parent problems

[AL2015]

I'm a 19 year old and im 6weeks pregnant. I have yet to tell my parents because my parents are not going to support me, they barely do now. I wanna know what should I do ?

[Amcargal]

Thanks Anniebrooke. I just know that if I had been in the same situation at the same age I would have been in the same boat. I was definitely not mentally, emotionally, or financially stable enough to have a child when I was that young so I can't imagine the turmoil this girl is experiencing. If you can't find support from your family or significant other and plan to keep the baby -vs- adoption, maybe there are some community outreach programs in your area that can provide support & guidance.

[shynjahmya]

Dnt tell them or anybody else find a job nd stack up your money nd move out .... God gave you that babii #antiABORTION

[AnnieBrooke]

Amcargal, I thought you laid it out very well.

[BABYGREENEPOTTS2014]

I dont recommend ANYONE TO GET AN ABORTION!!

[Amcargal]

if you think your parents aren't going to support you, it sounds like you need to be planning on your own for your future. Do you have a job and a place to live? Is your partner supportive or even in the picture? If not and you can't support a child on your own have you considered putting the child up for adoption? if you do plan on keeping the child, then it's time to realize now you need to be an adult because soon you willg be a mother. You won't be responsible for just yourself, but also another life. It will be difficult as I am a mother myself and understand what it takes to take care of another person. If you want it badly enough, enough you can do anything you set your mind to.

[Ryllara]

My partner pressured me into having an abortion when I was 21. I was scared he would leave me and did not want to be a single mum as I did not have a car,licence or job and still lived at home. My family expected me to get married and have this perfect life and felt like I had failed them & myself.  Coming from a strict Catholic family I felt so bad about it, I became depressed & tried to committ suicide multiple times. I did not want the abortion but I did it so my partner would stay with me.

[BriannaM22]

I just found out I was 2 months pregnant and decided to share it with my parents not only do I live on my job and have a job but so does my boyfriend. Instead of congratulating me the first thing they said was did you plan on an abortion? In stead of me blowing up I calmly replied saying first things first, I don't have a supporting family so I might as well start one on my own with my boyfriend and second, you can judge but know that I won't be hanging around to hear it. AL2015 just know that you are an adult and you don't need permission from no on on whether or not you should keep this baby it comes from your body. I' will be praying love. Just know there are far worse things you can be getting yourself into. Good luck <3  xoxo

[Ryllara]

Hello,first ask yourself are you 100% sure you want to keep the baby...and if your with a partner what does he think or want.  Remember whats most important is what YOU want. You might be suprised how parents react to pregnancy. At first my mum cried, was shocked and negative towards my partner now she is caring, supportive & cant wait to be a grandmother. Your an adult and how your parents take it is their problem.Just be sure whatever decision you make you are 100% committed to it. Stay strong in believing you have made the right choice.

[Ria_1]

I am so sorry to hear that you don't think your parents will support you. If that happens it will be sad but that will also be there loss. Because as long as you are happy and healthy that's all that should matter. Just try and surround yourself with people that do supoort you. And remember that just because someone is related to you, even your parents, it doesn't mean that they are always right. Im in a pretty hard and confusing situation right now with my pregnancy and sadly not all of my family are supporting my decision either, but they have a right to their opinions, and all we can do is live our lives to the best of our ability. And make sure to change our children's lives by supporting them as much as possible in the future. Good luck to you and the new family you are creating, I will say a prayer for you.

[AnnieBrooke]

Do you live on your own, have your own job, etc.?  Because if so, you are not obligated to tell them very soon.  A friend of mine didn't tell her mother about her last child because her mom had been so judgmental up to that point, and they lived next door to one another.