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My family is giving me anxiety
All the things going on. I am stressed out. I have been having anxiety for the last 3 days. I know why. It is all this stress about what is going on with my family. Maybe I shouldn't be so upset by it but I can't help it. I am really stressed out. Everytime I try to do something I think about arguements and fights during our CHRISTMAS gathering. Don't any of them still have the Christmas spirit. Why do they have to fight now. So that's what has been going on. Anxiety. I can't concentrate on anything anymore. I feel like pulling my hair out. They are really getting on my nerves. I'll update later on to see if anything has changed. Hopefully it will. I just want to have a good time with my family. That's all I ask.
Well it was just a sugestion. I'm in a bad mood now because of the other post so I really don't have much to tell you right now. Maybe you'll come up with something you can do. Ok I need to go relax now since I'm mad.
I laughed when you wrote the part about the housework. I am a slob who HATES cleaning. And even if I did that sooner or later it wouldn't be good enough. No I'll probably just make her a lame card like I did when I was a kid. I mean I used to love doing that but it's no fun anymore. I just wish I could get her something, but I never will agian. So I guess that's all ther is to say right now.
Maybe there is something else you can do. Maybe you can surprise her by doing housework or makind something or something else. I know I tend to get sadder when I have no money. So if your that way that may explain why you've been down. It's to bad you don't feel into Christmas. Well I hope you feel better. I decided to check on here because I'm having trouble sleeping. I slept for maybe an hour then tossed and turned for awhile. Finally I got up for a bit and while at it I thought maybe I'll check on medhelp to see if anyone has typed anything.
I'm glad you had a good time out. I'm sure it took your mind off of the drama. I won't be buying anything. It's not that I'll spend cheap. I won't be spending anything unless money just poofed in front of me. Obviosly that won't happen. So I won't be able to get mom anything at all. Maybe it's a good thing I don't have friends. If I did I would probably let them down. Oh well. I don't feel Christmasy anyway. I'm glad you had fun.
Hello all. I did get to go out. I had a great time. We went to several stores. I did buy a few things but didn't go overboard. It was great. I usually write down all my feelings in a diary. Now sometimes I write here too now. So how are you two doing today? Just wondering. Today is ok for me so far. It's not great but it isn't bad either. I'm sure people will like the gifts even if you can't afford much.
I know what you mean. I'll probably never buy a Christmas preasant agian for my Mom. I guess I'm back to giving her free childish gifts. This stinks. But yeah I'm defintly stressed. I won't be seeing my family nor want to. That's how it is with my family. I feel like I was brought into the wrong family with one exception. The only time I go out is for stupid appointments. So that is how it is for me. Anyway it was nice hearing from both of you. In fact I think I'm way past stress. I guess we deal with stress in different ways. Like I pretend that this ain't my life. And I get absorbed in objects. I just can't deal with the way things are emotionally.
Hi guys. It does sound as though we are all still a little stressed.
Going to town is something that usually helps relieve a little of my anxiety. I went with my brother and his girlfriend. Stressful is not the word for it.
Her and I are a little different. She is being very Christmassy. I can't afford to spend money. Plus, I'm finding it difficult to try and grieve when there is this expectation that we should all be happy for Xmas. I need a break from everyone already.
I'll probably feel like a walking time bomb come next week with all the social activity.
Gee, that didn't make me feel that much better either. OK, maybe some deep breathing? I should probably try and do some exercise.
Probably the problem is that I binge eat when I'm stressed and that isn't really an option with others in the house.
Going to town is something that usually helps relieve a little of my anxiety. I went with my brother and his girlfriend. Stressful is not the word for it.
Her and I are a little different. She is being very Christmassy. I can't afford to spend money. Plus, I'm finding it difficult to try and grieve when there is this expectation that we should all be happy for Xmas. I need a break from everyone already.
I'll probably feel like a walking time bomb come next week with all the social activity.
Gee, that didn't make me feel that much better either. OK, maybe some deep breathing? I should probably try and do some exercise.
Probably the problem is that I binge eat when I'm stressed and that isn't really an option with others in the house.
