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Crack coccaine addiction please help before i commit suicide!!!
I dont know if my bf is doing coke or crack ( he only admits to coke after I found out through his family that he is using it) These are some of the things he does & symptoms/signs, please help:
1. he drops me off from work at night, and doesnt pick me up in the morning
2. After he get paid from work he is missing in action for up to 2 weeks at a time
3. He works in construction and is constantly laid off/looses his job due to absentee
4. He has stole money from me in the past about 6,000
5. He sold one of his cars that his mother gave him, and doesnt want to talk about it he sees the car in the street and gets upset that he cant touch it
6. He has secret friends that I cant meet, the ones I saw on the other side of town looks like crack heads
7. He comes home from hanging out very skinny in appearance.
8. His hands are always hard and burnt. ( HE TELLS ME ITS FROM CONSTRUCTION)
9. He talks about coke heads as if they are disgusting
10. He denies doing coke now, he tells me he just drives around in his mercedez benz all day and night drinking and smoking weed
11. He talks as if he is better than his associates that have problems with crack
12. He gets offended when I ask him if he uses crack
13. Sometimes when I look at him he looks very depressed and sad, when I ask him whats wrong he says nothing to me
14. He keeps telling me he wants to move out of NY
15. He is in and out of jail for possession of crack/coccaine. twice this year (i dont know if its crack or coccaine)
16. He has no goals, I try to get him to take a vacation and its like pulling teeth
17. He lost his very best friend 6 yrs to heroin addiction and is hurt about that
18. three of his friends died on overdoses this year alone, and suicide attempts
19. He tells me he is suicidal, and when i say Im tired of living my life worrying about him he doesnt try to make me feel less depressed, he makes me more depressed. He is no support to me.
20. His family only says that he does coke and its not crack
21. Alot of people in his family are coke and crack addicts, his step father died of coke overdose, and his biological father died of HIV AIDS and was into coke too
22. He knows all the crack spots
23. Alot of drug dealers call his phone, he keeps his cell hidden from me
24. He spends alot of time with his worthless crack head uncles, in which his family has abandonded, he is the only one who connects with them
25. He talks bad about his crack head uncles, calling them loosers and good for nothing
26. He always brags about my job cuz I make a lot of money, tries to live off of me, I dont make that much and he doesnt contribute to any bills.
27. When he comes home he cooks and cleans a lot, but cant help me with the bills. He swears uop and down that he never cheats on me.
28. He has a gay coccaine addict friend that is more functional then him he is ablet o hold down a job, I dont like him b/c he tried to come on to me and him. But my BF still hangs out with him, and tells me he is a good friend and when he dont have money his gay friend helps him out
WHAT IS THIS,!!!I GIVE UP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK OF ALL HIS BEHAIVOR PLEASEEE HELP ME SOMEONE!!!!
His symptoms to me seem more intense than coke, I dont do drugs, can someone help me.
1. he drops me off from work at night, and doesnt pick me up in the morning
2. After he get paid from work he is missing in action for up to 2 weeks at a time
3. He works in construction and is constantly laid off/looses his job due to absentee
4. He has stole money from me in the past about 6,000
5. He sold one of his cars that his mother gave him, and doesnt want to talk about it he sees the car in the street and gets upset that he cant touch it
6. He has secret friends that I cant meet, the ones I saw on the other side of town looks like crack heads
7. He comes home from hanging out very skinny in appearance.
8. His hands are always hard and burnt. ( HE TELLS ME ITS FROM CONSTRUCTION)
9. He talks about coke heads as if they are disgusting
10. He denies doing coke now, he tells me he just drives around in his mercedez benz all day and night drinking and smoking weed
11. He talks as if he is better than his associates that have problems with crack
12. He gets offended when I ask him if he uses crack
13. Sometimes when I look at him he looks very depressed and sad, when I ask him whats wrong he says nothing to me
14. He keeps telling me he wants to move out of NY
15. He is in and out of jail for possession of crack/coccaine. twice this year (i dont know if its crack or coccaine)
16. He has no goals, I try to get him to take a vacation and its like pulling teeth
17. He lost his very best friend 6 yrs to heroin addiction and is hurt about that
18. three of his friends died on overdoses this year alone, and suicide attempts
19. He tells me he is suicidal, and when i say Im tired of living my life worrying about him he doesnt try to make me feel less depressed, he makes me more depressed. He is no support to me.
