I'm new here and hope this is a good place to get the opinions of other women or even men, if they can contribute. My nipples don't respond at all when I'm sexually excited. They never have. I am 53 and have never had any breast surgeries. I do have a childhood history of sexual abuse, but I have dealt with it in therapy. I have been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend for over 5 years now and feel very safe and comfortable with him. However he feels that most women's nipples are sensitive and it bothers him that mine aren't. He wonders if my nipples not being responsive could be the result of: 1)my need to control my body, 2) my abuse history, or 3)something else. I am able to have orgasms with him although there too he doesn't think I should need clitoral stimulation. I feel he is misinformed. Perhaps I'm the one that's misinformed or "not normal." Thanks for your help.
What!?! I think the opposite is true, most women NEED clitoral stimulation and it is a rare breed who don't. As far as the nipple sensitivity, I don't know how to answer that. Before I had my boys, I was neither here nor there on that, but since having them and nursing, I would much rather not have them touched. They have lost any sexual function for me and to be honest are pretty sensitive so it is quite irritating for them to be messed with.
I am not sure what to tell you on the nipple thing, but on the clitoral stimulation thing, you are far from abnormal or a freak. You are just like the rest of us : )
Thanks Andi. I wish I knew about something about my nipples. I read that breast surgeries can change the sensitivity, but mine have never "worked." Even hearing from other women that they have the same experience would be reassuring, but so far all I've read is other women's nipples are overly sensitive.
Take it from someone who has had breast surgery and has made my nipples over "happy". My nipples where not real "happy" before my surgery but now I have trouble wearing certain shirts because they will not stay down---I have even gone to the extent of band-aids on them----does not work-----but I still like to have stimulation reguardless of the perky things----as long as both of youa are sexually satisfied with each other it should not matter to him whether you breast are sensitve or not-----and I do not have orgasms without some sort of stimulation-----good luck
no but it is a very good suggestion----I am telling ya---my high beam headlights are on all the time-----and it is kind of embarrassing when some ask if I am cold and it is 99* outside---if you know what I mean------but I have tried the bras with some padding in them---but again since my breast reduction I received a "lift" and they pop right out of it!!!
Hope it works, I am ultra self-conscious about mine as they seem to stay at attention while pg and nursing. In fact at my sons' party this past weekend, I had on a sports bra, camisole tank top with a shelf bra and a thicker shirt because it was so bad. The things we women have to deal with!!
Wow, your bf is grossly misinformed on all counts; it sounds like he may be rather inexperienced. First of all, the clitoris, not the vagina, is the body part analogous to the penis in terms of stimulation and sensitivity (ask your bf if he can orgasm from just stroking his scrotum ;-)). I'm assuming your bf believes you should be orgasmic from intercourse alone... but the reality is that women who are, are definitely in the minority. About 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to come, which intercourse doesn't provide. So, if coming then is important to you, either of you can use your hands or a vibe on your clitoris.
Nipple sensitivity differs from women to women, too. Some women like nipple stimulation, some don't. Some have very sensitive nipples, some don't. Not enjoying nipple stimulation does NOT mean there's anything wrong with you.
Honestly, it doesn't matter in the slightest what other women like. Everyone's different. What matters is what YOU like. It sounds like you're orgasmic and are enjoying your sex life, and that's what counts. I would strongly encourage you and your bf to stop comparing you and sex in general to some mythical "should" and instead enjoy you and your sexuality however it is. :-)
Thanks everyone. He's really a great guy. When I told him I had posted on a women's health site and the general responses I had received, he apologized profusely. Thanks for helping me feel better about myself.
hello, my name is ashley and i am a 20 year old female who is having sensitivity in my nipples. I was on depo, and my last shot was in march. Now everyday my breasts are a little sore and my nipples are too. It is getting to the point where it is annoying. I also took a pregnancy test and it was negative, so what could this possibly be wrong????
Hey guys, i'm Danielle and i'm 20 and have never had any work done on my breasts or anything of that sort.
I have the same problem Chicago. I cannot get any sexual stimulation from my past boyfriends touching my nipples, and they rarely get hard.
I also have a history of sexual abuse. I guess I just find it strange that I can't get stimulated this way, whereas my girl friends all say it is very stimulating to them.
heloo dr...i've a question...is it normal for a woman's breast to burn after having been sucked by her partner??plz help...it's really annoying to hav burning nipples...n also am not stimulated when my partner ***** my breast...:(....
You women should just shut-up and let your nipples be. They are great to look at and very sexy. I am an older guy and love long and big nipples. Oh!! and guess what? I also love huge clitoris, the bigger, the better. Keith
Keith!! Kindly keep your comments to yourself. If you decide to comment to another post...I might suggest that you reconsider how you word your thoughts. It is so rude to reply to a post to a woman/women with a response beginning with, "You women should just shut-up". Expressing what is like is one thing... being rude is not acceptable.
Long nipples?? Who are you hangin out with?
I can't remember my wife having sensitive nipples before she had our children, but now, after four pregnancies, breast stimulation has become the aspect of foreplay she enjoys the most. This gives me great satisfaction, because it makes me feel there is something that always works to please her.
Lately, my wife has asked me to do other things during breast stimulation (I don't want to go into details), and she loses control completely.
The point being that I think there may be aspects of a woman arousal that may change over time and, as some have stated here, the important thing is the "conversation" between two people who enjoy each other's sexuality.
Chicagogrl, you are not alone, I very little to no sensitivity in my nipples have had no surgeries barely could get them to work to breast feed my 2 babies for a very short time. I had to have a full hysterectomy at the age of 24 and now I am 46 . I have ask doctors about it and they have told me it has to do with a hormone in balance and I am going to try a cream they have prescibed to see if it works. you may want to talk to your doctor about it
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