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Realtionships are hard to let go
Okay well, i just got off the phone with him and he was crying himself we really love each other he said he is gonna come see me and i so want to believe him but i dont know what to do i am so scared of a heart break i am not on drugs or prostituting neither i am a happy 18 year old woman and love makes u do stupid things but he is the first man i have been with and i dont understand this we have never done this before weve been together for a year and a half and have been through trials and tribulations like weve been together for 5 years. he said he is gona come see me and he apoligized for what he did i am gonna stay at my moms and try to get it together but i want him in my life i love him with all my heart and i really have no one else to turn to i think about myself all the time and sometimes that is the problem i am trying to make it i just turned 18 last month and already going through problems i really enjoy hearing you guys and it makes me feel like i have a family on here thank you and i will keep you posted on the situation
I just happened to think of something. Why are you homelss at 18? Most people don't even think about moving out of their parents home till they are 18.What kind of life have you lives to be in that kind of situation at such a young age. Are you wanting him so bad caus you feel lke you need someone to take care of you. I really think you need to fucus on you right now. Learn how to take care of yourself.You need to get on your feet before you even think about having a long term relationship. Don't let this guy pull the wool over your eyes. Men can be so convincing. Don't be gullible.remember. first time your fault, second time ,mine.
I JUST WANT TO SAY I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I THINK EVERYONE NEEDS TO GO THROUGH IT. I AM NOT THAT MUCH OLDER THAT YOU, BUT I HAVE COME TO REALIZE THAT WHEN YOU ARE 18, THERE SHOULD BE MORE FOR YOU TO FOCUS ON THAN JUST SOME GUY. I KNOW HE MEANS A LOT TO YOU AND EVERYTHING. BUT YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE. YOU ARE LIVING WITH YOUR MOM RIGHT NOW, WHICH IS WHERE YOU SHOULD BE. YOU DON'T HAVE ANY KIDS (DO YOU?). YOU SHOULD BE FOCUSING ON SCHOOL AND ON YOUR FUTURE INSTEAD OF HIM. IF YOU FOCUS ON SCHOOL AND GETTING AN EDUCATION AND GETTING YOUR LIFE TOGETHER SO YOU CAN GET A GOOD JOB AND BE FINANCIALLY SECURE BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN. BY THEN YOU WILL BE TOO GROWN FOR THE DRAMA. YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YEARS DOWN LINE. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO DEAL WITH HIM FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE CONFUSED AND GOING BACK AND FORTH TO YOUR MOM'S HOUSE? THE THING I HAD TO REALIZE ABOUT MARRYING SOMEONE IS THE FACT THAT I'LL KNOW WHEN IT'S RIGHT AND I WON'T HAVE TO QUESTION WHETHER OR NOT HE'S BEING FAITHFUL OR WHETHER OR NOT HE LOVES ME. I'LL JUST KNOW. THINK ABOUT THAT.
No offense taken (to Sailor's wife). I also think this situation is serious and hope Jameslady is getting some help. Please post, so we know that you are all right.
They haven't been together 5 years. They've been together a little over 1 year, but she said it felt like 5 years.
At 18, if a guy has a "babys momma" (Gosh, I feel like a rap singer)...and he goes off and parties with her, and she's a lesbian...and this young woman is homeless, depending on him for a place to live......how much clearer could it get. She needs some adult intervention, and quick. He needs to be kicked to the curb, but only so she can find some help and quit being used by this guy. I got married at 24, and it was too young. I think it should be law (LOL) that you can't get married until at least 30.
Seriously, you're never "ready" but, the more time you give yourself, the better.
At 18, if a guy has a "babys momma" (Gosh, I feel like a rap singer)...and he goes off and parties with her, and she's a lesbian...and this young woman is homeless, depending on him for a place to live......how much clearer could it get. She needs some adult intervention, and quick. He needs to be kicked to the curb, but only so she can find some help and quit being used by this guy. I got married at 24, and it was too young. I think it should be law (LOL) that you can't get married until at least 30.