20. His family only says that he does coke and its not crack
21. Alot of people in his family are coke and crack addicts, his step father died of coke overdose, and his biological father died of HIV AIDS and was into coke too
22. He knows all the crack spots
23. Alot of drug dealers call his phone, he keeps his cell hidden from me
24. He spends alot of time with his worthless crack head uncles, in which his family has abandonded, he is the only one who connects with them
25. He talks bad about his crack head uncles, calling them loosers and good for nothing
26. He always brags about my job cuz I make a lot of money, tries to live off of me, I dont make that much and he doesnt contribute to any bills.
27. When he comes home he cooks and cleans a lot, but cant help me with the bills. He swears uop and down that he never cheats on me.
28. He has a gay coccaine addict friend that is more functional then him he is ablet o hold down a job, I dont like him b/c he tried to come on to me and him. But my BF still hangs out with him, and tells me he is a good friend and when he dont have money his gay friend helps him out
WHAT IS THIS,!!!I GIVE UP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK OF ALL HIS BEHAIVOR PLEASEEE HELP ME SOMEONE!!!!
His symptoms to me seem more intense than coke, I dont do drugs, can someone help me.
Great, I'm happy to hear you see the big picture now. Well take care and I hope you see this because you should probably have to cops with you before he comes to get his stuff!
Thanks ms lesmoine, the only problem is that my family disowned me, so I have to try to reconnect with myself, get some SELF-ESTEEM pumpin through my viens again. Retain Self-respect, and be very SERIOUS with this person the next time he walks through my door again. I will ask for the keys and his belongings out of my house. I might have to call the cops incase he decides to make a scene and try to rape me as he has done before. I cant live like a PRISONER in my own mind anymore. I really need spiritual cleaning. Thanks again for your advice! I already got 3 hrs of sleep and I am wide awake now with nightmares of what revelations occured in my house last night. I came to this forum looking for an answer and it came right to me two days later. Now I know what he is into. Now I have to build myslef up for then next time he comes around. This is not a game anymore. TAKE CARE EVERYONE THIS IS MY LAST POST!
Haha, well girl it sounds like you need to just move on down here to the south, because we've got some hotties with big penises! lol, well, not all of them, lol, anyway, it's quite surprising these days of all the people that are strung out that look completely normal. Sometimes it's hard to tell, but I can tell ya, ya man is a crackhead. If he's leaving for long periods of time and hanging out with a gay man, well, lets just say i've seen this before. It's also funny how you could never think that your man had a gay bone in his body, but there are alot of straight guys out there that have gay tendencies and i'm sure he's too much of a "man" to EVER admit it! But I can just kinda feel it from the whole scenario. Just look at him as a disease, if he's 43 and is still doing what he's doing, he will never change. He'll only get worse. He's been nothing but a poison towards you and your family. I mean, all do respect, but u saw what u wrote? Your sisters, your blood, the people that should always be with you in life were driven away because of him. Of course you took up for him because you loved him, but now you've got to rid yourself from this freak and reconnect with the people that are the most important......family.
Wow, u sound like me. My mom also suffers from depression and I was lucky enough to carry on that trait. lol, I get depressed quite easily sometimes, and overreact and breakdown. But u have to absolutely believe you deserve more, because you absolutely do! No woman should have to go through any one thing that you have. Girl I just wait for the day my husband does one crazy *** thing like that, and I'll be out that door. Even though I'd be cryin my eyes. You gotta do what's best for you. And the way he sounds, I think the only way u could get him away from you is to get a restraining order, if he violates it, he'll be put in jail. And if your own police force is blowing you off, then you need to take that to the chief or DA or something. If you're afraid for your life because of this man and if the police won't help you, first of all they should lose their jobs, but you might have to take it to your local news ya know, tell them how you're being treated so unfairly, and almost always when people complain to newscasters about things like this, they'll run your story and you'll start getting some help. And if all else fails, move away!
