i need help, I am so depressed and hopeless. My son join kidergarten this year, he turned 5 in July. I had some feeling deep in side that somethis is not right about him but i couldn's say it loud to myself. Ok I really want to tell you whole story. He was 2 yrs old when his father left. I was working full time, My mom was taking care of him. My mom doesn't speak any english, initially my son started talking in english, after his fatehr left and he didn't see much he kind of was confused, later started to speak my native language, his speech was poor in both languages, still is. He was kind of isolated with 70 yrs old gramma. I put him in daycare for few hours but my mom didn't leave him there more than 2 hrs, often she didn't take him at all. She did everything fro him, she still thinks taht he is 2 yrs old, she wants to feed him, take him to bathroom to help him to pull his pants. basically she does everything for him, despite that many times I expalined this is not good fro boy, she still does the same.
As I mentioned before i took him to K from day one problems started teachers saying his needs a help. When teacher tells him something seh needs to repeat many times, he doesn't want to listen or follow commands, he wants to do what ever he wants to do. His enghlish is not good either, I still think He understand much. He had problems pulling his pants, basically princle is telling me taht he needs special Ed , I am devastated, don't know what to do, should I let school condact evaluation. What are the signs of ADHD, I really think he is developmentally delayed/ Don't know what to think anymore.
Please experts out there I need your advise.