How long do i have to waite until i get pregnant again? Its deeply unfortunate that i cant keep this child, but its under uncontrolable circumstances that will jeopardise my life. I want to have a child with the one i love, not the one i DONT love. So after my abortion this wednesday, we want to start making a new baby. I need some knowledge and advice on how to get the babymaker working again.
just another point...
if i am pregnant by the other guy, than i got pregnant up to a week before my period. the period was normal, and the second day of my period i came back to my boyfriend and we started having sex... but there is only a 3 day window between the two. im so frightned, but i dont wanna be stuck having someone elses baby and losing the man i love over it. . its really cut close, and im scared to death. its been 5 weeks and 4 days since ive been back with him. does a ultrasound give or take 2 weeks, or is it pretty good at pinpointing the date? i dunno. im so scared. and whats worse, my partner knows about all this and hes not too happy with me. he gets enraged that my body has been tampered with. I REALLY NEED SOME HELP GIRLS!
you might have a few irregular cycles after the procedure. i would start using ovulation predictor kits to see when you ovualte. i would wait at least one cycle an abortion really thins the lining out in the uterus and if you get PG too soon you might miscarry.
may i ask why you would have an abortion and the next day want to get PG? not to be nosey or judgemental....i have plenty of friends who have had them and moved on to have successful PG in later yrs. just kinda curious what you meant in your post. you don't have to answer....i know that is personal. take care of your body and good luck with TTCing.
and yes, im very emotionally disturbed by all this. i have a feel i will be one of those women that are forever damaged by the act of killing her baby. a year from now i would be watching it dig into its first cake, and when im 26, id be watching it go off to kindgergarten.. and i probably would have an imaginary name. im so depressed, i wanted to be a mother SO BAD... i shoulda been more careful what i wished for... because its not a pretty situation. men are very weird about their women being touched by another man. to them, we are their property, no matter how nice they are, they think it. looket me, i have so much to say i comment on my own damn topic! i think im loosing it
what i mean about post, is after the abortion. it hasnt happened yet, but afterwards my boyfriend and i want to have a child. our own and no worries of it coming out with brown hair and brown eyes. im totally stressed about this, i cant sleep, cant eat, im dehydrating myself, im like a damn walking zombie. i feel guilty if i laugh or smile because i know deep down that my baby is going to die because her mother made a stupid decision.
hun- if your not happy in your relationship get out, i know easier said than done, but something must have happened for you to go to another man.if he is threatening you,you can call the police.i've never been in your situation, are you sure it's not his baby? from what i get from you he sounds very violent, if your life is in jeopardy, why would you want to have his baby and not the other one?
because i live with the recent boyfriend. he supports and takes care of me. he only wants me, and i only want him. he has a drinking problem, and its pretty bad. but i still love him and i miss him everytime i leave. if its his, then i'll be thrilled, but in the back of his mind he will always remimber how he felt when "mommy slept with another man and got scared when she thought she was pregnant by him". he wont stop calling me a *****, and saying i have poor morals, this n that. the other guy, was just a fling to get my mind off james. a 9 day fling, (which 5 of them were sexual) which its very possible to get pregnent a week before my period. either way, we want to try again. have a new baby. with no stress or hard feelings, except the fact that another man may have gottn his girlfriend pregnant for the first time. yeah, thats a big one.
why does it take a year? the doctors told me a few weeks until i can start ovulating again. but then im reading that the cervix can split open again. if i do decide to go through with this, should i get the medical or surgical? wich is the least harmfull? i had nightmares about the vacuum lastnight. it just terrifyes me. it shocks me that some women can walk out of there like no big deal. what do you know about ultrasounds?
you are so right, and with my track record it dosnt work out that way. ive been living with an eating disorder for a long time, and my doctor at 15 told me i cant have kids if i keep the act up... it hasnt changed much, just went from one to an other. its funny though, being pregnant, i want to take care of myself. i want to shelter this little one inside me and protect it from anything that could hurt it. im only 20 y/o, im not stable, or make enough income to live on my own, so everythings just so bad.
