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Need of Comfot please help
I have a situation where its not good i Love my baby im 12 weeks and my husband is basically forcing me to have an abortion in order to stay and live with him, We have a 1 yr old and hes emotionally abusive to me to where i just feel so alone and cry every night. But its no better with my parents they are just as emotionally abusive and negetive to me and will kick me out if they find out im pregnant again. my husband and parenyts are in a war for taxes and its just a situation that isnt good and i cry every night because i don have a choice to get an abortion and i dont want one i just cry and cry i have noone and i dont want to kill my baby :'( i know it feels pain and i know by 12 weeks it gets ripped apart i dont know how i can live with myself knowing i did that. All my husband keeps saying is '' ill be by your side thru it all ill be there for you'' but i just dont know what else to do :'( i just cant stop thinking about how im gonna be so depressed after i know my baby loves me and i love it so much... What is the feeling when the abortion is all over?
Abortion is an option and so is adoption and raising the baby. The funny thing and the greatest thing about options are, they are totally and completely up to you. It is your choice. Something as important as having an abortion should not be based on any other factor or person, rather than what you deem as the best decision for you and that baby. The onus is on you to assess the situation in its entirety. You mentioned that you have a 1 year old and so for a variety reasons, finances probably being at the top of the list, I can understand why your husband might not be crazy about adding another baby to the mix at the moment. On the other hand, if you can see a clear path and you want this, then you have to make the choice you feel is best. Mothers become attached almost instantly, sometimes before they even take the test. So I can understand why you are feeling depressed.
Please bear in mind though that stressing yourself out is neither good for mommy nor baby.
Anna --
Please bear in mind though that stressing yourself out is neither good for mommy nor baby.
Anna --
i know i sound miserably heartless.. I do not know what love is i have a big big heart big i close it out of my mind and force myself to stop
thank you very much for that i can call but im afriad he can get into troubles?
i do not. My parents have paid for me and my daughter the whole year she has been born but the emtoional pain from them it makes me need to live with my husband.
I had a ultrasound done at maybe 10 week of the baby i think its a baby boy i just want to know how to just exit that picture out of my mind and where to put it so i cant see .. i just am lost im sorry for the rant just have until wed my appointment to decided :(
i do not. My parents have paid for me and my daughter the whole year she has been born but the emtoional pain from them it makes me need to live with my husband.
I had a ultrasound done at maybe 10 week of the baby i think its a baby boy i just want to know how to just exit that picture out of my mind and where to put it so i cant see .. i just am lost im sorry for the rant just have until wed my appointment to decided :(
COMMUNITY LEADER
Here is the national domestic abuse hotline. That he choked you is an issue. That you can't get away is an issue.
http://www.thehotline.org/
1800799SAFE (7233).
Do you have any way of making money on your own?
http://www.thehotline.org/
1800799SAFE (7233).
Do you have any way of making money on your own?
I am located in WPB south Florida in the states. Ive undergone pain after pain after broken heart after cutting myslf after holding a bottle of pain killers just needing to go, my husband has only chocked me one time before he has never ever hit me or anything like that. 5 or 6 months ago we moved to Las Vegas NV and he accually hurt me so badly ( emotionally ) i misscary and i remember crying and just laying in bed feleing so awful then him he just was so cruel i was forced to get over it, My brain just gets over the pain im Numb im WRECKED i dont think its safe for a baby to be in my womb feeling the same way i do :(
COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes, I too am sorry for your pain. At 12 weeks, depending on where you live, you are coming to the end of time in which some places will even perform an abortion. I know many women have abortions an it is the right choice for them but the WOMAN has to come to this conclusion about it herself. No one should force a woman to have an abortion.
He is verbally/mentally abusive or does he hurt you? Just questioning to understand your safety issue.
Do you live in the states? We have programs here that help those who have significant financial issues get by. This could be you, I'm assuming if you do not have your husband's income. There are shelters that you can go to if in the states and I can provide you a number for a hotline that is national. Be careful though as you don't want your husband to get wind of any plans you have to leave and then take some drastic action. So, go to the library and use that public computer there or something like that.
