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11w 6d. abortion ?! help please. need advice.
I'm 11w 6d and i really don't want to have the baby. I really want an abortion. But my mom will not let me. Plus i can't afford it. I thought about adoption and my mom said she would take it but I live with her and i wouldn't wanna be in the same house as the baby. I need advice. Please help.
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People's opinions on abortion might not be relevant to your own life and decision to be made. I'm sure this is very hard for you and you have your reasons for contemplating abortion.
So, if you have thought out the choice to terminate, this should be something you can have done. It is very unfortunate that your mom is saying she 'won't let you'. How old are you? Clearly you are still under her care. Do you need consent in your state? That can make it difficult and I'm sorry about that.
But you do NOT have to let her adopt the baby. I agree that for many people this would be very difficult. You'd still be the mom and it would be a constant reminder of a mistake you've made in life. Your mom can not bully you into making you keep custody of the baby or turn it over to her. I would --- on your own--- call an adoption attorney or someplace like Catholic Social Services. They may have suggestions for you in terms of how to put the baby up for adoption so that the baby doesn't live with you.
As to termination, call Planned Parenthood. They sometimes can bypass things like parental consent and then it is just a matter of funds to do the procedure. Often they have ways to work around that as well because the bottom line is that pro choice clinics try to make abortion available to any young woman seeking it.
Forcing you to have a child is something that I would think your mom would understand is a bit much to ask. So, tell her that this is not what you want. Nothing changes the trajectory of a young girl's life more than having a baby. And there is no shame in not wanting your life to go in that direction.
So, hurry and look at what your options are. I'll help if I can. good luck
So, if you have thought out the choice to terminate, this should be something you can have done. It is very unfortunate that your mom is saying she 'won't let you'. How old are you? Clearly you are still under her care. Do you need consent in your state? That can make it difficult and I'm sorry about that.
But you do NOT have to let her adopt the baby. I agree that for many people this would be very difficult. You'd still be the mom and it would be a constant reminder of a mistake you've made in life. Your mom can not bully you into making you keep custody of the baby or turn it over to her. I would --- on your own--- call an adoption attorney or someplace like Catholic Social Services. They may have suggestions for you in terms of how to put the baby up for adoption so that the baby doesn't live with you.
As to termination, call Planned Parenthood. They sometimes can bypass things like parental consent and then it is just a matter of funds to do the procedure. Often they have ways to work around that as well because the bottom line is that pro choice clinics try to make abortion available to any young woman seeking it.
Forcing you to have a child is something that I would think your mom would understand is a bit much to ask. So, tell her that this is not what you want. Nothing changes the trajectory of a young girl's life more than having a baby. And there is no shame in not wanting your life to go in that direction.
So, hurry and look at what your options are. I'll help if I can. good luck
I honestly don't believe in abortions , I believe ghat you laud down and got pregnant and that innocent baby shouldn't be harmed for your mistake because at 11 weeks your baby is in the fetal stage doesn't look like a tad poll it can actually bend it's wrist and suck it's thumb . I'm 10 weeks with my second baby. Really think about adoption . My friend had a abortion and went into serious depression afterwords regretting every moment of it .
I think everything happens for a reason so just sit dwn a think about it before u make big decisions a baby is really a life changing experience
I think you should keep the child. With the support/help of your mom you will be a wonderful mother.
Not to be mean at all but if ur mom wants to adopt the baby and you don't want to be around it Why not you move out?
Didn't you just post this? And they ended discussion on it... I think maybe you should take this concern to your doctor
I know this might be a difficult time for you , but please don't abort that baby I know right now it may seem the best thing not to have a baby but God has a plan for you and the baby. There is a reason you're having a baby.
I do not belive in abortion but your looking for advice on it you can have one I belive tell 13 weeks that's in California farther along would be an operation and that'd just very sad you should research it.
I would think about adoption with a non family member if you really never want to be involved with the baby. That way you would never have any regrets but would never have to see it again.
I know it's a hard thing to deal with and when it comes down to it it's your choice no one else though Idk if your to far along or not. You can find a planed parenthood clinic and they do abortions. I'm pro life myself but I'm not you.
Just do adoption with a non family member. Your mom will most likely show resentment to you regardless by either giving it to a stranger or her raising yet another child, so pleasing her 100% probably isn't in the cards. You need to do what's right for the baby not her or yourself. I'm pro choice but you made the mistake and got pregnant and are actually pretty far along, past the point where most women have miscarriages and would be more than happy to adopt your baby
Have you thought about adoption? In my opinion not trying to sound mean, but if she is willing to take care of the child why would you not want it to live? Now I believe every woman has a choice and should never be forced to do anything, but you are being given a wonderful opportunity for your baby.
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