can be emancipated