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thinking abortion
Should I feel like a bad person for even thinking about a abortion??? I just found out that I was pregnant yesterday but unsure if I want to keep it...at the end of the day I know I need to do what's best for me and the baby.
I think that, as long as you take the time to thoroughly research all of your options, make a list of pros and cons for each option, and then do whatever is best for you, that's all you can do. Don't do anything impulsive, rather think it through, and it will be the right decision because you thought it through and weighed all of your options.
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****** I had a typo. many women have had abortions and do NOT regret them. Sorry about that.
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I do want to say again, that being a parent is wonderful but love does not conquer all. It's hard work!
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Abortion is a viable option and a good one when timing is bad for having a baby. There is no guilt here and there shouldn't be anywhere as this is your life and your body.
so, what you can do is to think about all of the options and pick what is best for you. Abortion is a simple procedure, not expensive and can even be free depending on your income, and easy to recover from. Many women have had them and a good portion do regret the decision. They go on to have a family when it is the right timing for them and are happier in life being more established when they do decide to have a child.
Another option is adoption which can be really wonderful for all involved in that a family gets a baby that they long for and you are able to go on with your life. They even have open adoptions these days so you could know the child or you could keep things closed so that you truly just move past this. But, you would have to carry the baby and give birth which is hard.
The last option is to keep the baby. Babies are wonderful and I adore my kids. BUT, even thought I planned my pregnancies and wanted them very much, I can tell you that babies are a lot of work and take over your life. I think for some, single parenthood especially when young and not yet independent is a very hard life. That's not to say you can't do it but I would think very realistically about what parenthood would entail for you.
so, think about what is best for you and if abortion best fits your needs, then you can do some quick research I your area as to who can perform the abortion. Planned parenthood is a good place to start or they have clinics that you would go to for the abortion. Ask about a sliding fee pay scale as well if there are any financial issues.
If you have any questions, please ask. peace
so, what you can do is to think about all of the options and pick what is best for you. Abortion is a simple procedure, not expensive and can even be free depending on your income, and easy to recover from. Many women have had them and a good portion do regret the decision. They go on to have a family when it is the right timing for them and are happier in life being more established when they do decide to have a child.
Another option is adoption which can be really wonderful for all involved in that a family gets a baby that they long for and you are able to go on with your life. They even have open adoptions these days so you could know the child or you could keep things closed so that you truly just move past this. But, you would have to carry the baby and give birth which is hard.
The last option is to keep the baby. Babies are wonderful and I adore my kids. BUT, even thought I planned my pregnancies and wanted them very much, I can tell you that babies are a lot of work and take over your life. I think for some, single parenthood especially when young and not yet independent is a very hard life. That's not to say you can't do it but I would think very realistically about what parenthood would entail for you.
so, think about what is best for you and if abortion best fits your needs, then you can do some quick research I your area as to who can perform the abortion. Planned parenthood is a good place to start or they have clinics that you would go to for the abortion. Ask about a sliding fee pay scale as well if there are any financial issues.
If you have any questions, please ask. peace
It's normal to have doubts..everyone has highs and lows and I know that what your going through right now is scary.just please sit down and really think about your options.if you feel like you aren't ready,there are people out there that would love to love your child..but then again Im willing to bet that you are a very strong woman and that you can love and provide for your child no matter what your circumstances.a mothers love is a love like no other and it can withstand the hardest of things.just please don't make a quick decision to do something that you may regret later down the road.good luck and God bless hun❤
God loves u and there's better options.if u don't want ur baby maybe someone out there is willing to give that baby a good life.. Baby's are blessing don't take his/her life away..and I'm not in any way trying to be rude
Think about it real good before u make a such big decision as abortion . Please god bless...
In the end it's ultimately your decision but I would urge you to look into adoption first. Your not ready to be a mother but there is someone out there who is so desperate to be one and it's out of reach for them. The joy and happiness you could give them will last a lifetime! Good luck
Don't listen to people's rude comments saying you'd be a bad person. Thinking about having an abortion does not make you a bad person. I've had two. Do what you feel is right. Don't let anyone pressure you into a decision you don't want. If you feel like you aren't ready then at least you're mature enough to admit it. Like I said I had two I don't regret either because I wasn't ready.
I know you're scared, but definitely I would sit down and think about it. what helps me with tough decisions is i sat down to write down the pros and cons of both choices. here you have three choices to keep the baby, abort the baby, or put the baby up for adoption. I would definitely think about your options, but good luck! you're the one I can make this decision. I hope you do what you TRULY want hun.
You're not a bad person. Sometimes I think I would be better off not having a baby, Im only 20 and i had to leave the babies father. Im gonna turn 21 literally a few days after my due date, I wont be able to live the same life I've been living. I have to grow up and raise a child for the next 18 years. I could possibly never find a husband. Idk, Its a serious decision to make. My views on abortion kept me from really thinking this pregnancy out clearly.
You should listen to the song 'Beautiful Life' by Trip Lee its a good song. And honestly i think you should pray about it. Spend a few days and just pray and see what tugs at your heart.
I had one almost 4 years ago. I had a son who was almost two and I just wasn't ready for another it was hard. But ultimately it was what was best for me. When I went to the clinic I asked not to see or hear the baby. But now 4 years later I'm pregnant again with the guy I got pregnant with then and now we are happy and ready.
Look up facts and statistics about it. Many women wind up regretting it in the future, not right away. Also, there are health risks that go along with it, and it can even cause infertility. It is definitely something you have to be 100% sure about because you can never take it back. Whatever you choose, just be well informed. And don't forget to consider adoption. Some women can't have children, and a baby would be a real blessing to them. You might even decide you want to keep it yourself. I was scared because I am not married, I didn't know what the father would think, and I don't have the greatest job in the world, but the change that my unborn child has made in my life is already an unexpected blessing. Prayers and good luck, no matter what you decide.
Don't feel bad about it! The first time I got pregnant, I got an abortion. I don't regret it at all. When I got pregnant a second time, I kept him because I felt ready. I love my son so much, but I still don't regret giving up the first time. Do what you feel is right for you.
I thought the same until i went and heard the heartbeat.. I cried.. And changed my mind.. It doesnt make you a bad person .
You are not a bad person for thinking of abortion. Ultimately it is your decision regardless of what any of us think or have an opinion about, my only advice is to be sure that is what you really want to do. Also keep in mind abortion is not the only option, if you are not ready for a baby adoption is also an option so that the baby has a better life then abortion or the life you didnt think you were capable of giving it, and by doing that you also can give a couple a chance at a family they might not have been able to have otherwise
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