I guess it could be. I don't know anymore. Anyways I hope you get to go out and have a good time with your friend. Between all the family stuff you need it. Well anyway I hope you have a good day. I'm pretty stressed out with my life as always. It's one of those days where I just want to feel like everyone else and fit in and be normal. Unfortantly I feel like I'm so far from where I want to be. And I feel like an oddball so much of the time.
The good news I didn't have to go out today. So I didn't have to deal with any social activities that make me unconfortable and nervous. Not counting on being on here. I'm ok with typing away. It's just out there dealing with people can be stressful at time. I guess it's my social phobia acting up agian. I was so busy venting about the test I forgot to mition how I felt dealing with social phobia. Well anyway hope to hear from both of you soon.
The good news I didn't have to go out today. So I didn't have to deal with any social activities that make me unconfortable and nervous. Not counting on being on here. I'm ok with typing away. It's just out there dealing with people can be stressful at time. I guess it's my social phobia acting up agian. I was so busy venting about the test I forgot to mition how I felt dealing with social phobia. Well anyway hope to hear from both of you soon.
It could be anxiety related. I don't know for sure what causes our minds to not work properly. Hopefully you did ok. I know I would hate to be faulsly labled with anything. Also I hope both of you feel better. Sometimes we need to vent. We just need to let it out and what better place than medhelp site. Well as for my family it can go in either direction. I'm not sure what will happen but at least there is some hope now. I may be going out with a friend later. I hope so. So I don't know if I'll be back on today or not. Well I'll talk later.
I don't mind the venting. It is good for you. Look at all the times I vented on this site. A lot. So you can vent as much as you want. I don't mind. If you have something on your mind don't hold bck. Feel free to talk about it. I won't judge you or anything. And I think that you are pretty stressed out. Anyway I think anytime you try to get govenment help you have to take an IQ test but I'm not sure. Maybe they think I'm you know the thing I hope I'm not. I mean I don't want anything wrong with me but if I must have something wrong I want to know the true reason. You know and if I am labled I'll feel like they are covering it up. Plus it ain't gonna help my selfesteem. I'll really feel stupid then.
Anyway take care and vent if you need too. I hope you feel better.
Anyway take care and vent if you need too. I hope you feel better.
Why did they send you for an IQ test?
I think anxiety affects our level or ability. I certainly feel dumb and I don't believe it is getting any better. When I am more anxious I feel dumber. More brain dead somehow.
My brother's girlfriend is organizing everyone and is getting all my brother's stuff (his whole lifetime of stuff) organized so that they can go through it and he can take some of it back with him.
I have lost a cousin. I feel like I am losing my brother.
It's been hard having all our stuff (which is packed away due to us finishing our house) pulled out. I was finally feeling that we were on top on things and then everything gets pulled out. Probably much, much more than he is able to take back with him.
It's so stressful. They have three weeks to do this, does it really need to be done now. Like now as in when we are all tired. Mum has severe head injuries and this can't be doing her much good. It would have taken her all this time just to partially recover from collecting my brother from the airport. Then we're traveling again next week.
I guess I'm tired. I didn't sleep well last night and I was upset about my cousin.
Sorry for venting so much.
Maybe all our issues are relative. We all seem a little stressed at present.
Take care.
I think anxiety affects our level or ability. I certainly feel dumb and I don't believe it is getting any better. When I am more anxious I feel dumber. More brain dead somehow.
My brother's girlfriend is organizing everyone and is getting all my brother's stuff (his whole lifetime of stuff) organized so that they can go through it and he can take some of it back with him.
I have lost a cousin. I feel like I am losing my brother.
It's been hard having all our stuff (which is packed away due to us finishing our house) pulled out. I was finally feeling that we were on top on things and then everything gets pulled out. Probably much, much more than he is able to take back with him.
It's so stressful. They have three weeks to do this, does it really need to be done now. Like now as in when we are all tired. Mum has severe head injuries and this can't be doing her much good. It would have taken her all this time just to partially recover from collecting my brother from the airport. Then we're traveling again next week.
I guess I'm tired. I didn't sleep well last night and I was upset about my cousin.
Sorry for venting so much.
Maybe all our issues are relative. We all seem a little stressed at present.
Take care.
Thanks both of you. Amylove21 I hope your family works out their problems. I really do. Maybe they'll work it out. At least they are taking the first step. Good luck with that.
