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Did anyone recently find out they're pregnant? I'm 20 and in college. I want to keep my baby but i don't want to lose my scholarship. I'm torn. I heard ghost stories of people who had abortions and couldn't get pregnant after that.
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The stories of people not being able to have babies after are very unlikely. If a woman has routine abortions, possibly scar tissue can build up but in general, abortions are NOT associated with later fertility issues so don't worry about that.
I had a good friend in college get pregnant by her boyfriend. She too was torn. In the end, she had an abortion as she really wanted to be in a better position in life to raise a child. She went on to graduate college. have a successful career, met a man, fell in love, they married and planned a family which she now has. very happy and her life would have been completely different if she had gotten off her chosen path when in college.
I don't think you'll lose your scholarship if you are pregnant as that is really discrimination so I'd check into that. But taking care of a baby and being in college would not be ideal.
So, make sure you have the facts. I don't think it would haunt you. Sure, it does some women but many make a rational, mature decision to abort based on their life goals and circumstances and then go on to have families when ready.
take care and good luck
I had a good friend in college get pregnant by her boyfriend. She too was torn. In the end, she had an abortion as she really wanted to be in a better position in life to raise a child. She went on to graduate college. have a successful career, met a man, fell in love, they married and planned a family which she now has. very happy and her life would have been completely different if she had gotten off her chosen path when in college.
I don't think you'll lose your scholarship if you are pregnant as that is really discrimination so I'd check into that. But taking care of a baby and being in college would not be ideal.
So, make sure you have the facts. I don't think it would haunt you. Sure, it does some women but many make a rational, mature decision to abort based on their life goals and circumstances and then go on to have families when ready.
take care and good luck
My sister had an abortion in 2012 and was pregnant 5 months later. Abortion is scary I'm sure but do what's best for you. If its not time to have a baby then don't have it. I've never had an abortion myself but if I ever felt that was something I needed to do I wouldn't want to hear a bunch of judgment. Do what feels right. If it isn't time then don't have it. If you feel like you can do it then have the baby. But either way think long and hard and do what is the right choice for you
It is completely possible to be pregnant while in college. I found out I was pregnant late September 2012, and I delivered a healthy baby boy May 23 , 2013. My last final was May 12. It was hard but you can do it.
However, raising a baby while is in school is tough! I have an extremely supportive, helpful husband and my family helps a lot, too. Without them I could not do it. That being said, it's your job to give your baby his/her best chance. Adoption is a great choice, too.
However, raising a baby while is in school is tough! I have an extremely supportive, helpful husband and my family helps a lot, too. Without them I could not do it. That being said, it's your job to give your baby his/her best chance. Adoption is a great choice, too.
As others have said, it is your choice. Personally I'm 100% against it. I was 15, almost 16 when I got pregnant. Even though I was severly depressed at the time and still in high school abortion didn't even cross my mind, just because I couldn't imagine ending a life- my childs at that. I'm now 40 weeks today and she could arrive any minute. I feel like the decision made me so much stronger as a person, and deciding to keep her helped me get through a lot. Good luck to you! :)
Abortion is one hundred percent up to you. That is a decision you should make based on your own opinion and not those of others. I personally think you should keep your baby though. It's scary being young and balancing everything at such a young age.. but it isn't impossible
If you want to keep the baby then i say keep it. Im 18 in my second semester of college on scholarship and 27 weeks pregnant. Its hard but its possible. And once baby is born you have that much more reason to push yourself to do well in school and a lot of schools have daycare programs for girls going to school and that have kids
The "Ghost Stories" are not true I had an abortion a few years back for my own personal reasons. And I am now 18 weeks pregnant. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
It's pretty rare for abortion to cause problems with later pregnancies but if you choose to have one they will go over the risk. If you aren't very far along you can take the pill form.
No.matter what you decide though it is your choice!
I was in college full time on scholarship along with my husband. We got custody of my 13 year old sister (we were 21 and yeah I know uts not the same as a baby) and we had two dogs. I was working full time as a preschool teacher and my mom was in and out of the hospital with cancer and heart failure. It is hard to balance everything but just because yiu have a lot on your plate doesn't mean you will lose the scholarship. You will need to work extra hard and you will go wothout sleep but if you are fetermined you can do it. There are also programs that will give you day care vouchers if you are under a certain income. keep the baby if you want it because if you want it now you may end up regretting it if you abort. My sister had an abortion a few years ago because she was in school, wasnt working, and had no family support but she regretted it and ended up getting depressed and went to alcohol. It took her years to recover but now she is better and has a beautiful 18 month old daughter.
Please keep the life of your little one...you may not know why now but there is a reason that you are the mother of that child. Let it experience your love.
Adoption is always an option.
It happens. If you think youll even slightly regret it dont do it or youll end up hating yourself. Adoption is a happier ending but it may affect school life :/ this is all you. Plenty of women can concieve after abortion.
I'm not proud to say but I had an abortion and a year later almost exactly i got pregnant again.....it was a terrible experience tho I told myself i will never do that too myself again so when I got pregnant I stepped up to the plate and taking care of my business. I'm 23yrs old and now 21wks and in college balancing things with work as well. I think you will really regret it if you do go through with the abortion. But good luck hun! It's all your choice in the end.
Its totally your choice i no of women who have had abortions and then gone on to have children, speak to your doctor. And the end of the day it is your choice dont let anybody else bully you into it people have there own opinions and dont agree with it but just block them out every bodys situation is different.
If you are already wanting to keep the baby you should. Otherwise, you are going to regret it I think. Especially since you are conflicted about it.
I Think if u want ur baby u should keep it. I know ur scholarship is important 2 u but babies r a blessing and everything happens for a reason!
If u want your baby keep your baby I had an abortion before nothing I'm proud of nun I will ever do again but a year later I got pregnant again I'm 36+2 I'm in college too I'm 22 and I'm balancing it all
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