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Im 3weeks pregnant , My boyfriend wants me to terminate cos he already has 2 kids. But this is my first and I don't wanna terminate nor do I wanna let people down. I'm 23 turning 24
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Hi there. First a word on abortion. Women have these for various reasons and often because timing is not good for a baby. That is their right and I fully support their exercising that right. Lots of kids are born into less than ideal circumstances and suffer most of their childhood. So, when a woman says the timing isn't right, that's the final word. If she is willing to admit that, it should be respected.
But this is not what you are saying. You want the baby.
I think that it is unfortunate that your boyfriend feels as he does . . . but he is also a parent and knows his limitations. Babies take a tremendous amount of time and children are very expensive. It's hard to give them everything they need in the best of circumstances. He understands this as he already has two kids. He IS in the position to say he doesn't want another child. He very well may walk out on this situation as he is clear about his feelings. And he certainly is entitled to do that. I would then get a legal DNA test and have him pay child support. But you can't make someone be a 'dad'.
So, if doing it alone is something you are willing to do and are ABLE (you are financially independent, working, emotionally stable and mature)-- then there doesn't seem to be a question here. You already know what you want to do.
If you are waffling, don't forget that there is also adoption to consider as a choice when a pregnancy is unplanned. Then you can go on to have a baby with a man that wants to make a family with you and the timing is better.
But ultimately, the choice is yours hon. good luck
But this is not what you are saying. You want the baby.
I think that it is unfortunate that your boyfriend feels as he does . . . but he is also a parent and knows his limitations. Babies take a tremendous amount of time and children are very expensive. It's hard to give them everything they need in the best of circumstances. He understands this as he already has two kids. He IS in the position to say he doesn't want another child. He very well may walk out on this situation as he is clear about his feelings. And he certainly is entitled to do that. I would then get a legal DNA test and have him pay child support. But you can't make someone be a 'dad'.
So, if doing it alone is something you are willing to do and are ABLE (you are financially independent, working, emotionally stable and mature)-- then there doesn't seem to be a question here. You already know what you want to do.
If you are waffling, don't forget that there is also adoption to consider as a choice when a pregnancy is unplanned. Then you can go on to have a baby with a man that wants to make a family with you and the timing is better.
But ultimately, the choice is yours hon. good luck
Your baby is a blessing and a gift! You'll be OK to have the baby on your own. People do it all the time and you won't regret it! Congratulations! I'm sorry he's being a jerk, I really am :(
That's mean so just because he has 2 kids means no one else can. You should tell him if he don't want kids he should do something to prevent pregnancy. Not expect you to get an abortion. You do what you want if you want to have this baby then have it. Its your choice not his.
Don't let him make the decision for you, I think that if you go through with this you will regret it. I would just raise it on my own if I was you. Maybe he should have been more cautious.
Thank you all for your advices
And you are old enough to look after ur baby. But it's ur decision to make
Dnt let anyone decide for you. It's ur baby and I'm sure you dnt want to terminate it. Ur boyfriend should have thought before getting u pregnant. U have to think a hundred times before you make this decision. Because you terminate it there's no going bck. You'll be regretting it for the rest of ur life. Good luck x
It's a hard choice to make I have had a baby termitated once I was 19 and it was a drunken mistake I always told myself growing up that I'd never get an abortion so it was hard I decided it wasn't the right time and had it done and you know what it was one of my biggest regrets so please please please put a lot of thought into it and dont let anyone else's opinion matter because it's you who has to live with the outcome plus of you decide that you aren't ready for a baby later down the track I'm sure someone unfortunate would love to adopt your little baby
Don't let anyone make the decision for you it's entirely up to you my only concern is that if he doesn't want another kid will you be able to support a baby by yourself if he left
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