James rehab

[stilltrying1965]

Hi im Kim wife of( stilltrying1965
I have  seen James today.He was out for 1 hour and passed his drug test.He does not like rehab and to be honest i thought he would have left by now.But he is so determind to be drug free ,im proud of him as i always thought the worst would happen to James .He finds the meetins hard and to open up but i think that will come in time.Frank says its got to come from James and will eventually come. James will be 1 week clean tomorrow.And over the worst of physical w/dsHe still feels agitated when pushed. And he also wishes to thank Letakos and Laurel for the notes ,they give him the courage to get past the early w/ds the rls and the depresion ect.Hope this helps thanks Kim

[stilltrying1965]

Hi, I know exactly how your feeling right now. It is very hard when the both of you are taking your DOC. What i eventually realised was that we were jusr encouriging each other. Everytime we tried to  stop and the going got tough for 1 of us we would just mention the drug and plant the seed knowing eventually the other would cave in too. Then we founf MH and both of us just went cold turkey wed had enough or should i say  had had enough. Jameskept getting some good clean time under his belt but thoughthe could just do 1 more time or if he had a problem. Dont get me wrong it was hell knowing he had used and i was still having massive cravings but just kept thinking that if we wwent back to that life there would never be any way back
So eventually i had to give him an uultimatm, our 27yr marriage or the drug, so he went into rehab. He says hel do it to prove he loves me more than the drug iv always known he loves me but the drug is more powerful.Its going to be very hard when bothof you are taking its not very often the both of you can come off together.Is your spouse point blank refusing to come off ? Have you sat him down and told him how you feel.  ? This will be very hard but if he is unwilling you will have to think carefully what to do. I gave James countless chances but eventually it has to stop. Feell free to pm me, ill help you in any way i can, i feel really bad as i know how you feel, ill tell james you are asking for me and hope to speak to you soon.. Warmly Kim xo

Hi vicki, how are you > i havent spoke to you for ages, i hope alls well.  You are so right he had to do this or he probably wouldnt be around much longer, but i think he realised that himself eventually. Im proudthat hes actually done it as hes never been away for this length of time but he seemed still keen today but the emotional stuffis kicking in now, so we will see how it goes. Thanks for answering Kim xo.

[vicki595]

Hi Kim!!   Good to hear this about James!  I'm sure it's hard but it had to be done! I'm just glad he went...for all of you!  How are you doing? It's great to see you posting...xo

[witsend0603]

Kim,
I have followed James journey on here since I joined in February.  I have to say, you absolutely amaze me.. you are like a hero I have never met before... I have wanted to ask so many times but never had the courage to do it so I am doing it now.... first of all tell James that I am very proud of what he is doing for himself and you and the family.. I admire his courage in finally reaching out for the help he seems to need.  What  I wanted to ask you though, how do you do it?.. what I mean is, I too have the issue of a spouse who unfortunately shares his pain pills with me.  I want to stop but don't know how to when he is unwilling and I know they are in the house when he has those dr's appts.  I seem to find that the temptation of taking them to be stronger than the will to want to not take them.  James always spoke in his posts so highly of you and how well you were doing constantly so I guess that's why I am finding now that I want to talk to you.  I understand how busy you are with all you have going on and everything.  Just reply back if you get a chance.. and again.. tell James I admire what he is doing.. this surrender on his part shows his true strength and determination.. wish him well for me..