Anyway, women can qualify for Medicaid, WIC, and government assistance. Even housing. You have to apply but if you go through a shelter, they can set you in the right direction. There will also be discussion about schooling for you so that you can get a good paying job to support yourself and child(ren). Then you are not dependent on anyone.
He can not force you to have an abortion. I would resist and make plans for escape. Hide 10 dollars a week (more if you can) to plot your exit.
Again, help me help you by telling me where you live. (not specifically but if in the US, for example). You can do it by private message if you wish. good luck
He is verbally/mentally abusive or does he hurt you? Just questioning to understand your safety issue.
Do you live in the states? We have programs here that help those who have significant financial issues get by. This could be you, I'm assuming if you do not have your husband's income. There are shelters that you can go to if in the states and I can provide you a number for a hotline that is national. Be careful though as you don't want your husband to get wind of any plans you have to leave and then take some drastic action. So, go to the library and use that public computer there or something like that.
Anyway, women can qualify for Medicaid, WIC, and government assistance. Even housing. You have to apply but if you go through a shelter, they can set you in the right direction. There will also be discussion about schooling for you so that you can get a good paying job to support yourself and child(ren). Then you are not dependent on anyone.
He can not force you to have an abortion. I would resist and make plans for escape. Hide 10 dollars a week (more if you can) to plot your exit.
Again, help me help you by telling me where you live. (not specifically but if in the US, for example). You can do it by private message if you wish. good luck
I am very sorry to hear the turmoil that you are in and have no support from your husband nor your family.
You do not say which country you live in. Perhaps you can look at the telephone directory or on line to find a women's refuge to help you.
I would not believe that you husband will stand by you. He is not standing by you right now and is demanding that you abort your baby.
It is up to you to make that decision. You already have an attachment to your unborn baby and feel very hurt and sad about people putting pressure on you to terminate the pregnancy. It will not get any better once you have abortion.
You will forever have it prey on your mind and will likely suffer very badly emotionally that you may even get a nervous break down.
Living in a abusive relationship is no good for your health or that of your 1 year old.
You certainly need help, but no doubt you don't feel strong enough to report his emotional abuse to the authorities.
Make an appointment to see your doctor on your own, and talk the options that are open to you about getting help to get away from your abusive husband.
And, yes you DO have a choice whether you have an abortion or not. You need to be strong and not be BULLIED into doing something that you will regret for the rest of your life.
You desperately need help to get away from your manipulative husband.
Don't be fooled about him standing by you. If he is already emotionally abusive and demanding that you have an abortion, then he will not change.
Make an appointment to see your doctor and him about the women's refuge places or other authorities that ensure the women is safe.
Sorry that I am not able to give you any more information of what may be available for you, but hope that another member will pick up your post and have some more options for you to be safe.
Best wishes.
You do not say which country you live in. Perhaps you can look at the telephone directory or on line to find a women's refuge to help you.
I would not believe that you husband will stand by you. He is not standing by you right now and is demanding that you abort your baby.
It is up to you to make that decision. You already have an attachment to your unborn baby and feel very hurt and sad about people putting pressure on you to terminate the pregnancy. It will not get any better once you have abortion.
You will forever have it prey on your mind and will likely suffer very badly emotionally that you may even get a nervous break down.
Living in a abusive relationship is no good for your health or that of your 1 year old.
You certainly need help, but no doubt you don't feel strong enough to report his emotional abuse to the authorities.
Make an appointment to see your doctor on your own, and talk the options that are open to you about getting help to get away from your abusive husband.
And, yes you DO have a choice whether you have an abortion or not. You need to be strong and not be BULLIED into doing something that you will regret for the rest of your life.
You desperately need help to get away from your manipulative husband.
Don't be fooled about him standing by you. If he is already emotionally abusive and demanding that you have an abortion, then he will not change.
Make an appointment to see your doctor and him about the women's refuge places or other authorities that ensure the women is safe.
Sorry that I am not able to give you any more information of what may be available for you, but hope that another member will pick up your post and have some more options for you to be safe.
Best wishes.
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