you explained....never mind :) ....i am sorry that you are in this spot....sometimes hind sight is 20/20....my husband's first wife left him for 3 months...and came back PG...she had the baby and gave it up for adoption....2 yrs later did the same thing...now they are divorced. so i know how men can get upset by that. let me ask you....do you know for sure that this man is going to stay with you and give you a baby if you go through with this abortion. if you broke up long enough to sleep with someone else ....it could happen again and it could take up to a yr to get PG after this abortion. i am so sorry again that this has happened. having the abortion will not garentee that he will stay or that you will have HIS baby.
by no means am i trying to pursuede you in any one direction....just tell you your options. if you are going to have this abortion you need to be sure that it is you who doesn't want this baby NO MATTER WHAT....no matter if your boyfriend leaves right after the procedure, no matter if the other guys says he doesn't want this....this is YOUR body and YOUR the one to live with it....not this man you are with and love now....you have broken up before and he could break up with you again. and now that he knows you have been with another man he might leave you cuz he can't take living with that. not to mention what if this is his child? what if you ovulated late or early it happens alot....really think this through and do what is in your heart and not what you think someone else wants you to do....they don't have to live with the consequenses...you do. good luck and take care....i hope it all works out.
calling you names and such no matter how mad and hurt he is wrong....he could be tricking you to have this done and then go screw you ...now suffer. i would think this over and maybe reschedule the appt. just because he takes care of you doesn't mean this is a healthy relationship and there is no garrentee of anything. so hears my advice...you don't sound like a woman that wants this abortion....and you can have a brown-eyes brown haired baby or blue-eyed blonde hair baby ....the look of a baby doesn't always match the parents....i have blonde/blue....my parents are brown/brown....so you could get a red-head from either one of them. think long and hard about this...once it is done it can't be fixed and you have to live with it. if this man you are with leaves you it won't be good for your emotions after this. there is help out there for you if you decide to have this baby...there is genetic testing that can be done to see who the father is and then adoption. don't do something that you don't want to do for the hope that this man will treat you better or not leave. pls seek consciling at the abortion clinic. i have seen too many get abortions for this and other reasons to turn around and be left by that partner anyway or leave the parter....so pls think hard...you are in my prayers.
ultra sounds are not very accurate in early PG....i knew someone who was supposed to be 5 weeks that ended aborting a 9 week fetus....she was devistated. as far as the actual procedure ...they all have the same risks involved. you can ovulate again quickly...but the uterus can be damaged and/or tramatized by this and getting PG too soon can cause a miscarriage. so i would wait at least 2-3 normal cycles before trying if you do this.....and i would think twice, you don't sound convinced this is a good choice for you. don't do anything you might reggret. there are always other options hun.
i was 21 and messed up too hun....now i am a nurse and have a degree in biology and chemistry with a wonderful 9 yr old son...i was a single mom for 7 yrs. i got housing and food stamps. there is wic and medicaid....and 1000's of other programs....don't do this if you will regret it it will mess you up more. seek help at your local department of human services....they will make sure that you are well taken care of and even get you training....CNA courses are free and you make good money through them . if you go to a shelter they will help you find a job get prenatal care and housing for low income....i did it and now i am TTCing for # 2 with my now loving devoted husband. don't do something you might regret.
Please visit www.priestsforlife.org , on the side column there is a link to "what an abortion looks like". Maybe if you see what it is you are doing you will change your mind and love the baby you have been blessed with. Having an abortion is going to affect you emotionally for the rest of your life. Are you ready for that? If your baby could, it would say, mommy please don't have an abortion.I will be praying for you.
my best friend had an abortion after her boyfriend said they would get married if she had one and then try when the time is right.....he left her shortly there after and she was 27 and he was 35.i made that mistake when i was young. i was 17 and im almost 30.... there isnt a day that goes by that i dont regret what i did. it's the worst feeling ever.....i have gone on to have 2 beautiful boys and a loving husband....who is who got me pregnant the first time.he thinks about it all the time too. think long and hard sweetie about what YOU want to do.were here for ya.