You know that really hit my heart. I really hope that it is true because I am a good hearted person. I just want to be happy. I keep taking him back thinking he'll change dropped several DV charges against him. The cops are tired of me by now. I had 3 cases against him that were all dissmissed. I ve been through the DV system girl, its not easy. After a while they got tired of your ***, and think that the problem is just my problem that I create alone. But thank you god willing i will get passed this I have had 3 non-hospitalized emotional breakdowns already. I felt like giving up on life. My mother suffers from severe depression so I know it runs in my family too. And I overreact to the problems in my life, I really think I deserve more. Can you give me some advice on how to get rid of this guy without being harrassed. B/c the cops are sick of me by now.
I meet a lot of guys that are too sexual for me in coming out of a relationship they all think about sex. You either get a bum (who relies on ur money) or a nerdy guy with a little penis.....Thats how these young guys are today. Im 26, and still havent found one good relationship. No kids because I dont want to raise my kids the same way I was raised. My mother used to hit me when I was younger, was real strict with me. I wasnt allowed out of the house to play with the other kids. I always had to do homework and study for SATs. My dad as successful as he is was never really there for me only financially in which he paid for my college, but never gave me any emotional support. When I try to reach out to my mother, she tells me how much she wants to die, and hates her life and her remarriage. It depressing sometimes to talk to her. I try to make her feel better, and she doesnt even know Im battling with my own bouts of depression because of this guy I put my all into to make it work. My sisters hate me. Weve gotten into some heavy fights, mostly due to my attitude when my BF was missing in action. I alwayst thought he was cheating on me be4 i realized it was drugs he was into. I hope it doesnt get any worse then this. My next step is to get tested now that I know he is doing crack. I got tested 2 yrs ago negative, I hope that still the case. This guy is way older then me, he is 43 by now, but looks my age. He doesnt even look like a typical crackhead. Now I know crackheads come in all shape ans sizes. I am learning!
As many times as I've watched intervention, and after what I've been through, I can honestly tell you that your love for him will not overcome his addiction....his "love". He wants to kill himself because he's a crackhead who also sounds like he might be a little bicurious behind your back. And if he's stalking you then get the police involved, maybe he'll get arrested again and be out of your hair. At least for a while. My husband is almost like a father figureto me also, but I got amazingly lucky. He's actually a great guy, which are hard to come by. Except I turned into a pill junkie and almost lost him. I've never done anything close to your guy, but it really doesn't sound like a wants to stop. Or he could be like me, part of me wanted to so much, but that other part controlled me. But now my hands are on the wheel. Take control of yours, don't let someone that is seriously ill make u feel bad because he'll kill himself! He's killing himself anyway, but he's tryin to bring u with him. Stay strong, there are good guys out there. Especially in NY! Hope your dog gets well soon. I believe that these struggles are preparing us for what's next in life. It's gotta get worse before it gets better, you've been through the worst, now it's time...time to move on! Good luck!
Hi its me again, well tonight he came home with another older woman. I dont think he knew I was home b/c all the lights were off I was sleeping in the living room and my dog is in the hospital so he wasnt barking as usual. He came in and this woman was right behind him. I immediately woke up out of my sleep and he looked surprised to see me. He didnt look high or anything. But he finally admitted to me that he has a problem, and he needs rehab. The lady that was with him dropped him off over her to pick up his second spare key because he apparantley was locked out of his car across town for two days, and was scared to come home. I asked he is he smokes crack and she told me yes. She was going on how she is 8 months sober and did this for him as a favor, shes been there into crack, and wants to help him stay clean. My bf started crying. I told him not to leave with her but he left with her anyways and took my cell phone. She took him back across town so that he can get into his car.
