boyfriend sleeps with 9 year old daughter

[Espi66]

Hello: I find it very disturbing that my 39 year old boyfriend sleeps with 9 year old daughter.  I find it discusting that he sleeps in his boxer's and the 9 year old very spoiled daughter sleeps with him.  At one time we were on vacation in Mexico with his family he kicked me out of the bedroom we were sleepin in at the sister's house to sleep with her because she cried and made her scene about her wanting to sleep with papi.  I walked into the room to get my stuff and when I turned on the light they were both holding eachother real close it looked awful he had no shirt and I was discusted.  He tells me I am jeleous and selfish, I am not I just think it's not healty or normal.  I have 2 daughters and they spent time with my ex-husband their father and never in this world did he sleep with them and if I was ever told by my daughter's or him that he slept in the same bed, I would not ever allow them to spend the night.  Please advise me am I at wrong?  I have asked several different people for their opinion they all agree with me when I discussed this with him he of course got extremely irrate and said he spoke to his co-worker ( a man) and he told him he thought I was wrong and it perfectly normal and okay for him to sleep with the daughter.  I am sure his co-worker wasnt told all the other stuff that I see.

[Espi66]

Thank you so much for taking the time to give me your thoughts and advise.  I am done I am out of there it's sickening and even more to know the mother has no concern for that at all.  The one that asked were the mom is she has a new husband and a new daughter and is always on top of makeing sure she will get her child support and does use the daughter to try to get more from this man.  I am also very glad that my now ex-boyfriend's family like his mother and sister's think he is doing very wrong to hopefully they can help him STOP!  Again thank you to all

[treazzure007]

i would also put in a formal complaint to child protective services before i made my final exit from their lives.  let him explain things to them since he doesn't want to discuss it with you.  

there is a thin line that they are so close to crossing (if they haven't crossed it already).  what about when she gets boobs and hips, fuller thighs?  her womanly curves are coming soon if they haven't arrived already.  he, as a father, has the responsibility to stop her AND should want to stop her from sleeping with him and coming in the bathroom with him b/c it's very inappropriate.  i have a feeling he's a sick minded individual.  leave

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

guy is sick, keep him away from your daughters , get out while your daughters are ok

[Espi66]

Hi thank you so much for your comment I really wanted to get opinion from people not close to me or related to me because they all agree with me but at times I think it's because they care and they will agree to what my feelings are.  I really appreciate you taking the time to help me, I also hope a man close to that age can give me a comment on what they think ?

[Espi66]

Thank you for you advise.  The other is she is a pretty big girl for 9 she acts very mature but yet she talks like a baby she tells everyone my papi does whatever I say, besides the point for example when all 3 of us go out she will always want to sit in the middle(it's truck were 3 people can sit in the front) and his hand is rubbing up and down her leg and she rubs his leg up and down, he will grab her and like I said she is a big girl for 9 he will hold her and kiss her whole body and rubs her behind.  When he is using the restroom she walks in and will stay in the bathroom until he is done.  

[jo929]

I find it very disturbing, very digusting, and it seems that it is not a healthy relationship, for the child or parent, and i do not know whther i could walk away without discussing this with someone loke a therapist, also do not marry this man, he is not marriage material,most therapists will tell you a child should have their own bed when they are a baby, also it would seem he is to possevive of her. so your marriage would never work just my opinion  luck  jo