I agree that your current boyfriend is a dangerous person to be with. He is verbally abusive towards you and you are fooling yourself if you think that he won't one day turn on your children.
The decision to abort is yours and yours alone. He can't make the decision for you, neither can anyone else. Definitely make sure this is what you want to do. There is no shame in asking for help and there is no shame in leaving him and raising this child on your own.
Definitely think about this long and hard before you make a decision. Consider both sides, is staying with him worth the heartache he has already brought to your life? Is it worth the anger and resentment you will feel everytime you look at hime and think about what he made you give up?
i dont want to have this done. im terrified. i dont know think i know what im doing. my boyfriend is a heavy alcoholic, he hits me regularly. he says that he needs to stop, and that its going to kill him.. what broke my heart tonight after we had dinner, i asked him, "why did you start hitting me and never stoped" and he replyed "because you let me get away with it"
i felt shattered. he says that im the only one he wants, he wants to be with me forever, and take care of our kids that we'll have in the future, and so on. he knows that the vodka needs to go. (he drinks a liter+ a night)i truely want to keep my baby, but im scared of my future. he says he dosnt wanna take any chances of it not being his, because i'll be on the streets with a child, and left all alone. i dont have a car, i work at a bakery, im totally supported. which road do i take? going through with the abortion and dealing with the pain, and staying with this man that hurts me any way he can (we're 17 years appart), or do i take the rout of having the baby, and waiting to see whos it is, and dealing with hardship the rest of my life. I have myself in a bad situation. thank you all for having me in your prayers. i deeply appreciate it.
also, what i failed to mention, he has had 3 previous abortions one when he was 18, and two by the same girl just a few years back. he has a baby, shes almost 3. the mother took her away to oregon to start a new family. hes 37 now. he says that hes never had this problem before dealing with the girl being so tattered and torn. well maybe they didnt care. the recent girl has had numerous abortions... she has sex freely with whom she pleases. i dont want to be judgemental, but experiencing the pain im having, there is no way in hell i would be able to ever be touched by another man, atleast for a long time after his trust was well deserved. im not even sure that if i go through with an abortion that id be able to look at james the same knowing that he surpressed me to kill this little baby inside me. i would never forgive him. earlier tonight i asked him if he ever wondered what it would be like watching his oldest graduate high school... he said that the baby wasnt anything. just a fetus. its nothing to him. he dosnt care. hes a selfish person. and im not so sure i want to be with a man like that. but im afraid i will never be wanted again. im afraid that no man will ever love me because i'll be a single mom with no direction. i know that im beautiful,inside and out. but what am i in an other mans view? am i *****? am i the scum of the earth? ..... or should i go through with the abortion and live with the man that tells me he hates me every night that hes drunk, or tell me im a *****, hits me, emberisses me, and taunts me. hes not like that sober, unless i make him mad. but usually i make him mad in the begining and it carries on throughout the day, until he comes to bed drunk, and punches me in the back, and hits me in my head until i cry myself to sleep. life is like a game of poker... you never know what your going to be delt.
You have answered your own questions time and time again. Re-read your posts about the man you are willing to kill for. And I am not trying to be cruel, I honestly am so upset by your story. But I think that so many of us that have read your words have so much more faith in you than you have in yourself. You are a STRONG woman and look at how this pregnancy has empowered you! You ARE a MOTHER! You are already protecting your baby as you should.
What if this is the only chance you get? What if something happens and you are never able to conceive again? You seem so worried about "being alone". About James leaving you and no man ever wanting you. Thinking you are a *****. This is the power James has had over you. He has broken you down an made you think that you are not worth loving. YOU ARE!!
Love doesn't hurt. I'll say it again... Love doesn't hurt. And you are hurt daily by this man. And loved every moment by your baby. Love yourself enough to walk away and TAKE the POWER that is yours! You are NOT weak! You don't have to depend on others. Depend on you. And you are all that baby has.