You guys are right, I need to get over it. I knew this man since I was 17. I am a very beautifl girl but for some reason I used to look at him as a father figure. I only am around him when he was sober. i went away to college for 6 years so I didnt really get to know him until we moved in together and I brought him a benz and tried to make him feel special. Because he supported me 90% while I was in college. I am not close with my family, and I dont have many friends. I have shut them away while I was with him. We are engaged he brought me a beautiful ring everyone at my job knows Im engaged, but they dont know the other side to him.. Everyone thinks he is such a nice guy. I know I need to get rid of him, he just stalks me all the time, makes my life miserable and tells me he will kill himself if I dont give him another chance Im so scared I dont know what to do I just wish I has someone to help me. tHANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT, I THINK I CAN SLEEP NOW ITS 324 AM AND I AM SOOOOO TIRED, BUT CANT SLEEP I HAVE A LOT ON MY MIND, ALSO WITH MY DOG SICK AND GOING THROUGH SURGERY...ITS TUFFF! PLS RESPOND BACK!!!
You guys are right, I need to get over it. I knew this man since I was 17. I am a very beautifl girl but for some reason I used to look at him as a father figure. I only am around him when he was sober. i went away to college for 6 years so I didnt really get to know him until we moved in together and I brought him a benz and tried to make him feel special. Because he supported me 90% while I was in college. I am not close with my family, and I dont have many friends. I have shut them away while I was with him. We are engaged he brought me a beautiful ring everyone at my job knows Im engaged, but they dont know the other side to him.. Everyone thinks he is such a nice guy. I know I need to get rid of him, he just stalks me all the time, makes my life miserable and tells me he will kill himself if I dont give him another chance Im so scared I dont know what to do I just wish I has someone to help me. tHANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT, I THINK I CAN SLEEP NOW ITS 324 AM AND I AM SOOOOO TIRED, BUT CANT SLEEP I HAVE A LOT ON MY MIND, ALSO WITH MY DOG SICK AND GOING THROUGH SURGERY...ITS TUFFF! PLS RESPOND BACK!!!
if you love him, all you can do is leave him. you are not doing any good to him letting to use and abuse you. my husband is an alcoholic, and he has been abusive both physically and mentally to me. he only cut down on his drinking when i left him.
i dont blame him, he is a victim of his own illness, but my presence makes his life only worse.
be strong, i know how you are feeling and god bless you
i dont blame him, he is a victim of his own illness, but my presence makes his life only worse.
be strong, i know how you are feeling and god bless you
Hon,
Can you list a five things that you LOVE about him? That make you WANT A FUTURE with him?
If you were to get pregnant, would you trust your child with him?
I am not being a smartass at all...I just want you to think...pro and con lists do wonders for me!!! At the end of the day, my pro list for my husband (who occassionally lands himself in the dog house, lol) is ten sheets long, and my con list is short...with the worst being NOWHERE near him not showing up for weeks at a time, physically abousing me, etc.
GET OUT, hun!!
Can you list a five things that you LOVE about him? That make you WANT A FUTURE with him?
If you were to get pregnant, would you trust your child with him?
I am not being a smartass at all...I just want you to think...pro and con lists do wonders for me!!! At the end of the day, my pro list for my husband (who occassionally lands himself in the dog house, lol) is ten sheets long, and my con list is short...with the worst being NOWHERE near him not showing up for weeks at a time, physically abousing me, etc.
GET OUT, hun!!
get away from him I know you mean well to try and figure out how to fix him
only thing is he can only fix himself
god bless
Catfelix
only thing is he can only fix himself
god bless
Catfelix
Hope is telling you from her own experience the mess you could be in. Please keep us posted. I will be praying for you.
Tim
Tim
check his thumb, the one he would use to work the lighter. Mine was always blistered
One more thing, a friend of my sisters, was dating a guy who did all kinds of drugs. All the bad stuff, like yours is doing. Anyway, he got arrested, and so did she. She has never did any type of drug in her life. But when they arrested him, she also got arrested. She has been in prison for going on 2 years now. Even though she had never touched a drug. So please honey, get out now, while you still can.
Hope
Hope
I did not read the 2nd part of your post. Get away from this guy. You could be in danger with him. Please remove yourself from this situation. Once a man hits a woman, he will do it again. It will only get worse. You deserve a happy life and not the life you are living now. Do yourself a big favor, leave him now. Please take care of yourself.