Jaquata I hope everything turns out ok. I know this is a hard time. Also I hope we do get to chat more while that is going on.
Now about my test. Yes it was an IQ test. And I don't think I did that good on it. I feel like there were to many things I forgot. Plus it's a verbal test which I'm better doing tests on paper so of course I'd have to solve the problems in my head. Listen I know I used to be at least normal intellect wise. If I wasn't I would have done terrible in school but I am so messed up mentally now. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Unfortantly I don't know if and when I'll get my results. But I'm terrified. Someone I know took an IQ test once and answered all the questions who thought the test was easy didn't do so well. That person was concidered in the average range but in the lower average. So if that person only got that who knows what mine would be! Oh the news keeps getting better and better. Not really. Turns out the person testing me believes that a person with a normal IQ all their life can become mentally challenged. I asked her about it before my test in case you are wondering. So that could end up being me. I feel like my IQ has dropped. So I may end up labled something that I may be temperarly from lack of memory for my whole life even if my memory comes back and I'm in the normal range agian. If I failed I mean. So because my mind is messed up now could effect on what people see me as because of my mind being messed up. I just don't want to be labled that because I know there was a time I was normal and I may or may not become normal agian. Also it may end up stopping me from finding out the root of my problem if I'm labled falsly. But I don't know maybe I am one of those people who suddenly become mentally challenged. Also I'm disapointed because you know how I keep feeling that there is something else wrong with me. I was really hoping that I'd be tested for other things in case I am right. But now if there is something else which could be what is causing my mental decline is going on may be covered up by my results of my test. So I may find out the effect that I am mentally challenged but I'll never know the why. And my phychitrist didn't really comment on my problems. He didn't really tell me if it is the bipolar that is causing it. So maybe it is that, but I don't know.
Jaquata I hope everything turns out ok. I know this is a hard time. Also I hope we do get to chat more while that is going on.
Now about my test. Yes it was an IQ test. And I don't think I did that good on it. I feel like there were to many things I forgot. Plus it's a verbal test which I'm better doing tests on paper so of course I'd have to solve the problems in my head. Listen I know I used to be at least normal intellect wise. If I wasn't I would have done terrible in school but I am so messed up mentally now. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Unfortantly I don't know if and when I'll get my results. But I'm terrified. Someone I know took an IQ test once and answered all the questions who thought the test was easy didn't do so well. That person was concidered in the average range but in the lower average. So if that person only got that who knows what mine would be! Oh the news keeps getting better and better. Not really. Turns out the person testing me believes that a person with a normal IQ all their life can become mentally challenged. I asked her about it before my test in case you are wondering. So that could end up being me. I feel like my IQ has dropped. So I may end up labled something that I may be temperarly from lack of memory for my whole life even if my memory comes back and I'm in the normal range agian. If I failed I mean. So because my mind is messed up now could effect on what people see me as because of my mind being messed up. I just don't want to be labled that because I know there was a time I was normal and I may or may not become normal agian. Also it may end up stopping me from finding out the root of my problem if I'm labled falsly. But I don't know maybe I am one of those people who suddenly become mentally challenged. Also I'm disapointed because you know how I keep feeling that there is something else wrong with me. I was really hoping that I'd be tested for other things in case I am right. But now if there is something else which could be what is causing my mental decline is going on may be covered up by my results of my test. So I may find out the effect that I am mentally challenged but I'll never know the why. And my phychitrist didn't really comment on my problems. He didn't really tell me if it is the bipolar that is causing it. So maybe it is that, but I don't know.
Good luck for your test today.
I think I may have missed some posts. Regarding the anger and mania I may have been wrong. The mh expert said that anger can be part of the bipolar syndrome.
I would seem unlikely that they ask you to do an IQ test. Maybe it won't be anything as onerous. Whatever it is I hope the findings will benefit you in some way.
Anxiety contributes to our lousy ability to concentrate and retain information.
Hopefully your family will progress from thinking about it to actually doing it. But it is a good first step. I hope they're able to resolve their differences.
I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to post much or as much as I would like for a bit.
My brother just returned home from overseas and we have a memorial service coming up plus other family stuff.
Good luck with everything for now. I hope to chat soon.
