advise for follow up meeting

[clavvis]

Hi, have not posted for a while and have a dilema that will like to share. I posted once before about my child, now 7, who was diagnosed wiht a mild ADHD a year ago and have to admit, I believe they rushed to give it to him. Now he seems to be growing out of the symtoms, no hyper, yes alive and spontaneus but really just doing well, nothing out of the ordinary. Now the reason I am writing today is very simple, I wanted to put it to some objective minds. My husband and I have a follow up meeting regarding his 504 plan, so far is being good, he seems happy, but he says that everything, in class and at the meetings with the special needs lady is very easy. My husband thinks we should just take him out of the one to one and see what happens for a while. I sort of agree, what will an objective reader think about it?, Do you think we are rushing?.
Thanks

[specialmom]

Her child is doing WELL.  She is saying that there is not a problem and therefore, what they are doing is the right thing for her child.

Good luck and I hope you continue on this path of success for your child.  I LOVE to hear success stories.  Many are unhappy with the outcome of what a school does but in this instance it is working well.  Take care

[dollyn]

I think it has a lot to do with the Teacher and how a child feels about a Teacher.Children learn and will work better for a Teacher they like and that they feel good about being around.

To me it could be just that and maybe your son doesn't have adhd.I know a lot of children who don't do well because of the Teacher or Teachers and the School. Some Teachers shouldn't be teaching at all.Relive me my Children have had way to many Teachers that I have had a hard time with because they where very lazy  and didn't know what they where doing and didn't even know what was going on with my Children because they didn't bother to try or even look at there records ,or even try different things with them ,they thou if it works for one it should work for all.

This makes me so mad.

[clavvis]

I think that is right, you are right, I suppose I am not that accepting, and my husband is really to conscious about the special needs thing. To be honest, I must prefer to see things going well and you are right, why shake the boat?. Why risking things?.

To be honest, my husband suggested to take him out on the meeting and when I saw the teacher fear I totally went to myself: "just let things keep going as they are, why upset things?!".
Anyway, thanks for your time, is good to share it with people that understand circumstances.

[specialmom]

ps:  I am so glad to hear when the things they put in place for a child actually work this well!  That is great news!!

[specialmom]

I have a thought.  You say that about a year or so ago that he was struggling and had been given a diagnosis of mild add/adhd?  And now he is doing well, adjusted, happy and not having problems?  Could he not be doing well, adjusted, happy and not be having problems because of the diagnosis being right and the interventions in place working?  As an objective reader, that is what I took from it.  

If my child had been struggling to the point of needing a plan, I would not rock the boat.  That is my honest opinion.  He's doing well and enjoying school with no complaints.  stay with that as the other risks going back the same situation he was in before.  good luck

[clavvis]

Hi,

Thanks for answering. He has been in a 30 min a day sessions 1:1 since October. It is a system that this particular school uses, he had trouble with his previous teacher in Junior and senior infants as per the typical, standing up, chatting in class, making jokes. His previous teacher had me almost every day talking about his behavior. There was a personality clash on top of everything.
Now in first class, from day one, the story is other, his teacher finds him really cooperative and kind, but he struggles to be inactive for so many hours so they came up with this formula. It is working, he finds it easy, yes, but he has not yet said is boring, just easy, I think she can give him more challenges and I said that to her.
I am just after meeting the special needs and teacher, my husband really will prefer having him on the normal class all the time, I am more flexible, I just want everybody to work fine.  I felt the teacher fears not having the support will be lots of work. So, the understanding is: the ultimate goal is to having him in the class, how long will that take, lets see.
By the way, any tips in writing stimulation, that is a little weak with my boy at the moment, great reader, good at maths, but fears and gets very tired when writing.

[benjimom]

How long has he been in a 1:1 setting?  Sometimes kids act out for a while and then they get better.  It could be adhd, but if it's improving, maybe he has matured.   It seems like ages 5 and 6 are difficult years and esp if children are immature, of course all kids are immature, some more than others.

You could slowly integreate him back into the classroom.  I would hate to see him get bored with this lady.  

I'm just curious, what kind of behaviors precipitated that he go into a 1:1 setting?