Being Rude

[lady67]

I am sure this is going to get moved, but I am going to post anyway and hope triedeverymed sees it first.  I have discovered in my life that people tend to be rude and hateful to the people who offer the least resistance. I am very non-confrontational and I am the one who gets jumped on at work more than anyone.  I have seen that on this forum as well.  The nicer you are, it seems some of the "rude" posters come after you for absolutely no reason because they think you will sit back and take it.  I am learning daily to stand up for myself.  Before I would just let them get their jollies by walking all over me, because I didn't want to raise any flags about myself.  Especially since I didn't want anyone knowing my addiction secret.  The stronger I get though, the thicker skinned I get.  People on here shouldn't be rude.  I remember the old saying, "people who live in glass houses should not throw stones."

Don't worry girl, we have your back.  Most of us are friends here and friends stick together. :)

Love Ya,
Susan

[addict3]

I feel I need to jump in a say a couple of things.....I do not recall anyone being rude, I have not read all posts so I may have missed some that are just plain rude and there is no doubt about it.

However when I type, sometimes my words do not have the inflection of voice and therefore I may (and have) been misunderstood, in e-mails, hopefully not here and appeared rude and really was not.

when I was @ about day 5 I was very irritable, my wife asked me to go to wal-mart to pick up 2 items...wellI thought that would be a good short outing, right?.....well it was around 2 P.M., store crowded as could be, and a woman blind to the world just standing in the isle cross ways talking on her cell phone I waited patiently for what i thought was plenty of time ....and then I do not know what came over me, I spoke to her like she was a morron, Said things to her I would not have said to a man about moving her inconsiderate A$$ out of everyones way so ppl could get by. I had to be the wrong one because everyone else was just standing there waiting for her to finish.

My problem that day was I had no business being out in public, I was in W/D, cranky, and that is not me at all, I am really a nice guy and would never have done that for any thing.

I guess my point to that ramble is you never know, maybe it really isn't meant to be rude , it just comes out that way because of this addiction.

Then again, some people are just RUDE........ ( and if you are the lady I spoke so rudley to @ wal-mart, I'm sorry)..... and I hope you or your husband never see me.

CONSIDER THE SOURCE!

[Dave2824]

I am new to this whole community, and I have to say that hearing that people here are like this makes me disapointed, (though I have not witnessed it myself so far)and at the same time- I realize that with such a large amount of people joining -= we are all going to run into an a...hole here and there. Its just inevitable. But it still is sad. This is a place of recovery and refuge, and I have always found that people that actually care enough about themselves and there loved ones to take on such a big challenge as getting clean and all the steps that go along with it- are some of the best and strongest people that I have run across and anyone that has gone thru it and continues to go thru it should be completely understanding. So far I have only seen good things which is why I went ahead and joined. But it takes all kinds of personality's to make a community. Just hang in there and dont sweat the negative and look thru that and I bet that you will see that the majority of the time you are going to get positive feedback.
But certainly dont let someone else's corrupted personality take control of you. It makes me sad that you want to get mad right back at them-though I completely understand that.
I am sure that even though I am saying this, if someone was rude to me I wouldnt respond with as much nobility as I would like.
Dont empower any jerk that speaks negatively to you by doing the same thing. Just go one being the same kind and good person that you can be.
God Bless/.
Dave

[lady67]

My brother has severe bi-polar also and he has hurt me more times than I can count.  Just recently he sent me a really nasty letter telling me that he wished I would die a horrible death and leave my family paupers.  It hurt me so bad that I almost went to the doctor to get sleeping pills.  I decided I wasn't going to let his disease cause me to relapse.  He lives in another state and I haven't heard from him since May 17th and it scares me because he isn't answering my emails and I don't know if he is alright.  I love him, but I can't let him change my outlook on life.

Susan

[triedeverymed]

I am going to cry because you are all so very sweet!! I tried to be a friend to someone with severe bipolar disorder but it came back to bite me. I was just sick to my stomach when I read the message but I will not take it lying down, he is blocked from my profile and I have learned I can't help everyone, all I can do is share my experience and lend my support. I'm not going to stop because of one weirdo. There are too many kind, lovely people here.
I thank you all so very much for the support! You have shown me the goodness in the world outweighs the bad.
Love & Hugs to all.
Erin

[Mikeinthesouth]

Kindness is not weakness.... jeeze when are people goona learn..... quit acting like children or high school kids or like caty lil girls no offense please just a figure of speach but I do notice a ton of catiness here.......... I wont let that keep me away though as I am here and thats that unless medhelp thinks different that is. LOL Anyway sorry if anyone got disrespected I am apologizing for the small minded who tend to act like their sh t dont stink.... Sorry for the crudeness. Man thats not a good saying. I dont like it but I think it might be the perfect thing to say bout this

[10356]

That is the very quality that has kept me here is the kindness most everyone has bestowed on each other. I have been judged many times in my life without anyone knowing the facts but here I have yet to experience that and you have know idea how much that means to me..  So in closing I agree with all the above post and want to shout out a big Thank-you to this wonderful group of people.. With much respect.. Lesa