Our son will be 10 in July. We are at a total loss of what to do or how to help him. Since birth he has always had a terrible time sleeping. He is still difficult to fall asleep and wakes up so early, and is obviously not resting well at night. He has very poor coping skills. When he needs even something simple like a strep test done at his pediatrician he "freaks out". He starts crying, jerking away from the doctor and it takes forever to have something simple and painless done. He has always had to same reaction when i would try to cut his nails or even clean his ears, since birth. When it is time to have blood work drawn it literally took 45 minutes and 3 grown women to hold him down. He screams, yells, kicks, etc. He is now homeschooled and has a difficult time sitting for long periods to do seat work. If something is too hard he cannot sit still. He has temper tantrums about 3x month that result in behavior that is scary to everyone in the home. These fits will last for about 20-30 minutes. He screams, yells, slams doors,, throws things, hits the wall, etc. He never hits any person only objects. When it is over he tells me he is sorry and doesn't know why he does what he does. he is very hard on himself saying he is stupid and an idiot. things he NEVER hears from us!! His disobedience has continued to get worse. He always been a strong-willed child, but it is now becoming too hard to manage. He still misbehaves in the grocery store and often just talks and is loud to just be loud. He can be socially inappropriate. He interrupts all the time, talks about things that are not related to the topic. He is very impulsive and often does not appear to think before he talks or acts, unaware of the danger he puts himself into at times (crossing the street, etc) He still has a blanket he keeps in his bed, but when he gets upset he will bring it out and chew on it. I also notice him chewing on his sleeves and fingers at times.He appears very anxious at times, worrying about a lot of things.
He was born after a traumatic birth. he was born not breathing and had to be intubated and sent to the NICU. He was off the tube within 12 hrs and breathing normally. He did suffer a very small brain bleed that the doctor's deemed insignificant and attributed to the vaginal birth and having to use suction.
We have been to 3 different psychologist and getting completely different diagnoses each time. ODD, ADHD, anxiety disorder. However, none agreed with the other except 2 did on the ADHD diagnosis.
he gets good grades in school. He reads at a th-6th grade level and his IQ is above average. When he was in public school and I asked his teachers questions about his attention and behavior they weren't seeing anything like we were seeing at home. he was NEVER in trouble and a model student. They did say he does tend to be attracted to the wrong kids and he follows VERY easily. We see this as well.
We move around a lot and my husband is gone a lot. So, making friends has been hard for him.
I don't know what to do. We have him on a very strict diet with no additives/preservatives and he takes multi-vitamins and Focus Factor for Kids. The outbursts and bad behavior are getting worse. It is like he just cannot sit still. He is constantly running around. It is like he is in his own world sometimes not realizing his behavior is inappropriate, even with cues.
Could it be ADHD or something more? Please help us. I don't know what to do or where to go. I just want to help my son be a "normal" kid. He is so sad most of the time because things are such a struggle for him. he wants to do the right thing, but he just cannot stay focused long enough to do what is right.
thank you!