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I just had a baby 4 months ago and I'm pregnant again I don't believe in abortions but it's on my mind what should I do
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Hi there. I'm so sorry to hear that you are in this situation and the pregnancy is not good news. I can relate, I had my boys very close together and was pregnant before my first born was 6 months old.
I think it is really important for a mom to know her limits. You've got a baby right now so fully understand what is involved. Parenting two little ones so close together is rough (first hand experience). It worked for me to do it but that doesn't mean it is the right choice for you.
So, first, you need to think about what options you have. Abortion is hard for anyone to think about. But sometimes, it does solve the problem. If going through another pregnancy so soon and raising two little ones right at this time is not do-able for you, then termination WILL free you of that. You then can go on to have another baby when it is the 'right' time.
Or you could go through the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. I know that is hard as everyone will know you are pregnant and it feels strange to have a child and then give a child up but if it is the best option for you, then follow that. Don't allow others opinions to sway what is best for you. They have open adoptions these days so you can know the child in some capacity or traditional closed adoptions. And adoption attorney is a good place to start if that is something you'd consider.
Or you can have the baby and do the best you can. It takes planning and works best when you have a lot of support. I had a very supportive husband which got me through. We didn't have much 'help' but were okay. And my boys are pals. So, it CAN work too.
But really, this is about your life! If you will be so strapped for cash that it will be hard to get by, if you will be so overwhelmed that it will send you over the edge, if you have no help at all . . . then I can see why you would want to consider ALL of your options.
Take pen to paper and write down pros and cons of each choice. Here to help if you need it hon. best of luck to you
I think it is really important for a mom to know her limits. You've got a baby right now so fully understand what is involved. Parenting two little ones so close together is rough (first hand experience). It worked for me to do it but that doesn't mean it is the right choice for you.
So, first, you need to think about what options you have. Abortion is hard for anyone to think about. But sometimes, it does solve the problem. If going through another pregnancy so soon and raising two little ones right at this time is not do-able for you, then termination WILL free you of that. You then can go on to have another baby when it is the 'right' time.
Or you could go through the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. I know that is hard as everyone will know you are pregnant and it feels strange to have a child and then give a child up but if it is the best option for you, then follow that. Don't allow others opinions to sway what is best for you. They have open adoptions these days so you can know the child in some capacity or traditional closed adoptions. And adoption attorney is a good place to start if that is something you'd consider.
Or you can have the baby and do the best you can. It takes planning and works best when you have a lot of support. I had a very supportive husband which got me through. We didn't have much 'help' but were okay. And my boys are pals. So, it CAN work too.
But really, this is about your life! If you will be so strapped for cash that it will be hard to get by, if you will be so overwhelmed that it will send you over the edge, if you have no help at all . . . then I can see why you would want to consider ALL of your options.
Take pen to paper and write down pros and cons of each choice. Here to help if you need it hon. best of luck to you
You have to make your own choice that you believe is what's best for you and your family. What i would do in this situation is irrelevant, because I'm not you. My best advice is to think about it, weigh costs, family support, your own health, and maybe seek advice of someone you really trust. Feel 100% confident about whatever you chose. The worst feeling one can have is living with a regret over not doing or doing something. Best of luck :) you can get through this.
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