I think I may have missed some posts. Regarding the anger and mania I may have been wrong. The mh expert said that anger can be part of the bipolar syndrome.
I would seem unlikely that they ask you to do an IQ test. Maybe it won't be anything as onerous. Whatever it is I hope the findings will benefit you in some way.
Anxiety contributes to our lousy ability to concentrate and retain information.
Hopefully your family will progress from thinking about it to actually doing it. But it is a good first step. I hope they're able to resolve their differences.
I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to post much or as much as I would like for a bit.
My brother just returned home from overseas and we have a memorial service coming up plus other family stuff.
Good luck with everything for now. I hope to chat soon.
Maybe we mat do that I don't know. They are thinking about trying to work it out. So we'll see what happens with my family. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I hope you do ok. I never heard of someone suddenly becoming mentally challenged. I thought that was something you are born with. You don't sound like you are. You type things like a normal adult. And you said you did good in school. So how could you be. I think your doubting your intelliegance because your more forgetful. I know sometimes it may seem as if you are dumb because of that but you are not. You are a smart person. Just by talking to you I would think your IQ is ok. I don't know why you think that. It's to bad that you are stressed over your visit. Also that they wouldn't take payment in the near future. I'm sure you needed those gloves. Well I hope to hear from you soon. Let us know what's up ok. We would like to know.
Talk to you soon.
Talk to you soon.
I can't really tell when someone is sounding like a child because I'm a child mentally. So I can't tell when people act that way. So ok. It's to bad that all this happened. I'm not that into holidays anymore myself. I feel to down to care. But you still care. Hey just do something to make it fun. Forget your family. You can have fun without them. Maybe you and your household can listen to Christmas music and relax in front of the tv watching movies. When I used to celebrate we didn't do much anyway. We were only there for maybe an hour or two. Wasn't really worth it to me. Also we have seen our share of Christmas fights. Actually once my Mom kinda ruined Christmas for me when I was 14. She had a paranoid episode and started accusing people of things. I ended up staying with my cousins for like a week. I guess I understand more how she felt now. Unfortantly things happen. Sometimes even now I'm not so understanding. Even though I have my own problems with my mind.
Anyways I went to see my shrink today. He didn't talk to me much. All he did was mostly critisize me for my sleep scedual agian. He don't understand me. I am a night owl. When I go to bed early and wake up early I feel emotionally drained all the time. I feel exsausted. Most of my creative peak is late at night. I have more energy at night. It just doesn't feel natural for me on the other sced. I mean it doesn't matter if I take my medicion at day or night as long as I take it 3 times it will work either way. Geeze! I was on the day sced not long ago and I hated it. I can't help it. That's just how I am.
Also I am mad because we needed him to answer some questions for us so we can get the open door bus thing. No one said it would cost us. Then the secritary said it would be $25.00 just for him to answer a few questions. Now we can't get any gloves. And we really need some badly. It is freezing cold out there and we ain't got no gloves! Greedy people! They can't even let us pay next time like some places. Some places understand that you have needs to take care of and will wait maybe bill you but not this place. It's give me money now or to bad. And I have to have it filled out by the 23rd because that is when our apointment is.
Also I am nervouse because tomorrow I have to go to a government appointment for some type of testing. Probably an IQ test or something which I'll probably fail because my brain don't work anymore so I'm going to look stupid because I can't remember anything I learned. I used to be so smart in school. I don't know what has happened to my mind. I wonder if it's possible to become mentally challenged in your 20's. There is no way I was as a kid. I mostly had A's. So I don't know what happened. I'll post more later.
Anyways I went to see my shrink today. He didn't talk to me much. All he did was mostly critisize me for my sleep scedual agian. He don't understand me. I am a night owl. When I go to bed early and wake up early I feel emotionally drained all the time. I feel exsausted. Most of my creative peak is late at night. I have more energy at night. It just doesn't feel natural for me on the other sced. I mean it doesn't matter if I take my medicion at day or night as long as I take it 3 times it will work either way. Geeze! I was on the day sced not long ago and I hated it. I can't help it. That's just how I am.
