i don't know if i can get pregnant

[brandnewtragedy]

When i was little from 8 to 13 i was molested by my stepdad, and i've tried to get pregnant several times, and its never happened, does it have anything to do with being molested or am i just messed up? I'd really like to have kids if not now, some day...but i'm not sure i can actually get pregnant i don't see why i haven't already i've tried everything. Whats wrong with me?

[BriannasMommy]

im 19 and and i just had my baby 6 weeks ago hunny having a baby is a blessing i love brianna with all my heart but i was enrolled in UNH with a full scholarship (i was a foster child) for forensic science i was going to be a Medical examiner 6 years of college paid in full. now im going for nursing with e pell grant cuz im a single mother. its a bout a 4th of the pay and im not as proud. i didnt think i could get pregntnt me n my boyfriend were having sex everyday for over 2 years (were kinda nimfs lol) so i just figured i couldnt get pregnent. then all of a sudden here comes baby brianna. so now im at a cummunity college with a baby thankfully i have a loving fiance who pays all the bills and supports me in school and helps with the baby but he also works 10-12hr days so hes tyerd to. you wanna affer your baby the best of everything so and have the most oppertunities to fulfil her/his dreams so basicly what im saying is

A. You dont know you cant get prego till you see a doctor (took me 2 years)
B.Have a life 1st go to college have a husband do it by the book its worth it!
C. love that baby more then you ever loved anything in the worl
D. GET AN EPIDURAL!!! lol (16 hrs of back labor then decided to get one)

[Rawme]

I'm not sure what state u live in, but it sounds like a third world country! You are only 19 and maybe u r just blessed to no get prego at this time. I highly doubt ur  truly able to care for urself  let alone another life. Get an education & find a husband before u end up knocked up and alone. It sounds that u r trying to fix ur problems this way. Try a good therapist to help u through this. I can tell u r truly crying for help. Oh & for that tnt406 u forgiving ur pervert dad does not make open the doors to heaven & if that is ur choice then so be it. Don't assume that is the right thing & encourage this girl to forgive that animal who striped the tragedy girl of her purity & dignity. You just want acceptance & will go to any extreme to get it. If u feel validated for caring for ur dieing nasty father than rock on, but u should protect ur kids from this beast!

[tnt406]

YOUR WELCOME BRANDI COME BACK TO THE FORUM AND TALK WITH US AND LET US KNOW HOW YOUR DOING HON.TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF.TNT406

[brandnewtragedy]

Ok thank you very much, i have an appointment at 9:45 friday morning. so i'll get it all fixed hopefully. Thanks for the advice it is much appreciated. -Brandi

[tnt406]

DEAR BRANDI MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU.I AM 33 YEARS OLD OLD,I WAS MOLESTED BY MY DADDY.I HAVE FOR GAVE HIM,BEACAUSE THAT IS WHAT GOD WANTS US TO DO FOR GIVE.I AM NOW CARING FOR MY DADDY,HE HAS A TUMOR ON HIS LUNG, HE HAS IT REMOVED TOMORROW.I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR STEP DADDY DONE,BUT IT SHOULDN'T BE CAUSING YOU PROBLEMS NOT TO CONCIEVE.UNLESS HE VIOLENTLY ABUSIVE IN AWAY TO WHERE HE MIGHT HAVE DAMAGED YOUR REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS.GOING TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD FRIDAY IS A REAL GOOD IDEA.YOU ARE NOT ALONE,THERE ARE SEVERAL WOMEN WHO HAVE SURVIVED SEXUAL MOLESTATION.WE SHOUT AT THE TOP OF OUR LUNGS SAYING WE ARE NOT WEAK WE ARE STRONG AND WE WILL OVER COME THIS EVERY DAY.I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS TO BRANDI,PRAY TO GOD IN HEAVEN TO GIVE YOU STRENGTH EVERY DAY,AND HE WILL.TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF BRANDI GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU.TNT406

[brandnewtragedy]

Well no i've not had testing, by trying i mean, i was engaged about 2 years ago and him and i were trying for a baby, nearly every day. Nothing. And this time i wasn't actually trying to get pregnant, i have a friend with benifits, and for a while i THOUGHT that i was pregnant, i took 2 tests one was pos. one was neg. and i'm going to planned parenthood friday to find out for sure but i have a feeling its neg. I honestly don't think that i can get pregnant. Thats really upsetting, I'm still really young i mean, i'm 19. And i shouldn't be thinking about having kids before i'm married or w/e but someday, i'd like to. And it just seems that if i can't because of the stuff with my step dad....well my mom, no  one beleived me, but the proof, doesn't seem worth it. idk what to do... -Brandi