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what to do I'm so confused :(
So my boyfriend and I have been on and off about keeping the baby his family is really supportive and will help but I feel maybe it might not be the right time for me. I'm worried about losing them all from my life. I'm 9 weeks and 6 days and need to make this choice fast I'm really scared to make the wrong one. I want the baby when I'm around him but when I'm not I want a life. Help please :(
Sounds like you're not 100% sure you want to choose termination, so I wouldn't do it bc once baby is gone its gone and you just don't seem for sure if that's what you want..you don't wanna regret terminating ur baby one day but just trust me you'll never regret choosing to keep ur baby! You'll still have a life, it will just be a different life..best of luck to you hun and whatever you choose!
What is the rush, haste makes waste. I say wait until u feel Ur baby moving inside u before u make a decision
If u think ur not ready to be a mom then why not think about adoption ? Dont kill ur unborn child at the end he /she didnt ask to be here .. U wouldnt kill it after its born right ? There are plenty of woman out there who wants a baby so bad and cant have it !! Ur maybe u will be ready once the bby is here ;-) !! its a real blessing ..
I agree with sml abortion is something u have to live with the rest of ur life I could personally never have an abortion then have kids later on down the line but everyone is different u just have to decide if its something u can live with if ur really unsure like the above comment said wait till u feel the baby kick and then maybe condider adoption good luck hun :)
Thank you all it helps. I definitely do not want to wait to feel the baby. That's not fair and plus its only safe until 12 week's for an abortion. I'm just scared because I'm 19 he's 18 fully committed I don't want to ruin anyone's life not his or my family's who are not supporting it at all and want the abortion done asap.
When I said wait to feel the baby move I meant to choose between adoption or keeping him or her not abortion!
abortion is murder. it makes no difference if ur 1month along or 9 months. I had a friend who had one and she did because the dr told her something was wrong with the baby. she is now one of the most miserable people u could meet. she cant live with what she did. it was an early abortion too. please dont kill ur baby, give to someone who will love it
Honestly how do you think youll feel if you have the abortion? How dies he feel about it? You say you dont want to ruin his life, but he may regret loosing his child just as much as you might. Your family may not be supportive right now, but most of the time they turn around. I know its scary, and it will change your life. But it will change your life now no matter what. At 10 weeks your babies heart is beating, its moving, has fingers and toes, genitals are starting to form. Giving a child a life is never the wrong decision in my opinion. And at least you have some support, you have a supportive boyfriend, and his family. Thats a lot more then some people have. Don't make a decision you might really regret out of fear. This is your child, whether its 10 weeks, 20 weeks or a newborn, its a life you made. An individual that will never be made the same way again, a part of you and a part of your boyfriend.
In the end it's your choice. If you're not ready then you're not. Only you can make the decision. Although adoption is always an excellent choice once again it's up to you if you want that. What ever you choose please make sure it is what you really want :) And once your decision is final get on some birth control asap! Best of luck hun!!
I had my oldest at 19. Termination for me was never an option because I dont generally believe in it.
I will tell you, you absolutely can still have a life.. I have twpo now and am pregnant with my 3rd. I am 24 years old and have finished school.. have time to go out with friends once a week and have had the most amazing time as a mom. It makes a lofe more hectic but more fullfilling.
I would wait it out.. once the baby starts moving you will feel a different attachment to it and of not..tthereis always the option of adoption in which case youll be giving an incredible gift to a woman who cant have a child of her own.
I will tell you, you absolutely can still have a life.. I have twpo now and am pregnant with my 3rd. I am 24 years old and have finished school.. have time to go out with friends once a week and have had the most amazing time as a mom. It makes a lofe more hectic but more fullfilling.
I would wait it out.. once the baby starts moving you will feel a different attachment to it and of not..tthereis always the option of adoption in which case youll be giving an incredible gift to a woman who cant have a child of her own.
Wow maybe asking a bunch or hormonal pregnant ladies wasnt a great idea lol. I had a termination when i was 22 when i was almost 8 weeks pregnant. I know this probably sounds cruel to most of you but I DON'T REGRET IT. It was the best thing for ME at the time. Alexandria so what feels right for you and whats in your heart. Don't fear judgment from others. I have a friend who had a baby before she was ready and you can tell by the way she treats him she either didn't really want him or she just cant handle him and wasnt ready for the responsibility that comes with having a child. Have children when you are ready. There are enough children in orphanages around the world i don't think we need more.
I had a terminated pregnancy when I was 17, if you are not mentally prepared it can really mess with your head... But now that I am 22 and pregnant with my second child (which I really only classify as my first) it is so much easier and you know that you're ready to be the best that you can be for your child. Do what YOU feel is right. Don't let anyone try and tell you what is best for you. :)
Abortion is not the way to go! There are so many families out there that can not have a child of there own. You abort this child because you think it will be to hard to give it up that is very selfish of you. You will be takeing a life. Right now there is a heart beat and a small life trying to come into this world. At 10 weeks it is a baby not just a tiny heart. I think its to late for abortion already.
I suggest talking to a family planning counsler to discuss all your options. Good luck and dont let anyone talk you into or out of anything.