Also I am mad because we needed him to answer some questions for us so we can get the open door bus thing. No one said it would cost us. Then the secritary said it would be $25.00 just for him to answer a few questions. Now we can't get any gloves. And we really need some badly. It is freezing cold out there and we ain't got no gloves! Greedy people! They can't even let us pay next time like some places. Some places understand that you have needs to take care of and will wait maybe bill you but not this place. It's give me money now or to bad. And I have to have it filled out by the 23rd because that is when our apointment is.
Also I am nervouse because tomorrow I have to go to a government appointment for some type of testing. Probably an IQ test or something which I'll probably fail because my brain don't work anymore so I'm going to look stupid because I can't remember anything I learned. I used to be so smart in school. I don't know what has happened to my mind. I wonder if it's possible to become mentally challenged in your 20's. There is no way I was as a kid. I mostly had A's. So I don't know what happened. I'll post more later.
Being with my family means so much to me. We never had a christmas apart before. I mean we did have the arguing Christmas, but this would be the first with total seperation. This will be the worst ever. I'm so upset. Also my mom isn't taking it well. She has been crying a lot. She loves family time even more than I do. That's probably why it bothers me more than it should. They are breaking my mothers heart. Also my brother has given up. He is now talking about going to his friend's family for the holidays. Instead of our family. Don't he know how we're feeling and he's just going to leave. Sorry if it sounds like I'm being a child or anything but I'm really upset over my mom and this whole big mess.
First of all what is dsm-iv. And I didn't know it was for something else. I thought well you know since I pretty much wrote it out. I commented on the other forum. Anyways amylove21 don't let your family effect you. Like I said before. You think so. I ment to ask earlier you think they are fairly accurate? Well anyway just out of curiosity do you think it's silly for me to feel like something else is wrong? Maybe I should let it go. It doesn't matter which forum you pick. Or you could write in both. I'm usually on this forum the most. Obviosly. But I have been typing away lately on other places too. But I always check here. Always.
No, I don't think you're focusing on the reality but on your emotions.
You could read his response to my post on the emotional eating forum. This specific one wasn't about reality per se. It was about pausing and asking myself why I feel so powerless and then to remind myself that I am not powerless despite not taking actions. He always phrases things better than me.
We all have some control. We all have choices -even if they do seem limited.
Fighting just seems so immature.
I lost my post on the other forum but I was wondering if you'd looked up the dsm-iv for bipolar. That should be more specific than any on-line test (although I think some of them are fairly accurate).
You could read his response to my post on the emotional eating forum. This specific one wasn't about reality per se. It was about pausing and asking myself why I feel so powerless and then to remind myself that I am not powerless despite not taking actions. He always phrases things better than me.
We all have some control. We all have choices -even if they do seem limited.
Fighting just seems so immature.
I lost my post on the other forum but I was wondering if you'd looked up the dsm-iv for bipolar. That should be more specific than any on-line test (although I think some of them are fairly accurate).
Really? Focus on reality? Seriosly? I'm sorry but everytime I think about my reality I just want to kill myself. I do everything in my power to escape my reality. In my life I can't focus on the positive because there isn't one positive thing going on in this h***hole. I am a prisoner in my home and in life and I can't do anything about it. I have no control in my life at all.
And she is right tell them to grow up. If they can't don't let them ruin your own Christmas. Honestly to have to deal with that it is probably best if you do have a nice Christmas at home. At least you won't have to deal with the bla bla bla arguing 24/7. Just ignore their trash. It ain't helping you at all.
And she is right tell them to grow up. If they can't don't let them ruin your own Christmas. Honestly to have to deal with that it is probably best if you do have a nice Christmas at home. At least you won't have to deal with the bla bla bla arguing 24/7. Just ignore their trash. It ain't helping you at all.
The doctor on the mental health expert forum often suggests focusing on reality. Perhaps if we do, each of us can enjoy the moment without all the additional stress and anxiety. Often once people start participating they forget about the other stuff.
What if you were to take the focus away from potential arguments? And maybe put it on enjoying yourself. Just because others fight and argue doesn't mean you have to let it affect you and your Christmas.
Hey, tell them to grow up if you have too.
What if you were to take the focus away from potential arguments? And maybe put it on enjoying yourself. Just because others fight and argue doesn't mean you have to let it affect you and your Christmas.
Hey, tell them to grow up if you have too.
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