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Worried about who the father is?
I had sex with someone between jan 16-24 and then slept with someone with my boyfriend on from feb 3 on and didn't use a condom with either. the dr. told me my conception dates by the ultsounds was feb 10th. I am currently 36 1/2 weeks pregnant. My due date is november 4th. i have had 5 ultrasound that say its nov 4th and one said it was oct 31. well i remember having a period that started on jan 28 or 29. i am wondering which one might be the father. this past week the doctor told me i could have the baby at anytime. so if i have the baby before november 4th would that make the guy in jan the more likely father or would it still be the guy in feb? could all five of the ultrasounds been wrong or are they the most accurate of telling how far along i am? and wouldn't i be father along than 36 weeks for the baby to be the guys in jan???
More than likely it's your bf's. but women go into labor at all different times, just because you go in earlier than nov. doesnt mean it's the other mans baby,KWIM??
the only sure fire way is to have a dna test done
the only sure fire way is to have a dna test done
well they are the only two people i have been with. i know it sounds like im a hoe or something, but i am really not. it was a mistake with the the ex in jan and the guy in feb we are still together and getting married. but they both know the truth i told them the truth as soon as i found out.
no just two sorry, i was really tired when i was writing that... nope just the one is jan, he was my ex of 3yrs and then the one from feb 3 on. all the ultrasounds i have had have told me nov 4 which by the wheel things puts my conception dates between feb8 and feb 12. sorry for the confusion
Can you clarify - your posting is sort of confusing. Are you saying that you slept with three guys? Your post says:
"I had sex with someone between jan 16-24 and then slept with someone with my boyfriend on from feb 3 on and didn't use a condom with either. "
So we have
1. "someone"
2. then "someone WITH my boyfriend"
is that three guys? Aside from the paternity issue, hon, you need to practice safe sex. I am not sure how old you are but if you are old enough to be having sex, you are old enough to be responsible about it. Not only will you avoid surprise pregnancies but it could save your life.
"I had sex with someone between jan 16-24 and then slept with someone with my boyfriend on from feb 3 on and didn't use a condom with either. "
So we have
1. "someone"
2. then "someone WITH my boyfriend"
is that three guys? Aside from the paternity issue, hon, you need to practice safe sex. I am not sure how old you are but if you are old enough to be having sex, you are old enough to be responsible about it. Not only will you avoid surprise pregnancies but it could save your life.
I would agree with everyone. I would say that your b/f is the father. A paternity test is not a bad idea though, just to ease your guys'es mind. Did the Jan guy and you have unprotected sex as well? Be careful with that.
Good luck.
Good luck.
If you had a period in Jan then the other guy most likely is not the father. I am due November 1st and the Dr told me my conception date was most likely Feb 1st. I had a period in Jan. But at 37 weeks you are considered full term. So I can have my baby between now and Nov 1st (or 2 weeks after) and he is full term.
Oh..... I posted a response in your third question before seeing these other two posts.
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The earlier the ultrasound, the more accurate it is. So if your first ultrasound was at 5.5 weeks pg and every u/s since then has agreed with the due date then I'd say you can be confident in that date. A due date of November 4th, would put your last menstrual period starting on January 28th, and the conception date somewhere around February 11, 2006 (+/- about a week). So it sounds to me like your boyfriend is the father.
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The earlier the ultrasound, the more accurate it is. So if your first ultrasound was at 5.5 weeks pg and every u/s since then has agreed with the due date then I'd say you can be confident in that date. A due date of November 4th, would put your last menstrual period starting on January 28th, and the conception date somewhere around February 11, 2006 (+/- about a week). So it sounds to me like your boyfriend is the father.
me and by bf didnt use a condom at all from feb 3 on till now. and he did his business you know where so i think he would more likely be the father bc if not i think all 5 ultrasounds would have shown the baby more weeks and an earlier due date dont you think?
Ok if your conception date is Feb10th then Yes the father should be your bf.However that is only if your concep. was feb10th. if it was sooner than feb10th like I said the following I explained about the sperm would be something taken in to concideration.
Don't know what else to say execept because the dates are so close together you wont know unless you have a pat. test done. Also like I said just mention it to your dr they might be able to explain it more clearly to you and it may solve your probblem because they will be able to say for certain the conception date and that should rull any doubt out or narrow it down correctly.
Don't know what else to say execept because the dates are so close together you wont know unless you have a pat. test done. Also like I said just mention it to your dr they might be able to explain it more clearly to you and it may solve your probblem because they will be able to say for certain the conception date and that should rull any doubt out or narrow it down correctly.
i had sex with my bf from feb 3 on up till now. we never stoped at feb 3 that was just the day i first had sex with him. i was told me conception date was feb 10 by the 5 ultrasounds i had. maybe i should have told you that. we were even having sex on the 10th.. i am 36 weeks now. i would be father along if i it was the guys in jan right? and my due date wouldnt be nov 4th. it would be in oct.
uhhh I am really sorry to hear about your confusing situation and i don't mean to make it sound worse but the only way is to have a paternty test because you said that you had se with someone between jan16-24th then had sex with your bf on the 3rd of feb....well that leave aprox 10 days from the last day24th you had sex and unfort. sperm can survive in the cervix even if you wash,douche(DO NOT DO THIS EVER THO) etc. it can survive for anwhere between 3-10 days anywhere in the cervix.so your options are very far apart to be able to determine an accurate conception date even tho dr's with todays tech. are able to be almost exact on it doesn't matter in your case because of the fact that sperm can surrive that long.
So talk to your dr! it's the only thing you can do they might even be able to help you choose a place that may even offer free pater. testing and don't feel awkward or scared to talk about that you don't know who the father may be because they are professionals and have dealt with issuse exactly like this before even if they have NEVER dealt with it,chance are they work with someone who has and anyways they teach you all this in med school so DONT be affraid to bring it up! You owe it to yourself/this child and the father!!
GOODLUCK!!!!
So talk to your dr! it's the only thing you can do they might even be able to help you choose a place that may even offer free pater. testing and don't feel awkward or scared to talk about that you don't know who the father may be because they are professionals and have dealt with issuse exactly like this before even if they have NEVER dealt with it,chance are they work with someone who has and anyways they teach you all this in med school so DONT be affraid to bring it up! You owe it to yourself/this child and the father!!
GOODLUCK!!!!
hey hun sounds quite complicating all those dates and stuff why dnt u just stop stressing yourself and wait till u get birth and see from there, plus you can always do DNA of the baby to find out exactly(dnt tell ur bf that u'll do that though:)
All the best to u girl and ignor bad comments here
All the best to u girl and ignor bad comments here
i am just worried bc my due date is nov 4th and then wouldnt my conception dat be in feb. bc if it was in jan wouldnt my due date be in oct? also the doc has done 5 ultrasounds and they have all said i was due on nov 4th. i am 36 weeks today from what my doc told me today at my appt. so does that mean it's the baby is the one is feb or jan??
With both of my pregnancies I had a "period" during the first month of pregnancy. That completely threw off the MDs but I knew exactly when I got pregnant and the pregnancy tests were positive before and after my "period".
Are you in contact with both potential fathers? Do you know their blood types (that could narrow it down). If all else fails you may need to have paternity tests run. Not fun but whomever is the father needs to support that child.
Are you in contact with both potential fathers? Do you know their blood types (that could narrow it down). If all else fails you may need to have paternity tests run. Not fun but whomever is the father needs to support that child.
what? its not a hard question. just curious about the due date if it was the guys in jan the due date would be sooner than nov 4th!
With all due seriousness, I think you should be contacting Maury Povich to help figure this one out.
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