Doubt: Everyone Saying Abortion Is The Only Option

[InkandHoney]

So, I'm 7 weeks along and going through this pregnancy alone. I find that my family is so quick to refer to abortion as an option when honestly I've never thought about it until now. They are filling my head with so much doubt and fear it's making it difficult to even enjoy my first pregnancy.  I understand that this road won't be easy,  but I've always believed I was a strong individual. They're telling me I'm bringing my child into a broken home since the father will most likely not be present and that I'm far too young to care for a child.  They used to praise me constantly on my independence and intelligence now it seems the way they once viewed me is being thrown to the side.

Do you believe I can do this on my own?  How can they expect me to terminate when I've already heard my child's beautiful heartbeat..

[luxah]

I checked your other posts and terminating your baby doesn't seem to me what you wanna do. And in the end thats what it comes down to. I was never in a situation like this because before I became sexually active my mother upfront told me I would have tp give my child up for adoption (as my family( and I) are against abortion) and even though I laid down and still did it I was terrified and if I had become pregnant I don't know how I would have been able to give up my baby. But in the end it woulda been my choice. You are the mother of the child, its your choice. I wish you luck.

[specialmom]

How old are you?  Do you have a job and are you financially independent?  Just curious about these things to help if I can as they are important when planning on whether or not to have a baby.  

[pewterdragon]

I had an abortion when I was young, best decision I ever made, no regrets at all because of my situation then, now I'm married, we have our own home, and 36 weeks along with a baby girl.  I couldn't be happier.  Think real hard before u make a decision.

[Lindsayanna]

Girl you got this! This is your baby don't let anyone tell u what to do. Prove them all wrong I know you can do this! Keep ur head up and give that baby the beat life you can. They will love and appreciate you for the rest of your life.

[Marieemichelle]

You can defffently do it on your own :)
My mom did it with 4 kids!!! When my husband & I would argue a lot to the points where we were about to leave each other , I would tell her that I'm scared of doing it on my own . Her response " I did it with 4 kids , what makes you think you can't do it with just One ?" & it's true.
But hopefully your family will come around , enjoy your pregnancy even if they don't , they will eventually .

[momof2expectingsept]

Ima tell you wat the ladies on here told me yesterday. Anything Ima possible. I'm a single mom of 2 and expecting baby #3 September 22. I have my days were its hard and I feel like breaking down but you have to stay strong for your baby. Being a mother is a beautiful thing. And I wouldn't trade it in the world. Don't let no one bring you down or doubt you. You can do it:)

[mommajazzy]

girl, I recommend you read the book the atonement Child... I think  might help

[reshaytito]

I Dont believe in abortion I was sixteen when I got pregnant with my first child and every one asked if I was going to keep it..its your choice I keeled my baby because I played there and this was a consequence for my actions and your never alone it may be hard for your family to accept at first but as you progress they will be your shoulder good luck ma everything will be okay

[kouklaxo]

You can do anything when you put your mind to it. My mother for both of my pregnancies told me to get an abortion. Im strictly against abortion, like my father and grandmother *who would have killed me* i have a beautiful soon to be 6 year old (fridays his birthday) and im 35 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. My mom started coming around to the kids during my 7th month of pregnancy for both. I may not be a single mom of 2, but my husband isnt the father of my son i had to do it alone. In the end its your choice, no one can force you to do whah you do not want to do.

[alicesaidwhat]

Do you accept that the father might not be a part of your baby's life? Your parents praised you for being intelligent, so do some self reflecting. Do you feel capable of sacrificing your freedom to raise another person? The choice will always be yours, don't feel pushed to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Your parents might be upset now, but if you show that you're an adult and can live with the consequences of an adult decision then I'm sure they'll warm up to it. It's hard when a parent sees their baby not as a baby anymore. I know it hurts that they're pushing this on you, but they're probably just worried for their baby like you're worried for yours. Do some soul searching, watch teen mom, babysit, be around young parents. See what life they live, and then you can decide if that's what you're up for. Good luck! Just know that any decision you make is the right decision for you. Feel confident in what you choose. Like the stoics believe, everything happens for a reason and that reason is almost always good!

[ms_naye]

It's hard at first but you will make It through this. I'm a single mother of two girls and it wasn't a easy road. Your family will eventually come around and be more supportive.  Just stay positive and enjoy bringing a child into this world. Just know now it's not all about you anymore and you have to consider someone else in your life.  Good luck.

[Rachel2012]

Obviously this is completely your choice, but if I could give you any advice it would be to follow your heart.

I had an abortion 6 years ago when I was 17 years old the at the time boyfriend threatened me and pushed me into going through with it telling me that if I didn't he would beat the baby out of me.

I did not want a baby with that guy, but since I have regretted it that poor baby could have had a life and it would have been loved with no father regardless. It doesn't matter at what time baby comes you just work around it I had my first child at 21 after I finished my quals and I had a job.

I thought that was best but since I decided to go down a different career path I have been going to college whilst my daughter has been little and I have deferred university for a year. I am no longer with baby's dad it turned out he wasn't right for me but that's ok, he is an olright guy and sees our daughter twice a week.

I am back with my first ever boyfriend now who I had always felt for, he fathers Mia in our home and we are now due our second. We are engaged and due to get married after baby is born.

My point is I thought I should wait until I was in a stable place to have a child but when will that be.. Whatever position you are in your life things will work out it will be hard yes but so worth it. Your baby has the right to love when I was 21 I had people asking if I was keeping 'it' and that annoyed me because that should not be the first thing to come out of someone's mouth. After having my daughter I could never abort again to know I stopped a life from living who was part of me is very hard for me to come to terms with.

No matter how hard it is think about you and YOUR baby you can do it and you do have the strength. Sorry for the essay and the best of luck with your journey.xxx

[minimistyy]

I believe you can do it ! I think you'll be fine (: abortion isn't the only option .... Just enjoy your first pregnancy girl . It would be hard on me if they kept telling me that after hearing my baby's heartbeat ): if you think you can do it or try then go for it ! If you don't , there is always adoption or open adoption . Keep your head up (:

[mrenee16]

Love, dont be swayed in any direction. You and only can make the decision and determine what you are capable of. My mother raised me and my sister by herself and we have done far better than most children who were raised on a one parent home. No it wasnt easy but it was alays worth it. A child is not a burden it is a blessing any one who says other wise should shut up. If you want to go the abortion or adoption route that is fine but let it be your decision. Just sit down and have a discussion with yourself... and YOU decide what you are going to do. At this time no ones opinion matters but yours. And no matter what you choose you will have a support system

[lizzieMac0612]

Girl there are a lot of women who raise children alone. My mom raised to so there is no doubt in my mind that you could do it. And if you truly think that you can't adoption is a better option

[KyandKay]

Yea You can do it alone. My mom ended up doing it with 3 when our dad walked out. It wasn't easy but she made it possible. Stay focused, work hard and it'll play out