I need help

[jenniferm69]

My 3 year old son is driving me insane here what is wrong

Never listens
If I tell him off he laughs in my face
He is attacking everyone
His about to be asked to leave nursery for attacking the children
He bangs his head in temper
His temper now last just over an hour of constant screaming head banging kicking spitting throwing anything he gets hold of.
He don't know colours
Runs off when we go out
He is on the go from 6am till about 11ish at night
Shouts all the time
Repeats everything he says over and over and over

[allmymarbles]

Some kiddies are not ready for school at age three. This is more likely to be true for boys than girls because they mature more slowly. You might want to keep him home for another year.

With loud children it is helpful to speak softly and to keep the noise level in the house low. Take him to playgrounds and parks to let him run off much of his energy. And keep him off processed foods, sodas and bottled juices, if he is currently consuming them. See if this regimen works. Three is pretty young for therapy, but it might be a good idea for you to research behavioral techniques appropriate to this problem.

[forestgump]

hi there, there seems to be speculation over the terrible 2's and 3's and adhd. your son could possibly be going through that process with the terrible 2's and 3's but it sounds rather more severe. my son was like that at the same age was also headbutting wall whilest sat on chairs and also he used to butt the floor and didn't seem to care weather it was  hurting or what damage it was doing. This was all in frustration but he was also very aggressive to us and other children. my son has adhd but is now 18 and off meds  but it was so hard to get a diagnosis i had to take him to a private specialist when he was 9 as the local nhs doctors and so called specialists were not taking any notice of what he was going through. Deffo check it out as children that have adhd can't help the way they behave and my son was at least 80% better after taking meds. My 7yr old daughter has it as well but am struggling once again to get a diagnosis as it isn't showing at school "yet".

[Sandman2]

  How does he do in making eye contact with people?  When at the nursery will he play with the other kids or prefer to be alone?

[jenniferm69]

Hiya ty for replying,I took him to my doctors yesterday he said he needs to be referred to a hospital but not till I have been given some exercises to do with him,last week alone my son banged his head at nursery because of his behaviour I'm so frustrated I want to cry all the time but I can't let him get to me because of our daughter.
I have already limited his sweets to once a fortnight,stopped giving him cordial we all drink flavoured water now,I have been told to cut out all food colouring as well.
My doctor said my son may be colour blind

[Sandman2]

   Some of that certainly sounds like more than the normal "terrible 3's" you read about on the child behavior forum.  In fact, you might want to put the same post on over there.  
   My main concern is the length of his tantrums.  That is cause for concern!
Not that the other things aren't trouble some.  Also the fact the nursery school is having problems with him is also a red flag.  I would certainly discuss this with your doctor.