God Bless,
Tim
God Bless,
Tim
You need to leave his sorry a**. I am sorry, but you do! I know you might love him, and you may not want to leave, but sweete, trust me...LEAVE HIM! I was in an abusive relationship, and although my ex didn't do any type of drugs, he drank alot. He would do alot of the things to me that you named. Waking me up in the middle of the night, and that kind of stuff! When i left him, i had to go to counsling, and it was hard. Cause i really did love him, at least i thought i did! But now when i look back, i realize i didn't truely love him the way i was supossed to, i more or less just depended on him. I was with him for over 10 years and had a son with him. At one point in my life, i had enough. I left, and to this day, i do NOT regret it. I am happy again.
Leave this guy, so NOT worth it! Like Tim said, if he gets busted, or arrested, guess what sweetie, you are going down with him. Is this what you want? It don't matter if you aren't using the drugs or not. You are there where they are, and it'll effect you just as much as it will him. Leave him, move on with your life! You don't deserve to be treated like this. You know you don't or you wouldn't have posted on here for help! Get away from him now, before it is too late!!!
Please, if you need anything let me know. I know how you are feeling! If you can, go stay with someone for now! Keep posting here, i want to know how you are doing, okay?
Take care
Hopeless
Leave this guy, so NOT worth it! Like Tim said, if he gets busted, or arrested, guess what sweetie, you are going down with him. Is this what you want? It don't matter if you aren't using the drugs or not. You are there where they are, and it'll effect you just as much as it will him. Leave him, move on with your life! You don't deserve to be treated like this. You know you don't or you wouldn't have posted on here for help! Get away from him now, before it is too late!!!
Please, if you need anything let me know. I know how you are feeling! If you can, go stay with someone for now! Keep posting here, i want to know how you are doing, okay?
Take care
Hopeless
Me again,
Please do not take this wrong - I only care, but I just read the part about your b/f getting physical with you - there is no doubt in my mind, get away from this guy now, do all you can to forget him, and find someone who deserves you, please leave him now!
Love, Cindy
Please do not take this wrong - I only care, but I just read the part about your b/f getting physical with you - there is no doubt in my mind, get away from this guy now, do all you can to forget him, and find someone who deserves you, please leave him now!
Love, Cindy
It is obvious he is doing some kind of drugs. I don't understand why you would stay with someone like this. I am sure you love him but..............unless he gets help, you are wasting your time. He needs to admit he is an addict and seek help. I think you should remove yourself from this situation. You don't want to end up getting arrested for being in the presence of drugs. I empathize with you and maybe you should talk with a therapist. It sounds like his drug abuse is really doing a number on you. Best of luck and I hope everything works out for you.
Tim
Tim
I say leave him and get on with your life, whether you love him or not. You are not married and have no children together, I don't understand why you want anything to do with this guy, he is obviously nothing but a burden to you. Just the fact that he took $6000.00 from you and constantly lies to you, etc. etc. Whether he is on drugs or not is no excuse, just get away before you are drug down with him. I cannot help but be blunt, I imagine if you were my daughter, and it would break my heart for you to be with a guy like this.
Please take care of yourself. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, make the best of it.
Love, Cindy
Please take care of yourself. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, make the best of it.
Love, Cindy
also he doesnt do drugs around me thats why he is missing in action, when he did do drugs around me he used to do it in the bathroom, he would be very sweaty and would stumble on his words, he would walk back and forth inside his apt, very paranoid, he would get abusive go through my phone and call up all my co-workers and friends and ask them questions about me, he would hit me sometimes, he would turn on all the lights in the house and close the blinds, he would wake me up constantly @ 2,3,4,5 in the morning, and tell me to get up and get out of his house, ask me what am I doing in his house. He would be unable to get hard but liked to go down on me after he got off his high. Now I never see his drug addict behaivors, he leaves home to do it and is MIA for the nost two weeks then comes back home like its all over, and I should love him again.
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