how do i deal with my best friends bad 3 year old?

[jessicawright105]

my best friend has a son that is very hyper he is always breaking my daughters toys or hitting her, always screaming or trying to get into everything in my house that is not meant for kids to play with.. he can only be in my daughters room or in the back yard playing cuz he wont calm down long enough to just sit on the couch and watch a movie with the other children.. i feel  aweful about this but he is always trying to break stuff and get into everything..  she will whip him and put him  in time out put he dont care he dont cry he just whines and screams and will go right back to the same thing. it is almost kinda putting a toll on our friendship cuz i dont want them coming over that much anymore cuz i cant handle  it anymore.. i dont know what to do anymore.. if anybody has any suggestions please let me know i really need somebodys advice...

[Sandman2]

   The kids only 3 and is hyper.  He is not going to sit on a couch and watch movies.  He may never sit on a couch and watch movies.  Its not his fault.  Expecting him to do so is not real smart.  3 year old boys don't typically play well by them selves anyway, and I certainly wouldn't turn my back on them for long.
   If your friend is coming over for a visit and expects to get in a nice, long uninterrupted talk with you - its just not gonna happen.  Let her know that.  You would be better taking the kids to a playground and talking as he is running around.  But watch him closely!
   You might also suggest she check out the book,  "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley.   If he is that hyper, there may be a reason for it.  If the reason is something like ADHD, she will really use this book.  Best wishes.

[tschock]

I told my brother not to bring his 6 year old daughter to my house anymore.
She's terrible, won't listen to him because "she doesn't have to...mommy says so".
This child needs are darn good lickin' but her mother does not believe in any form of discipline where her precious daughter is concerned.
You need to talk to your friend and tell her that if she can't or won't get him some much needed help then you'll have to visit at her home only or at a park.

I meet my brother at McDonalds when he's in town and has his daughter...he can come over if he only has his son with him.

[allmymarbles]

First, there is no reason for you to put up with this child, friendship or no friendship. Second. Have you spoken to his mother? Is the problem bad parenting? Sugar diet? How does he behave in his own home? If you can not see an obvious problem, you might advise your friend to consult with a professional.