My husband and I have have 5 beautiful children together. He and I both have brown hair and brown eyes. Baby #1 has blonde hair and blue eyes and is a beautiful 16 year old young woman now. Baby #2 has brown hair and brown eyes and is a handsome 15 year old young man. Baby#3 has Blonde hair and Blue eyes and is a gorgeous 13 year old boy that all the girls love. Baby#4 has brown hair and brown eyes and is a lovely young 11 year old girl. Our baby, #5 Has blond/brown hair and hazel eyes. She looks like we put the other 4 in a pot and mixed them up to get her. With that said, what if you were to follow thru with James' wish that you abort, and then you are able to conceive again and the baby comes out blonde or red headed. James' will never believe you were faithful and that it's his. And you will be in yet another BAD situation.
You are NOT alone. It is you and that baby against the World. And together, you can make it. Because weather you realize it now or not, YOU will get tired of getting beat on and yelled at and you will find the strength and love for youself to leave. The question is do you do it now with a healthy baby or years down the road ALONE??
Please think about what everyone has said, you can do this and there is so many that will help you. It doesn't have to be the nightmare you think it will. It can be the greatest and hardest thing you will ever do.
Praying for you and your little one--JoAnna
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE reconsider. I know you are going through a bad situation, but don't make it worse. Just remember the heart starts beating at 28 days, by the time your period was due, probably before you even KNEW you were pregnant. Give that baby up for adoption, PLEASE.... My husband was married before me, his wife had an abortion, he couldn't stop her. This will affect so many more people, than just you and him. My husband STILL thinks about that child, I hurt over it too. PLEASE reconsider. I'm here if you need to talk hun. PLEASE, I'm BEGGING you to think about this....=(
You must get out of this relationship! Whether you decide to abort or not, you are in an extremely unhealthy situation. The fact that you want to try to get pregnant with this man is truly heartbreaking. If your future child is a girl they will grow up thinking men have the right to abuse women, if it's a boy he will be an abuser. I guarantee it. There is a lot if help for women in your situation. Check into a women's shelter if you have to. I know you say you love him, but I don't believe you. The reason being is that you don't sound like you even love yourself. It's impossible to love someone when you don't love yourself. The real story is that you are dependent on him and afraid to be alone. I'm not trying to put you down, I just want you to understand no woman deserves to be in the situation you are in. If you decide to stay with him then at least reconsider the kid thing. It's one thing for you to decide to live that life, but I promise you, no kid wants to live in an environment like that, nor do they deserve to. Please get some help!
Sorry but this all sounds a little fishy to me. This story seems to be all over the place. Well anyway if it is legit I say drop the D**KHEAD and have that baby. You'll be fine. Do you know how many single moms are out there and they make it just fine. There is LOTS of help out there for single moms on a low income. It is not worth KILLING your baby. Get out of the relationship before the boyfriend kills the baby. I worked with a girl who was abused and now CANNOT have children because of all the scar tissue. You sound like you want to be a mother well God has given you the chance to do so. Like another post said this may be the only chance you get. DON'T DO THIS. This baby was given to you for a reason. You will regret it for the rest of your life. I tried to keep my mouth shut about this but I just cannot. If I can help save the life of an INNOCENT little baby who NEVER asked for this I will try my hardest. If you go through with it God have mercy on your soul girl. It just makes me sick to read stuff like this. I hope you make the right decision and that is to NOT KILL your baby.
i dont think you will get slammed. i too thought it was fishy at first, but i honestly do believe this girl needs to get help, and get away from that monster, he sounds like a creep.classic abuser,so regretfull when he is sober,until he gets drunk again and it all starts over again, round robin.
