Adoption

[Boo711]

Do anybody else think bout putting they child up .. it crosses my mind I see right now that ima do this all alone I'm almost finish this pregnancy but my family is saying when I hold him it will get better ... I'm going threw depression I never been so DEPRESSED In my life ... I'm already raising 1 child alone & I'm use to him .. This pregnancy won't plan because doctors told me I couldn't have kids so I saw this pregnancy as a blessing but now it's like IDK ..
Need advice NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS cause I'm not up to the ******** !!

[specialmom]

Oh, I think adoption is such a wonderful and beautiful choice.  Really a win win.  The truth is, we are often not in a position to care for a child.  It can be so much better for all to allow another couple who wants nothing more than to be parents that chance to do that and then when you are in a better situation to have and raise a child, you will be able to do so.  

And today they have 'open' adoptions so you could even have some contact with the baby's adoptive parents and the child.  

It's a blessing to be considering this option.  I don't know if it will turn out to be the direction you go but I tell ya, it's good to have options.   Talk to an adoption attorney as mentioned and do a little research to see if this is something you wish today but again, it really can be a beautiful choice to make.  good luck

[Boo711]

My mood swings r on & off .. it feels like everything is depending on me .. it's so much stuff I have to buy in so little time .. it breaks you down ... but I'm just pray about it !!

[EllaMari]

Boo, it seems you are going through a lot. I am concerned you may be at risk for postpartum depression without adequate support. Seeing a therapist may help you out a lot. A professional may be best able to help you come up with a plan to move forward and decrease your sense of isolation. I sincerely hope you find the strength to do whatever is best for you and your family.

[Boo711]

@EllaMari my 1st son dad passed away when he was very young ... but my current bD he just ain't there he wanna tell me how & what I should I do he is 9yrs older then me I'm 23 so yea... they say every pregnancy is different I stay home time after time unless I have to work I just feel so alone it's like I cut myself from the outside world ... Every night I talk to my belly because maybe I'll feel at least better .. I pray every night but people say it's just Depression ... but as time goes by I know it will get better

[EllaMari]

*u think so maybe go chat with an adoption attorney,  meet some families, and then see how you feel. Looking into adoption does not mean you have made your decision.  It may help you decide one way or another! Thinking of adoption when you are worried about the welfare of your current child as well as your future one is nothing but selfless and loving. Just be honest with yourself. You will figure it out. I hope what ever you decide helps bring you happiness and peace!

[kcwayman]

I was adopted and if you feel that its a good option for you then look into it. I am so grateful I was adopted. I had 2 loving parents and I think my birth mom is so brave to do something so brave.

[EllaMari]

I am so sorry you feel like this. You must be feeling very scared and alone. I think it is important to ask yourself what is going on deep down. Do you have the emotional and financial support to raise another child right now? If so, then this may will pass with love, support, and time. If not, is this just too much for you to handle right now in your life? If yo

[Kolina24]

Aww I'm sorry. Is your family supporting you?  I think you will change your mind once you hold your baby. I know that a lot of woman who put there babies up for adoption change there mind when they are born but by then its to late. Maybe just wait and see how you feel when your baby is born. What happened to the daddy?