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9 weeks and mixed feelings about keeping the baby
I am pregnant by husband and want a divorce, which is giving me mixed feelings about keeping the baby. We have a daughter already so I'm not anxious to have another. The fear I'm having is bringing another child in the world being a single parent completely all over again and I still have career goals and life goals.
Not trying to come selfish but I have sacrificed a lot of myself which making me resentful.
Not trying to come selfish but I have sacrificed a lot of myself which making me resentful.
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And I know you already have a child which puts you in an even better decision to decide if you want to have another child to add to the mix knowing all that is involved. It might be something you can handle or WANT to handle or it may not. You get to choose. good luck hon, contact me if I can help.
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Hi there. Well, I think it is good to know our limits. Being a single mom isn't for everyone and while some make it work, it's hard. so not everyone has to if it isn't what they want. and there is no shame in that hon. You HAVE to do what is best for YOU. It's your life. No one else walks in your shoes and if you don't want to have a baby under these circumstances to keep or go through a pregnancy which can be difficult and give the baby up for adoption, the termination is a choice you can consider. Weigh all your options and how they will work for you and pick what is best for YOU. That's what is most important. Here to help if I can. good luck hon
I admire the strength of single mom's - that is not an easy thing to do!!! But let me encourage you if you are afraid of two, although there more work involved in that first year especially, number two is also much easier. I don't know how old your daughter is, but there is nothing like watching siblings grow up and love eachother. And since you've gone through having a baby once, number is so much easier cuz you know what you're doing! One of my really good friends is a single mom with a boy and girl and although she will admit there are days it is really hard, she is really happy and having those two kids really keeps her going. You can do it if you want! You already know you are strong because you are a sibgle mom to your girl. Best of luck!
Sorry to hear what youre goin through...whats your ex husband thoughts this child? If you really dont want to raise this always adoption and someone out there that would love and cherish that baby
Tough decision to make and you are in such a rough and emotional spot as it is. Life is so unexpected and cruel at times. Since you are definitely experiencing hormonal imbalances due to the pregnancy I would suggest talking with a psychologist a couple of times before making the final decision. Time is a factor, but don't rush into anything. Talk it out with a professional and feel certain about the decision. Good luck and I am so sorry that this is such a rough time for you.
I'm sorry for your dilemma. Do you have supportive parents? If so, have you asked their opinion? I wouldn't give up my children for anything, but they're a little harder to visualize when they aren't born yet. One thing to think about is how this will affect your daughter. She will be going through a traumatic experience, and having a sibling could give her someone who understands her more than anyone else. Eventually. Just a thought. It's ultimately your decision, but with all the upheaval in your life right now, including hormones, you might want a trusted friend, family member, etc to help you make your choice.
It's your choice on what want to do but you can always look into giving your baby up for adoption. I was adopted and got blessed into the best family ever! :) adoption is a beautiful thing, and your baby would be truly blessed that way! Whatever you decide tho, I'm sure you will make the right decision. Good luck and I'm sorry your going through this.
I was a single mom to a 2 yr old and got pregnant with an ex's baby! I was really scared of doing it on my own with 2 kids. I thought really hard and long about abortion. One person said to me.. this is ur choice.. I support u either way. But I just have to say.. this baby is just as much ur child as ur other daughter, from that day on, I couldn't get it out of my head. Now she's 8yrs old.. and I couldn't imagine my life without her. It was a struggle but now I'm in a great, healthy, loving relationship, I'm at a better place then I've ever been and I'm 9months pregnant with my 3rd daughter. Idk you, and whatever you choose that's ur decision.. nobody can tell u what to do or what's right for you. But im sure you are a strong, independent woman and can handle whatever you choose. Good luck momma
I'm sorry for what you're going through. Does your husband know? Does his opinion matter to you on if he wants the baby or not? I couldn't imagine being a single parent. I'm sure it's difficult but have you also thought about how you would feel if you did decide to not keep the baby.... are you thinking abortion or adoption? I have a really good friend who aborted her child 5 plus years ago and she still has a hard time and regrets it till thus day. I know some can emotionally handle it and others cant. I personally know I couldnt. But every one is different, and copes differently. I just hope you make the best decision for yourself and you're happy with what you decide. Good luck, and no matter what, things will get better one way or another
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