adoption or keep baby?

[alexandria15]

No rude, ignorant comments, but i'm 15 and pregnant, not even half way through with high school. Boyfriend left me. Should i keep the baby or put him/her up for adoption? The selfish side of me is saying keep the baby, and prove everybody wrong but i am very young. I need advice, keep or put him/her up for adoption.

[lrissa]

I had my baby girl two weeks BEFORE I turned 15. I no u can do it and you won't be leave how much their little faces make u grow up n be a great mom. Always focus on what's best for your baby and not u and you will do great. I had the same feelings and I was told the same thing "you had sex you pay" and that it was my choice (I knew I would be a single mom) I could never have imagined how she would change me. She's 3now and I have challenges still however I wouldn't trade my life for the richest "kid free" persons in the whole world! I am now married to a wonderful man and we are having a baby boy. So I no it will be hard but it can be done if you always put your baby 1st and the happy moments with him/her will be better than any other memory you can think of!

[expectingmommy5162014]

It's all up to you! If you think deep down inside you'll be Okay with living your life while your baby is in a adopted home do it. I wanted an abortion at first but then I realized I can't live my life knowing I made that decision! It's ultimately up to you. & forget what everyone else thinks I know a girl that had a baby at 14 with no help from the child father & that baby is now 2

[taylorshay13]

im not gonna say "do what you think is best, because you asked for advice on what to do, so I'm sure you dont know,  but honestly I think you do know what to do with that, blessing. whether its to keep em or give them to a family whod love em, in the end, its your choice. You are young(so am I) but there are many young mom's that make it. and there are many young moms that have failed. simply by choice. so you had sex at a young age, big whoop, I'm sure the girl telling you not to did as well. she likes to "know it all" on many post yet asks for help a lot.  don't worry a put her;) but anyways. many teens have sex. many teens get pregnant, its sad but honestly,  if you can do it, do ya thang:) so what if you need help? we ALL need help. we just need to humble ourselves to realize it. id like to see one lady on this site that DOESN'T need help. that lady doesnt exist. dont stress the hate. do what you think is best. I Think you can do it....but if you know you cant, then I praise you for givinf that baby a chance at lifem that alone is very mature. keep your head up mama

[amauri_mommytobe]

Do whatever you think will be best for the baby. There is always open adoption which means the baby will still know you and keep in contact. Or if you really want to keep or baby and you have a lot of support do that. Either way your child will know you made your choice out of love.

[jackiie44]

Obviously your very open, and understand the fact that you messed up. Yes maybe you shouldnt have had sex, but it happened.
Remember if ypur old enough to "have" sex you should be old enough, and mature enough to hve a baby.
But, truth is your still a baby ypur self. There are plenty of families out there that will let you be very much apart of there lives. Like you said, you have no job, car, baby daddy. And not finished with highschool. Proceeding would be a HUGE possibility of giving that baby a life you cant take care of. Although people have done it. That doesnt mean its going to be perfecr for you. A baby needs and strives for attention day and night. YOU will be the person in charge and you have to protect, feed, cloth, and make sure they meet there needs. Includeing dr apps, long nights of screaming.

Personally i LOVE being a mother. i got pregnant at 16, and turned 17 a week after having her. I was NEVER sheltered as a child and knew reality. and had not one clue is to what it took to be a mother. i do know the consequences were...
·dropped out to care for my 1year old and father
·Worked 6different on the side jobs and one part time grocery store job
·attended school(before dropping out)
·lost EVERY and i mean EVERY friend that i wven talked to in highschool...
Because well who wants a friend that has responsibility, who wants a friend that cant always hang out, drink, party. Nothing. It was all over.
·i had an extreanly had pregnancy, to where me or baby could have passed.
·8months of sweatting, hurtinf, swelling, dr appointments, uti's, PAIN, false labor, early labor PUKING lost almost 30lbs before gaining weight. And my pre pregnancy weight was 125....
Pregnancy is not always fun and cute, and even when ladies put it off as that they still have cons..

There are A MILLION AND 1ups to being a mother. But your mind and heart has to be there. I swear its the best thing thats happened to me, i now have a boy on the way, husband and a home. But i had more schooling, and relied on myself not my family.

Id say, keep your youth. And find that baby a home that will be able to give him/her verything they want and more. Because nothinf hurts worse then watching your friends walk across stage and there so proud, parents crying. And your there, with a baby. This is suppost to be the MOST proud moment of your life at 18... but proud because YOUR CHILD maybe smiled, talked, walked, or went potty on there own for the first time.
Please take everything i said under concideration because YOU made a bed that, your baby has to sleep in.

(: its really nice to know there are kids out there that recognize when they made a mistake. And DIDNT just say "abort" it. Message me if you EVER need advice or help. Any one of us ladies are willing to help you.

[kcd2013]

You do what feels right in your heart. Nobody should even try to persuade you one way or another. It's your decision. I suggest goin to an adult who you truly trust and seek out some advice or even go to a pregnancy crisis center. Good luck, girly.