Induce

[Eunique1988]

Can I ask my doctor to induce my labor at 26 weeks due to the health problems with my baby. I don't wont to put child through pain all her life

[jennymeaney]

What health problems? Wud inducing so early help baby or cause health problems to be worse?x

[mommabeans1983]

Induce labor why? A doctor can't just induce labor because there is a health issue with the baby and you don't want him or her anymore. And inducing at 26 weeks means the baby is more likely to have even more health issues in the future... Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like you're looking for a late term abortion? Which is illegal in most, if not all, states.

[Eunique1988]

Yes late term abortion is illegal but the health problems are bad and can cause my child to have to suffer and go through surgery all her life. I want to end my preganacy because I dont won't her to hurt  and the reason it's late is because they just told me a few days ago

[jennymeaney]

Whats is wrong with her? Thats so sad.x

[Eunique1988]

I don't wont to get judge about my decision I just needed someone to talk

[jennymeaney]

Im not judging at all dont worry.. just wondering what is wrong to make u think this?x

[Eunique1988]

she has spina bifida and hydrocephalus

[Eunique1988]

I never thought about giving up my child but I don't won't her to have to suffer so many problems she will have and I have two other children which will cause them to suffer to

[jennymeaney]

Oh my goodness... could they be wrong?x

[Eunique1988]

No they say they sure.

[jennymeaney]

I honestly dont think the doctor will allow you to be induced now. Have you tried talking to them about what to expect and the difficulties she may have. She will probably have to have a shunt fitted shortlyafter birth to drain fluid from the brain... this will have to be changed but not very often providingthere are no complications. Im so sorry for your daughter and you... it wont be easy but im not sure there are many other options but to take care of her as best u can.x

[Eunique1988]

yes I did talk to them about all the problems she might have and the list is long because of the type of spina bifida and where it's located.

[jennymeaney]

Im so sorry I cant say or do anything to help I jyst really hope you and your family find the strength to cope and care for your new baby and that you can all live a happy family life.x

[BLESSEDwith5tobe]

Omg that is terrible!! I couldn't imagine going through something like this! Have you thought about open adoption. Its just an option but maybe you can find a family for her that could take care of her the way she is going to need and open adoption for you and your kids to still be in her life ... Idk just a thought I would consider if I was in your situation. I'm so sorry for you I will pray for the both of you!

[jaloveslorelei]

I don't understand why you think this baby would be better off dead?

[Eunique1988]

Thanks and yes adoption is the next thing I'm considering it's just hurt because I wish I was able to give her the care and support she will need but im just not able to

[jaloveslorelei]

Oh there is a long list, from what I know of both conditions a person can live a good functional life. I guess hers is more severe.

[phxmommy]

So basically u want to ask the Dr to kill your child, I know someone that has spinabifida and is a fully functioning 31 almost 32 year old. Yes the child may experience pain but would u rather her not have the chance to experience life? I'm sorry if this is harsh but I don't think it is ever OK to kill a child. Honestly it sounds like u are more worried about the problems it will cause u and your other children. If u don't want to or can't care for the child give her up for adoption. I have a son with health issues that he and our family deal with daily, but he is a very happy guy and most can't tell anything wrong with him bc of how smiley he is. Again I'm sorry for the  harsh words.

[jennymeaney]

I tjink thats a really good idea... you are the mother and know what is best for your baby and if adoption is what you deem best then I think its a selfless act. I think the comment above is unfair. U cant possibly judge unless u are in that situation yourself... I couldnt even imagine.

[BLESSEDwith5tobe]

I understand that is a lot to deal with especially having other kids and they are kids that probably wouldn't understand at the moment why the baby is sick and needs so much. I know that this is going to be the hardest decision you will probably ever have to make in your life! But I think that the open adoption would be the best. You can still be in your babies life and I'm sure there is a great family out there that can take care of her in the ways that you feel you can't and its OK that is a lot to deal with!! How does the daddy feel about this?

[lurooney]

Oh im so sorry to hear about your baby..i dont believe in abortion but i totally have compassion towards your situation,thats got to be such heartbreaking news to get..whatever you decide i wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prayers x

[Eunique1988]

These are some of the problems she can have with spina bifida Leg weakness and paralysis
Orthopedic abnormalities (i.e., club foot, hip dislocation, scoliosis)
Bladder and bowel control problems, including incontinence, urinary tract infections, and poor renal function
Pressure sores and skin irritations
Abnormal eye movement[16]

[Eunique1988]

These are the problems she can have with her hydrcephalus Muscular: problems with coordination, stiff muscles, or abnormality walking
Cognitive: mental confusion or amnesia
Whole body: nausea or balance disorder
Also common: blurred vision, headache, delayed development, irritability, high pitched cry, sleepiness, leaking of urine, vomiting, enlargement of head, or tense fontanelle

[Eunique1988]

I respect everybodies opinion but this isnt easy for me I did reaserch on but of her problems and yes some kids do live fairly normal lives but she has the sever one in both