Surgery soon for hysterectomy,sacrocolpopexy,rectopexy, bladder sling, lots of fears , questions

Dr.        Help! Lots of questions> New to this forum. I am 53 yr old, nulliparous, slightly obese--BMI 30.3, having surgery 4/21/09 for multiple  prolapse issues and incontinence and  I am terrified! I have a prolapsed uterus  stage 2 with cervix  outside of vagina; cystocele; large rectocele; stress incontinence, full rectal prolapse; fecal incontinence. I have had so many tests I can't count. Some rectal nerve damage.I have been referred up to Portland, 4 1/2 hr drive away for a combined surgery with Urogynecologist and Rectal Surgeon. I am  worried about having TVT bladder sling and sacrocolpopexy with poly..mesh.Have heard such horrible stories about mesh complications and wondering about use of cadaver, bovine or own skin in place of mesh. Do most surgeons agree to this? are results better?
Also, they plan on open abdominal surgery for all...would laparoscopic surgery be better? Can they do it with the number of procedures involved? worried about complications of bladder sling--leg pain, unable to pee, peeing 20 times a day etc.? Are the risks worth it for mild/moderate stress incontinence?
Have had chronic constipation and wondering why dr didn;t suggest a resection on colon with rectopexy. Ideas?
Doctor said in hospital 2-3 days, but I am reading 3-8 days average..what do you think?to make things worse, I am out of work and NO insurance.



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