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Should i keep it...
I'm only 18 and one side of my family is pushing for an abortion and the other is pushing me to keep it. My boyfriend is in the military and supports me with whatever I decide. I'm scared and 11 weeks along.. It kills me to give it up but I'm scared I can't take care of my child.
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Let me just say that abortion is an option that women have in this country. There is no shame in having an abortion if it is the best choice for a woman. It can be a good option for someone and no one can say otherwise just because they have a blanket opinion about abortion and say NEVER consider it. Those same people will not be there to help you hon. So, this is about you.
Now, no one can tell you what to do. Sometimes it IS better to terminate if you don't want to go through a pregnancy and would like to resume your life quickly. The procedure is not that expensive or difficult and most women who have an abortion may attach some sadness to it but rarely regret it. It can simply not be a good time in life to start a family and when they are in a better spot, they can then go on to start their family. When you are dead set against abortion and are coerced into having one, that is when it is not a good choice for a woman and she does it any way.
But no shame in picking termination.
there is also adoption. This is a good choice for a woman that doesn't mind going through a whole pregnancy. Pregnancy is tough,, no doubt about it. So, that choice isn't for everyone. But can be a really beautiful option for birth mother and child as well as a couple who can't have a baby. Talk to an adoption attorney if this is the route you want to take.
Now, keeping the baby. It concerns me that you say you can't take care of it. I will tell you that motherhood is the hardest thing I've ever done. By far. And I was married, established financially and my pregnancies were planned. Still, really hard. But worth it for me. You'd probably rise to the occasion of motherhood hon. But you'd need careful planning and thoughtfulness to make it all work if it isn't the best time.
So, think about your options. I promise you, no one here knows what is best for you. No one can say don't abort, abort, give the baby up for adoption or have it . . . it's not for us to decide. It's all about you and what feels most right. Try to be practical though. When pregnant we get caught up in emotions that sometimes might cloud better judgment. peace and luck to you.
And I am here to discuss at any point whichever option you choose. Happy to help hon
Now, no one can tell you what to do. Sometimes it IS better to terminate if you don't want to go through a pregnancy and would like to resume your life quickly. The procedure is not that expensive or difficult and most women who have an abortion may attach some sadness to it but rarely regret it. It can simply not be a good time in life to start a family and when they are in a better spot, they can then go on to start their family. When you are dead set against abortion and are coerced into having one, that is when it is not a good choice for a woman and she does it any way.
But no shame in picking termination.
there is also adoption. This is a good choice for a woman that doesn't mind going through a whole pregnancy. Pregnancy is tough,, no doubt about it. So, that choice isn't for everyone. But can be a really beautiful option for birth mother and child as well as a couple who can't have a baby. Talk to an adoption attorney if this is the route you want to take.
Now, keeping the baby. It concerns me that you say you can't take care of it. I will tell you that motherhood is the hardest thing I've ever done. By far. And I was married, established financially and my pregnancies were planned. Still, really hard. But worth it for me. You'd probably rise to the occasion of motherhood hon. But you'd need careful planning and thoughtfulness to make it all work if it isn't the best time.
So, think about your options. I promise you, no one here knows what is best for you. No one can say don't abort, abort, give the baby up for adoption or have it . . . it's not for us to decide. It's all about you and what feels most right. Try to be practical though. When pregnant we get caught up in emotions that sometimes might cloud better judgment. peace and luck to you.
And I am here to discuss at any point whichever option you choose. Happy to help hon
I totally agree with nancyy27, and just like another user stated. Adoption would be the best idea. At this time your baby has a heartbeat and is considered a human. Your child deserves a chance at life just like your mom and dad gave you a chance by you being here. We all make mistakes but thats apart of growing up and being responsible..... I don't judge you I leave that u to whomever you serve(spiritually) but please please think about it. There are so many couples that try and try to concieve and it just doesn't come so easy to them. So if you're not ready hey, be a blessing to a family that is ready and wanting a baby. Infants get adopted a lot quicker than older children. Or would a family member on either side consider keeping the child in the family and adopt him/her. I definitely wish you ALL the best and will be praying you make the best decision for you and your baby.
Good luck
Xoxo
Good luck
Xoxo
I was 15 when I got pregnant with my first son , I was terrified. No job still in school and had no clue what to do. I kept him , he will be 6 in June and it was the best choice I ever made! I am now 22 , married and having my third boy. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world.
I agree with annag1991
I'm totally against abortion. A lot of women are not ready to have a child but that doesn't mean they won't be able to take care of it. You have your bf who's supporting you. And you also have family who are telling you to keep it. You won't be alone. Your baby deserves a chance to live.
If your bf is in the military - not to force marriage but if you guys do get married you will have all of the resources to care for that child..and if he is active duty military even better. The child as well as you will have insurance and he will have a steady income every 2 weeks as well as a housing allowance to get a house or apartment. I'm not sure if you've all considered marriage but I think you will be more than able to give that child a good life.
Also, if you want someone to talk to you're more than welcome to send me a message. :)
No one can tell you what to do. This is your baby! If you want him/her, then it's simple. Of course you're going to be scared, but that's completely normal! I was terrified when I found out! I personally don't believe in abortion, but if you decide that's what you want, that's fine too. Just think, you have a little person inside of you, wanting nothing but love. If you got an untrasound, you would see a little face, hands and feet.
I'm only 17, I was 11 weeks and 3 days when I found out I was pregnant. I'll be 18 not long after my little one is born. With 11 days to go, I couldn't be more excited to meet him.
Please don't let anyone decide this for you. Go with what your heart tells you. If your partner is supportive, you don't need anyone else's opinion.
Good luck and congratulations!!
I'm only 17, I was 11 weeks and 3 days when I found out I was pregnant. I'll be 18 not long after my little one is born. With 11 days to go, I couldn't be more excited to meet him.
Please don't let anyone decide this for you. Go with what your heart tells you. If your partner is supportive, you don't need anyone else's opinion.
Good luck and congratulations!!
It's your choice not anyone else's . Abortions are tough I have had one and was one of the hardest decisions I have made. I don't regret it though. But I was quite emotional for some time afterwards. It's all well and good for people to say put it up for adoption but heaps and heaps of children don't get adopted and end up in group homes. It's a tough choice and you need to sit down and have a think about it . I wrote a letter to myself regarding my decision and I opened it 5 years later it explained why I made the choice and how I felt about it and that at the time I wasn't ready for a baby. This time around I still wrote myself a letter ( this pregnancy was unexpected just like the one before it) I wrote to myself reminding me all the things I have accomplished so far in life and why I have decided to keep this bean in my belly so that in 5 years when I have a crazy 4 year old I can read it and remind myself of why I made the decision. If you want to talk just send me a message I won't judge like other people and tell you want to do I will just shed my advice and experiance
Go with your gut instinct. If you decide to have the baby... you will be able to look after it! Your instincts will kick in and you'll know what to do. But it's your decision. Give yourself some time alone to come to your own decision. Don't let anyone make the decision for you. I knew as soon as I saw the scan that I couldn't not have my baby... but it's different for everyone! You'll be okay no matter what.
Abortion shouldn't even be considered.. if your partner supports you in your decision he's obviously ready to take responsibility and everyone is scared in the beginning but it's such a blessing just to be able to have a baby of your own..you have his family to help you if there telling you keep it..it's really all up to you..nd giving it up for adoption isn't a bad idea..better than abortion.. good luck on whatever decision you make..
Your baby has a heart beat. Don't abort it. At least give it up for adoption to a family who can't have kids. (: or keeep it(:
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