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no question..
just glad to have found a site where people talk about what their going through. I quit smoking in october 2009. I got so confused and depressded, i thought i'd lost my mind..i almost lust my job...and if that was not enough to deal with i have gained 20 pounds...and i was already 10 pounds past my average weight.!!
I ran across this web site, sounded like something that could help me with my weight loss goals and hopefully find a friend or two.
I ran across this web site, sounded like something that could help me with my weight loss goals and hopefully find a friend or two.
1st of all welcome. I'm glad to have you here. You can always check out the other forums expecially the expert forums. I don't really understand why smoking would make you lose wait. I do think maybe it could be because of stress from wanting to lose weight. I don't know if you have an eating problem but it wouldn't hurt to post on the emotional eating expert forum. There are real doctors on the expert forum. Don't know if you know or not. Anyway good luck with your health issues and stuff. And hope things work out for you. Please keep updates.
The emotional eating expert forum doctor is now back. I just saw that he was accepting posts.
Sorry about the heavy post. Usually I wouldn't be so careless but I'm struggling a little with my own issues. Usually I would be a little more conservative.
I'm glad you wrote back.
I am rarely objective with my own issues. It is so easy to get caught in the emotional aspects of an issue. I don't like people poking my sore spots very much.
My doctor has sometimes asked me to try and step outside my situation and view it from the perspective of a friend, etc. I still find that a hard skill to master. I find it good having the forums, in particular the expert forums, to bounce ideas around.
That doesn't really seem to make much sense, to me at least, to start smoking to lose weight. On some level it does, but all the health risks that go with it ... to me that shows a level of desperation.
It's crazy what we, or some people, will do to lose weight or to feel better about themselves. That includes pills and silly diets, etc.
That must have been hard for both you and your mum. People can be extremely judgmental especially around weight and disabilities. Around any issue really. In my experience those judgments are the very things that seem to keep us stuck. We become extremely good at internalizing other peoples criticisms of us.
A lot of people seem to have issues with their parents behavior. Despite all the hurt and losses it doesn't mean we love them any less, and in some cases, can actually love them more. We can become quite protective of them too.
It takes a lot to be able to be firm about what you want. To even know what you want growing up in an environment like that.
You used past tense. I'm very sorry if your mother has passed away.
Self-esteem/ self-doubts. A good place to go would be to the emotional eating expert forum. Dr Gould, that forum expert, has written a book which also includes material on self-doubts, etc. I think it is called, Shrink Yourself: Break free from emotional eating forever. I should know, I have a copy somewhere. It has some good stuff in it. You might find a copy at your local library. ??
I feel great too when I am at a lower weight. Are you able to keep the weight off once you lose it? Just curious. My problem isn't so much losing weight but maintaining it. My emotional issues go very deep. I'm getting better though.
My recommendation would be to post a question to the expert on the emotional eating expert forum when he gets back (and maybe even read through some of the archived posts).
I'm wondering if a short period of counseling or psychotherapy would help you.
You sound extremely strong but there also sounds like something that you might need to resolve. It sounds like you might be nearly there but not quite.
I'm glad you wrote back.
I am rarely objective with my own issues. It is so easy to get caught in the emotional aspects of an issue. I don't like people poking my sore spots very much.
My doctor has sometimes asked me to try and step outside my situation and view it from the perspective of a friend, etc. I still find that a hard skill to master. I find it good having the forums, in particular the expert forums, to bounce ideas around.
That doesn't really seem to make much sense, to me at least, to start smoking to lose weight. On some level it does, but all the health risks that go with it ... to me that shows a level of desperation.
It's crazy what we, or some people, will do to lose weight or to feel better about themselves. That includes pills and silly diets, etc.
That must have been hard for both you and your mum. People can be extremely judgmental especially around weight and disabilities. Around any issue really. In my experience those judgments are the very things that seem to keep us stuck. We become extremely good at internalizing other peoples criticisms of us.
A lot of people seem to have issues with their parents behavior. Despite all the hurt and losses it doesn't mean we love them any less, and in some cases, can actually love them more. We can become quite protective of them too.
It takes a lot to be able to be firm about what you want. To even know what you want growing up in an environment like that.
You used past tense. I'm very sorry if your mother has passed away.
Self-esteem/ self-doubts. A good place to go would be to the emotional eating expert forum. Dr Gould, that forum expert, has written a book which also includes material on self-doubts, etc. I think it is called, Shrink Yourself: Break free from emotional eating forever. I should know, I have a copy somewhere. It has some good stuff in it. You might find a copy at your local library. ??
