That's funny, yelling at hubby to settle down. My son fidgets like noone I've ever seen. Idk y i didn't realize it was ADD years ago. Maybe it was too gradual a change. He will start tapping/banging anything around him, as if it were drums. At times it makes me NUTS. at the pharmacy, he was tapping the counter wen we were there for two minutes, wen I'm driving his legs or the dashboard. At home, he taps the table his desk the wall wen yes walking down the hall and it continues for up to hours. He was even doing it wen the nurse was prepping him for a blood draw. I thought ivwad the only one who noticed and was going nuts, in public places I mean, until the nurse to
old him something. I remember the second day he was on it, he actually WANTED to spend time with me and we were able to watch a movie without the tapping. I didn't realize how anxious be was until the med called him. Seeing him smile and relax actually brought me yo tests cause that's wen i realized he needed help.and that I shld have done it years ago. In our case, the meds actually gave me my son back.k
Both my brother and sister have ADHA and they are both calmer and mellow and depressed when taking it but it makes them consitrate at school. My brothers 14 and on 50 mg and my sister is 16 and on 55 mg.. my husband also has ADHD but he learns how to control it. Even though I have to yell at him to settle down.. I hope this helps
My son is 14, 215 lb and 6 ft tall and hes on 27 mg/day.
I'm not trying to b presumptuous and i apologize in advance if i give offense, but is it possible she's abusing some type of substance? I only ask because I am going through that right now and wat u initially described made me wonder but being afraid of a therapist really makes me think so. I've been there. It wasn't wen my son was 8 and i did not take him but a couple of years later wen he got in trouble at school and they made me take him (itvwas a complete overreaction on their part btw.) Obviously my question was rhetorical; I don't expect u to answer, rather to think about it.
My son started add meds a couple of months ago, but I believe he needed them six years ago when necessary eight. At that age, he was old enough to come and tell me that ye had trouble paying attention in school. I didn't want him on a controlled substance so i didn't have him tested. When we finally did, I learned that much of his behavior is classic add. The questionnaire seemed taylor-made for him. Because of the delay tho, he now has depression. I'm not sure how to handle ur situation, but I can tell u that a child who isn't add responds differently to the med than a child who needs it. Maybe knowing how he shld react will help u to know if its a misdiagnosis. When my son started his meds, he reacted completely opposite of how I would if i took speed. He was very very tired the first week wen his body was adjusting, and now, his insomnia is gone. He also acquired a ravenous appetite. The third big observation I made is that he is more social, seems happier and calmer, hes much less aggressive and is jolt constantly fidgeting. Initially he acted the way u describe journal stepson acting but after the med stabilized those side effects went away and only those I mentioned remain. He also reports that he is having less trouble in school, and he no longer comes home covered in ink tattoos hes drawn all over his hand and arms.
That all being said, there is something for you to consider, especially if any of his relatives is bipolar. Many bipolar children are misdiagnosed as add or adhd. In fact, my sons father grandmother and uncle are all bipolar and the psychologist says that he has the gene and it will manifest in early adulthood. If ur stepson has it, that could explain the head banging aggression voices depression, all of it. I'm not a doctor, and i know its horrible to consider. The important thing to know is that if he is hi polar, his quality of life is directly impacted by early treatment. Wen left undiagnosed and untreated, the manic and depressive episodes become more extreme and in my husbands case ye had a psychotic break after 20 yrs undiagnosed.
Im sorry for being so verbose. I hope there's something in my post that helps. If there's anything else u think.I can answer, don't hesitate to ask. Take care and good luck.
Perhaps the best thing you can do now is to try and educate her. Start printing out articles and giving them to her? And yes, you are really caught between a rock and a hard place. Your best hope is that she will listen to you, if it sounds like you know what you are talking about.
Don't turn her off by blaming things she does. Always talk about how experts say the best ways to work with ADHD kids are. And I certainly would thing its ok to question the amount of the dosage - doctors do make mistakes (particularly if the parents don't communicate very well with them)