Husband says he'll leave?

[IrmaJean45]

Hi, recently I got married and on our honeymoon he informed me that if I go to the bathroom  (pee or poop) or pass gas in our new house he will leave me as that is not acceptable to him. He says 7 Eleven in down the street.  Im so shocked because he never brought this up before we were married...we didn't live together. I honestly don't know what to do as we don't believe in divorce or annulment and he says it's normal for this situation to occur and he said just nobody talks about it.

[RockRose]

And I do have to ask - how long did you date?  Did you ever meet any of his friends or family?

[IrmaJean45]

HIs mom told me it's just a dilly quirk of his and all wives have to accept quirks. He has no friends only one guy who is a resident at the retirement home he manages.

[IrmaJean45]

We dated for 1 year but he seemed more normal.  He said I'm not allowed to do his laundry when we get married but that's the only weird thing he said.

[care22039457]

This is not a "quirk".  He has a serious mental issue.  It's absolutely inhumane to not allow someone to use the bathroom in a place they are living.  I have a feeling any future requests will be just as strange or worse.  Please get out now before it becomes too difficult to extricate yourself from this situation.

[ninick]

Hi,

First of all let me assure you this is NOT normal. Does he use the 7 eleven for himself? let's assume you are unwell or have a baby, will u be expected to walk down the street to even pee?

I'm sorry but this sounds like a psychological iussue to me. Also could be about control, but i'm not sure about it.

The only normal thing is for you to be ABLE TO USE anything in your house the way u want to or be made to feel comfortable.

Divorce/annulment etc are unpleasant and everybody wants to avoid it, but to live a life with such conditions may perhaps be more unimaginable. I wish u all the best.

[Momoftjreec]

He is a nutcase.  Been married 23 years. I never went to 7-11 to pee. He will get more controlling g and abisive. Leave him.

[crazybullielady]

You need to get as far away from that piece of excremente as possible!!! What happens if you have children?? Are they not allowed to use the bathroom in their home?? This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard it!! he doesn't deserve the time of day from you!! He's got

[Itchys]

Does your husband go to 711 each time he needs to use the facilities?  Because that would only be fair if he's asking you to do it.

You should feel comfortable in your own home and be able to use the facilities. Did you use the facilities at his place when you dated?  If so, what's different now?  Can you use one bathroom and he use the other(if you have 2) if it's such an issue?

What he's asking is not at all normal or fair.  It seems like he's trying to test you to see how much control he can have over you. You may want to set boundaries with him so that he doesn't push you into doing things that don't feel right to you.