considering adoption

Question

Im 31 weeks preg 22yrs old and this is my first child. I cant enjoy my pregnancy with all my financial problems my rent is 2months behind and my lights just got turned off and my job is only giving me 5hrs a week and partial unemployment is raking forever. Im gonna be a single mom with no help from my baby father, im due xmas and I cantafford anything for my baby and dont wanna brig him in a ssituation like this and feel I should had gotten abortion. I just dont know what to do with these last 9 weeks left

specialmom · Answer

I think putting a baby up for adoption is a beautiful choice.  Your heart is telling you that now is not the right time to raise a baby.  There is much that goes into raising a child.  Major financial hardship makes life very stressful for all and is indeed a difficult situation to raise a child in.  I fear if you start all sorts of assistance now due to the baby, you'll never be able to recover from that and be in need of such public financial support for many years.  I really admire that you'd rather get on your feet first before attempting to raise a child.  

Agree with above that it is such a blessing to place your child into a hope that greatly desires a baby.  

but the decision must be yours and yours alone.  peace and blessings to you

linzzzy · Answer

I actually just placed my baby for adoption 2 months ago. I had him Aug 21 and it was the hardest but vest decision I've ever made. Adoption is completely about love, loving the child so much and giving them the chance to have the best at life. I had such a great experience and we even became good friends with the couple and have an open adoption. There are so many people out there who just can't have children and so its a blessing in their life as well. Those are my short thoughts on it. whichever way you decide be strong in it and don't let other people's opinions affect you....because everyone will have their opinions. If you wanna talk more you can message me :)

shyloveskai · Answer

I made it through i similar situation. It was reallt scary and hard. We were homeless at 8 and 9 months pregnant luckily we made it work a week before she was born. And then i couldnt pay rent and lost my condo with a 2 year old and 4 months pregnant, and like i said a very similar situation. But there is always a way! Follow your heart. Things can always turn around! :)

melissaleedy0404 · Answer

And what i mean by stick w your gut is do what u feel is right and best. Youll make it work tho

melissaleedy0404 · Answer

Everything will look up hun. We struggled for a while and our daughter has had the best life we could give her. You can always find a way to make things work. Stick w your gut.and goodluck w everything

teregarcalva · Answer

Adoption is a very brave selfless thing to do. You are thinking like a mother already even though your baby has yet to arrive. Adoption sounds like a good option due to the situation your in. It gives the baby a chance at a better life than you may be able to provide and it gives a couple a baby they could never have. Whatever you choose is entirely up to you and even thinking about adoption is extremely brave of you. Good luck hun.

Nina159 · Answer

Im hoping for. The best for you and I do know you strong enough to pull forward. But at the end its completely up too you :) but their us help out there

krystalmomto3 · Answer

I think adoption is probably one of the most selfless things you could do not only for your baby but for a family that can not have children of their own. I can not imagine what you are going through but it sounds like you only want the best for your little one

misskee09 · Answer

@emmyrogo thanks
@corissa I have and they wanna go by gross like I take my gross home

Emmyrogo · Answer

Praying for you<3

corrissa2 · Answer

if you got cut down at work yoour ebt and cash benefits will go up, you just have to show proof.

misskee09 · Answer

Most churches only will help pay if your rent is current, I get 100 in ebt, I got wic and medicaid. But really just stuck with the help I need now

torin1994 · Answer

Theres always help from churches. God wouldnt have blessed you with a little miracle if he didnt think you could do it. Bless you and your situation and any desicion you chose. If you do decide adoption, maybe theres a family memeber that would accept him that way you would still be able to see him.

corrissa2 · Answer

do you have wic?
Medical assistance?
Cash assistance?
Ebt food?
Also the state will pay one months rent..
& salvation army will also pay rent and churches..
Good luck.