Do you know if there is a battered women's shelter around you? They have programs to help you find a good paying job, get you transportation, and to help you mentally leave this horrible man. You have to make the decision to do so, it will be the hardest thing you've ever done, but you have to for the sake of your baby. I hope you decide to keep the baby, you'll always be wondering about that "what if" factor....what if you'd kept the baby, what would they look like, what would they grow up to be.....there's no greater gift in this world than to be a mother.
Many of us on this forum have strived so hard, sometimes in vain, to accomplish what you already have living inside you. We will support you any way we can, through prayers and through encouragement. Don't give up...don't ever give up. My best to you and your baby.
Why would you want to have his child in the future?
You said yourself, he thinks of these babies as nothing, only fetuses that mean nothing to him. He has been through several abortions of babies that he has known were his. And this child could be his also, but he doesnt care about it.
He doesnt sound like he would be a good father.
You want to have a baby, well guess what...you have that opportunity now. If your worried about supporting it, could you not get child support?
Dont do this just because he is making you false promises.
I have been in a controlling relationship as you are now. I left and my life is so much better now. You can leave him and get help for you and your baby. Regardless of whose baby this is, I still think you should leave this guy.
jenni, can you go to your parents,family, friends? anything to get out of that mans grasp?hun, just walk out that door and dont look back.i have never been in your situation,so it's easier said than done, but darlin there are men out there who will take care of you, love you like you need to be loved,believe it or not there are good guys out there.dont let him make you think your no good,he's only saying that because he's no good,so you will stay with him and he can continue to do what it is he is doing.he's only good at 2 things....drinking and being a *****
i was a single mom for 7 yrs and never had a prob dating....you figure it out. there is so much help for single mothers and now i am married to a wonderful man. don't do this for him....keep your baby and find a shelter....there are also unwed mother's homes that you can live in while PG and getting on your feet.
You started your period the 25th after having sex with this other guy. It's not his baby. You got your period, you're not preg. You got pregnant after this period on the 25th and had sex with James and James only, then got preg. It's James baby if your dates are right and didn't have sex with anyone else after your AF on the 25th. Does that make sense? Is that what everyone else thinks?
it sounds to me like you do not want this abortion. like the other girls said, there is SO much help for single, low income mothers available. you do need to get out of this relationship, though. It seems like your boyfriend does not want a baby or else he would have one. he has had 3 chances and let them all pass him by. what makes you so sure hes telling the truth about the two of you having a baby after your abortion? and even if you do have his baby somewhere down the road, do you want to raise the little one in an abusive home? the baby living inside of you right now will be better cared for if you have it by yourself (as in out of your current relationship) than a baby will be raised by your boyfriend in the future. your boyfriend does not sound like someone who should be having children if he has alcohol problems and abuses you. i think you will be a fine mother if you decide to have this baby and get as far away from your b/f as possible. good luck in whatever decision you make. god bless.
oh my goodness all of you make such a great point. i woke up crying this morning because i had dreams about an abortion. my baby being sucked into a tube, being in a cold surgical room where the doctors have no sympathy, just "another one for the day". i will never forgive myself. i want to have children so bad, and yes, what if this is the only chance i have? i kept asking and asking him lastnight that if i get this abortion, will he still love me? will he still want to marry me? will he still want to try to have another baby? I'm so POSITIVE this baby is his! but there is always that posibility that it isnt, and that hurts me. james said that he will stop the drinking. but its easier said than done. we've been togather for almost a year, and the longest hes been wtihout a drink is 14 days. I cant deal wtih my baby asking me "mommy why do you cry all the time? why does daddy get angry? why dosnt he let us sleep?" He totally drank around his kid. and hes done innoproperate things like punnishing her too hard, shaking her crib, playing mind games, minipulating her to hate her mother... i was around that. i saw him hit her repeatively and i ran out the house and called the police and the mother. well, as to say, they were in a custody battle anywy, and since i did that he ended up signing her over so the mom can move to oregon to get married and have a new life. they had a purely sexual relationship, he didnt love her, so there were lotsa problems. anyway, im getting off track. but i do seem to answer my own questions over and over. its so hard to actually do it. ive left several times. countless. id be gone anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks. (and the last time i left, i thought it was for sure, and i found myself being loved by another man. stupid me) Well, today im going to contact the other guy and let him know of my situation. i have the ultrasound on wednesday... i bet i'll run out of that clinic before they sit me down on the bed. no way in hell my little baby is going to be killed and sucked into a tube and thrown away with hundreds of little babys. I have mental images and its awfull. And to live with these images the rest of my life? I may have been irresponsible with what ive done, but it would be more irresponsible to not take care of the responsibility God gave me.