Hey I'm now 13 weeks pregnant and I was going though the same dilemma and thought process. I'll be 22 both my bfs and my own fam are supportive but feels we're not ready. So to what other people are saying about adoption is true-- Its always an option. My mom gave me some good advice saying "do the old lady test". Envision yourself as an old woman in her rocking chair and thinking back on your life. This decision alone could you see it being something you could get through if you give the baby up? Or would you be happy to know you've kept it and struggled and life was hard. Think hard about your potential outcomes because only you not anyone else have to live with the decision especially giving it up. I myself figured it would be beat to be closer to my family so I could continue to pursue my goals and dreams such as finishing up my last year of school, working , etc. Another consideration is in family adoption. I have considered this more so than regular adoption. Of course there's much thinking on it and it will not come over night but I personally pray and meditate on things so that it could shed some light on my decisions. Good Luck and Feel free to reach out to me thru email my email is ***@****. I also feel it helps to have people going through similar situations around you so you all help e/o.
Its not to late the clinic i went to does them up until 12 weeks and there are some places that under special circumstances do them up until 20 weeks. My advice would be to make up your mind before 12 weeks though. Good luck :)
Hey I'm now 13 weeks pregnant and I was going though the same dilemma and thought process. I'll be 22 both my bfs and my own fam are supportive but feels we're not ready. So to what other people are saying about adoption is true-- Its always an option. My mom gave me some good advice saying "do the old lady test". Envision yourself as an old woman in her rocking chair and thinking back on your life. This decision alone could you see it being something you could get through if you give the baby up? Or would you be happy to know you've kept it and struggled and life was hard. Think hard about your potential outcomes because only you not anyone else have to live with the decision especially giving it up. I myself figured it would be beat to be closer to my family so I could continue to pursue my goals and dreams such as finishing up my last year of school, working , etc. Another consideration is in family adoption. I have considered this more so than regular adoption. Of course there's much thinking on it and it will not come over night but I personally pray and meditate on things so that it could shed some light on my decisions. Good Luck and Feel free to reach out to me thru email my email is ***@****. I also feel it helps to have people going through similar situations around you so you all help e/o.
Why do you girls think abortion puts your life at serious risk!? Are you all pro life christians or what? Its not even that invasive. And when its performed before 12 weeks there is no scraping involved! Youre all so against them but obviously don't know much or are very misinformed about them. They are low risk procedures and there are several different types you can have. More often than not the worst this that can happen is the anesthetic might make you vomit.
When I found out I was pregnant so many things went through my head. I'm 20, my husband is 21. We've been married for over a year but i know he's not ready. So many things go through your head, you start realizing all the things thatll change, and how your life will be different. I think its just part of finding out you're going to be a mom. It's a big responsibility. At the end of it, its really your choice. I understand some ladies are against abortions, but don't take their "why are you going to kill life" to the heart. Think about your options. I would never be able to give up my child but that's just me, but I've supported friends who have gone through abortions or decided to go through adoption. And they say they don't regret it. You know if you're ready and you know if this is the right time for you. I'm 3mnths now and I still have doubts about how this work out but I have a supportive husband and family and I'm just going to go with the flow and try to be the best mom. A Sonogram really changes the point of view, well at least with me. (:
I thought about abortion in this early pregnancy because I didn't feel I was ready. I got to the clinic and couldn't do it...after I saw my baby and how big he had become I just couldn't bring myself to kill an innocent child. I was pro life before I found out I was pregnant but abortion isn't a way if life until it is your own on the line. End of story I feel I made the best decision for me because I couldn't imagine missing out on my baby boy. It takes a strong woman to go through with an abortion but an even stronger woman to own up to your mistake and take care of your child. I hope this helps, btw there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God for giving me the courage to walk out that clinic and keep my little angel! Prayers your way :)
Regardless of what all these woman's personal opinions are the choice is yours. I agree with Sml that if you're not 100% you shouldn't do it because it will be something you think about the rest of your life. If you feel your boyfriend and his family want the baby but you don't, why don't you sign your parental rights over to him? That is always an option. It may not fair well between you and him but if you really don't think you're ready for your child then I feel that is the best solution. Many mothers however don't want their baby at first I know I was trying to convince myself it was all a dream. But I grew attached to her.. she's now 2 weeks old and I'm so in love I really can't describe in words. Make the best decision for your child, and yourself.
I can't believe you guys !!! How can you be so blatantly rude about abortion?! It doesn't matter what your religion and personal opinions are. This girl needs to do whats best for herself and it is not your decision. Some of the comments on here are absolutely disgusting!!
Honestly id wait...if later on you both decide you don't wabt the little one look into adoption i wouldbt wabt to have a abortion and then think wait i wanted that baby or something like that you best choice would be to consider keeping baby or adoption push abortion out of ypur mind hun.
I'm pro choice, I'm a women's health advocate, I write letters to my congressmen to keep abortions legal and safe within designated time frames. I fight against back alley abortionists. I stand up for women's rights. I was raped very young and had an abortion at 8 weeks. I do not count that as a pregnancy because I did NOT conceive by my own free will. I say it is something you must be 100% sure on. You will live with your decision but it will not haunt you if your at peace with your decision. Do not let people force their views on you. If you want it, keep it. I am not pressuring or trying to persuade but I'm saying it's your choice. Because in this country it is STILL your choice. Bottom line.
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