I feel great too when I am at a lower weight. Are you able to keep the weight off once you lose it? Just curious. My problem isn't so much losing weight but maintaining it. My emotional issues go very deep. I'm getting better though.
My recommendation would be to post a question to the expert on the emotional eating expert forum when he gets back (and maybe even read through some of the archived posts).
I'm wondering if a short period of counseling or psychotherapy would help you.
You sound extremely strong but there also sounds like something that you might need to resolve. It sounds like you might be nearly there but not quite.
Thanks for the insitefull post. heavy but it hit home. funny how someone outsde the emotional circle can come to the base of a problem,, actually i started smoking to lose weight, i m from a family of big people,especialy my mom. I watched her struggle all her life with health problems, alcoholism,and the judgement of others due to her size. I grew up trying not to follow in her health choice footsteps. she was a wonderful loving womam, dont misunderstand me i loved her, but didnt want to repeat her health issues or her personal weight embarasments.
after saying all that i will add that i have always struggled with self-esteem issues...and still do. i don.t know how to change that...so you are right ion the head with smoking being self-medicating...when i am slender, i feel good, confident, in controll...and if i could just lose these extra pounds i could be back on track.. Thanks for listening, i will certainly check out the recommended sites. keep in touch.
after saying all that i will add that i have always struggled with self-esteem issues...and still do. i don.t know how to change that...so you are right ion the head with smoking being self-medicating...when i am slender, i feel good, confident, in controll...and if i could just lose these extra pounds i could be back on track.. Thanks for listening, i will certainly check out the recommended sites. keep in touch.
Welcome to this forum and this website.
Innerchild and myself talk a lot about issues in our own lives. It doesn't replace professional support but it is a good place to come for support and to vent. We also chat in the hope that others will feel safe enough to post. (Our issues get a bit old sometimes. It's nice to get a reprieve from them.)
Congrats on the stopping smoking.
Do you mind me saying what I see or think? My belief is that the emotional eating (the thing that is causing you to be overweight) and the smoking are coping strategies to deal with the underlying issues (what is really causing you distress).
I think the confusion and the low mood was because you lost what you were using to self-medicate.
This sounds a bit heavy for a first post doesn't it. I guess I would rather someone shared their thoughts with me rather than I floundered for ages. Good advice can sometimes make a huge difference to a persons recovery. Every persons journey will be different though.
I understand some issues regarding weight. Been there, done that.
With all the stress leading up to Christmas I put on truck loads of weight. Are trying now to address both the weight and emotional issues.
I think other really good resources for you to check out would be the emotional eating expert forum and that doctor's websites (shrinkyourself.com and myvirtualshrink.com). The weight loss and healthy lifestyle expert forum and that doctor's earliest blog, Eat less. Do more.). Both of those experts are currently away but will be back sometime to answer peoples questions.
It sounds like you've had a really rough time. Sounds like you're really determined to succeed though. I was told that wanting something was half the battle.
Keep posting but also look around at some of the other forums.
Innerchild and myself talk a lot about issues in our own lives. It doesn't replace professional support but it is a good place to come for support and to vent. We also chat in the hope that others will feel safe enough to post. (Our issues get a bit old sometimes. It's nice to get a reprieve from them.)
Congrats on the stopping smoking.
Do you mind me saying what I see or think? My belief is that the emotional eating (the thing that is causing you to be overweight) and the smoking are coping strategies to deal with the underlying issues (what is really causing you distress).
I think the confusion and the low mood was because you lost what you were using to self-medicate.
This sounds a bit heavy for a first post doesn't it. I guess I would rather someone shared their thoughts with me rather than I floundered for ages. Good advice can sometimes make a huge difference to a persons recovery. Every persons journey will be different though.
I understand some issues regarding weight. Been there, done that.
With all the stress leading up to Christmas I put on truck loads of weight. Are trying now to address both the weight and emotional issues.
I think other really good resources for you to check out would be the emotional eating expert forum and that doctor's websites (shrinkyourself.com and myvirtualshrink.com). The weight loss and healthy lifestyle expert forum and that doctor's earliest blog, Eat less. Do more.). Both of those experts are currently away but will be back sometime to answer peoples questions.
It sounds like you've had a really rough time. Sounds like you're really determined to succeed though. I was told that wanting something was half the battle.
Keep posting but also look around at some of the other forums.
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