***APPLAUDS**** jenni good for to see once you have made your bed you have to lay in it. there is no gaurentee this man will love you....but your baby will always love you for letting it have a chance to live. there is so much help for a woman like you. i got housing, food stamps, and assistance for school and raised my son alone. it has been so rewarding. sometimes i got lonely or frustrated but i would look at my son and realize what love really is. i now have a wonderful hubby....you too ccan have all of it and your dreams...and still be a mom...single or not. keep your baby and find the help you need in your comunnity....department of human services or any chursh will surely help you...don't look to this man that could careless for you or your baby. he cares about drinking. my son's father was and still is an alcoholic. he still only cares that he has his booze....claims to love our son....but hasn't seen him in 4 yrs. if this man really wants to change he would of....he doesn't want to....he just wants to not be alone and and is trying to make you insecure so he doesn't have to be better.
you are so right kimmie. your a wonderful inspiration. I thought about this page all night lastnight, finally at 11:00 i got off the computer because nobody was responding to my page. :-( but its okay.
I was just on priestsforlife websight, i saw images of babies just growing their legs and arms, hands and feet, eyes and growing a body. i couldnt stop crying. Just looking at those little feet flushed the tears out. I love playing with babies feet and making them smile, giving them kisses all over and rasberries on the belly. playing "im gonna getchya!" i think about those things every single day, and what IF this is the only chance i get. Ive been told that i cant have kids before, what if its permanent next time?
I cant get past the fact of it might not be james' baby. Id be devistated. Ive had my heart set on it. I truely do love him, dont i? or do i feel that he's the only one that loves me? or am i afraid of letting him go and knowing that i could be replaced and all that love i thought we had was flushed. I cant imagine life without him, ive been gone, and hated everything so much, id always come back. but is he worth those little toes? I give myself the pro's and con's, and with every mood i have one outweighs the other. Sometimes i think, "im over it, im going through too much, its best to have the abortion. then sometimes i think " im keeping it, im moving out and going to my parents, and raising this baby" and then i think... "i'll only have it if the ultrasound tells me its his" .... and then i think of the guilt. I have a cycle of emotions, they all seem like the right thing to do for the different ways of thinking. I think i'll be making a spur of the moment decision after that ultrasound. Hopefully it will be the best decision for myself, and my baby.
these are the dates...
started period july 29th
most fertil aug. 9-15
left james on the 19th
had sex 20-25th
started period 27th
came home on the 28th
started trying to have a baby right away
sept 3rd, still spotting
most fertile 7th-13th
changes in mood 20/22nd
supposed to start period around the 25th-27th, but never did
found out im pregnant on the 1st of oct.
if i got pregnant after the 3rd, im good to go. gives a week leeway incase its wrong. but to be EXTRA sure, its best if i was conceived around the 7th, and after. Ultrasounds arnt EXACTLY accurate.
i think about this every single day i stress myself out on dates and feelings. i wish there was a rock big enough to crawl under, or the floor would swallow me up.
I'm sorry, but why does it matter WHO the father is? I would be more devastated if your bf WAS the father. I know you can't see yourself with anyone else, but you have to broaden your vision to see the big picture. You are repeating the cycle if you raise this child in an environment similiar to your own, an abusive husband/bf. And you would be putting your baby in the same position as you were when you were a child. Is that what you want?