Seriously, you're never "ready" but, the more time you give yourself, the better.
I don't think I was trying to tell anyone to "leave the jerk." I like to think I am more open then that. I was letting her know from my experience that things do get easier. I remember being 18 and thinking I would stay with my high school boyfriend forever. The point I was trying to make is I am 35 now and pretty much can't believe I was so upset when that same guy broke up with me. I realize that is difficult to understand when you are 18. That is why I suggested the poster discuss her situation with a trusted adult. Jameslady also mentioned that she was staying with her mother. I guess I assumed that is where she was staying, since she said she was staying there.
I remember being 18 and thinking I was in love. Let me tell you, it's been 17 years since then, and I laugh at what I thought was love back then. It may be hard to hear that, but you are very young. Please talk to an adult you trust; your mom maybe. She may tell you the same thing. I didn't get marreid until I was 27. There was too much to figure out about life before that. Now that I'm 35, I think 27 may have been too young! Don't be in a rush to grow up.
I really enjoyed your comment, wow!! I'm glad you mentioned when you were married and that you still think it was too young. I am 25, and seriously can't even imagine the thought of getting married right now. I just know it's not time. Your comment is reassuring for me, that there is absolutely no need to rush!!
O.k, you are newly 18 right? how old is James? and if you have been with him for 5 years,you said in your other post he has a "babymama"!! how old is the baby? If the baby was born during your relationship, he obviously isnt going to change his ways, and you need to get out now while you have the chance.I was young, i know what it's like to have found what you think is your first true love, you think there will never be any other man like him, but trust me, there are so many good men out there, you need to live your life to the fullest, these are supposed to be your best years of your life.Dont let him ruin them
Let me clarify what one of the above posters said...
The ladies here are very willing to help you with your situation, but MedHelp only allows a certain number of new threads a day, so every time you open a new thread about the same topic, it takes an opportunity away from someone else. You can just keep adding to this one. They'll allow sometimes up to 40 comments, so don't worry about running out of space.
The ladies here are very willing to help you with your situation, but MedHelp only allows a certain number of new threads a day, so every time you open a new thread about the same topic, it takes an opportunity away from someone else. You can just keep adding to this one. They'll allow sometimes up to 40 comments, so don't worry about running out of space.
Here is your opportunity to change your life forever, and for good. Now is the time to be strong and realise that you are a good person on your own, and you don't need him. YOU DON'T NEED HIM.
If you walk away from him now, and start a new life on your own, living with your mother, you will have the power to be successful at whatever you want to do with your life. You could be a doctor, a lawyer, run a major corporation. Because if you walk away, you will demonstrate a character and an inner strength that many women don't have. Don't throw your life away for a man who treats you so badly.
YOU DON'T NEED HIM. Work on yourself, make yourself strong, and move on.
If you walk away from him now, and start a new life on your own, living with your mother, you will have the power to be successful at whatever you want to do with your life. You could be a doctor, a lawyer, run a major corporation. Because if you walk away, you will demonstrate a character and an inner strength that many women don't have. Don't throw your life away for a man who treats you so badly.
YOU DON'T NEED HIM. Work on yourself, make yourself strong, and move on.
You're 18? Don't take this the wrong way but you are too young to be so serious about this man. You've been with him for 5 years? That's all your teenage years. You're a totally different person now than you were when you first started dating.
My advice to you is stay at your moms and try to find yourself. You're going to grow and change so much over the next 5+ years. You need to go to school or get a job and support yourself. Keep dating him if you must, but don't make him your entire life. Go out with friends and experience life. It will be hard, but after time you will look back and wonder why you didn't do this for yourself sooner.
My advice to you is stay at your moms and try to find yourself. You're going to grow and change so much over the next 5+ years. You need to go to school or get a job and support yourself. Keep dating him if you must, but don't make him your entire life. Go out with friends and experience life. It will be hard, but after time you will look back and wonder why you didn't do this for yourself sooner.
you dont need to start a new conversation everytime. please go back to your orginal one.
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