Is it possible you have been in this relationship so long that you just don't want to be alone? I've been there. I was engaged to a horrible man and tried leaving several times, but when I got on my own, I was so lonely I would take anyone, even him, back. That doesn't make it the best decision. It's what is best for you and your baby. I personally don't want you to abort that baby, but I also don't think it's a good idea to raise a child in this situation. If you're not even safe with this man, what makes you think a baby would be safe to have with him? What about adoption if you find out the baby is not his? Not even an option?
If you did indeed get your period after having sex with the other guy, most likely it is not his.
Get out, get out now. If he hurts you ar ethe baby, that is something you cannot take back. Better to get out now than spend the rest of your life worrying that he would harm you are your baby. What on earth would make you think he would be any different with your baby than with his other one? If he is will to harm his own flesh and blood, a defenseless baby, why would you be immune?
Anyway, this decision is yours, but my advice is to do what it best for you. Being with him isn't on that list. Get some counseling, get out.
ITS SO HARD! he gives me everything. a beatiful home, he takes me to and from work, i dont pay for anything because he understands that i have college tuitions and other bills that are super high. if im working to pay off bills right now, what makes me think that i can support a baby with whats left?
I wonder about how my baby will be treated. i want him to talk to my belly and rub my feet, he promises he will stop drinking... yet he swares this isnt his child.
the doctors told me that you usually have one last period,a normal one. but if i got pregnant during my ovulation, wouldnt that stop the menstural cycle?
oh gosh, i gotta get ready for work. i'll be on after 9:00 (ca time)i really look foward to hearing from all you women. you have so much to say and i listen to every single word,
This may be one the last posts before we run out of space.....but there is nothing anyone can/will say to make her leave this guy. It's a sad situation but she's just going to have to make this mistake on her own to learn from it. I feel for the baby, regardless of what she decides to do with it. Anyone who is reading this please remember, there is no justification for hitting a woman....EVER! Men are stronger than women (listen, I'm a little feminist too, anything a man can do I can do too, but it's true), and even in self-defense, can inflict much more damage. He does not love you if he's insecure enough to lay a hand on you. There is help out there for battered women, especially pregnant ones. The internet is a great tool to find these shelters. Always make informed decisions before you act, especially on controversial decisions like abortions. Good Luck to All!
he swears it isn't his cuz he doesn't want it....by the dates given this IS his baby. are you in canada....my hubby is from there. they will give you housing and an apartment, a mothers allowance and a child bonus every month. cananda has SO much to give single moms it isn't funny. hubby ran to the store....the min he gets home i am going to ask him what his ex gets and then post the numbers....i am a nurse and this woman makes more than me and has a better house...she doesn't work and i work 40 hrs a week....so you will be fine!!!! keep your baby and leave this guy. just becuz you love him doesn't mean he is the one for you or good for you. many of us have loved someone not goo for us and had to leave to make ourselves better....it is your turn!!!!
This all sounds weird to me, but here goes anyway:
First, how old are you? You said you would be 26 when the child went to school making you about 19 or 20. You are too young to be having children let alone an abortion. Why were you not using protection. If you have left your boyfriend several times, slept with other guys, want to have an abortion but then turn around and try for another baby, you are not ready for children. Children deserve a happy and safe home full of love, responsibility, and security. Do you honestly think you can provide these things where you are now?
Second, why do you want to have a baby so bad with someone who you are not married to, doesn't treat you well, wants you to have an abortion, and being so young? You need to stop thinking about yourself and this person you are with and start thinking about this child.
Third, you have to wait quite awhile before trying again after an abortion. Something is being taken out of your body unnaturally. Your body needs time to heal. I don't know any doctor that thinks that you need 90 days to heal after a miscarriage but says you only need 30 days after an abortion. You might want a second opinion on that one. It should be a moot point anyway since you are not ready to have children should you get an abortion and stay with this guy.
I know nothing anyone writes here is going to make you change your mind on anything, but you should reread all of our posts. Not only are you in a bad relationship and really young, you are bringing a child into it.
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