broken inside.

[nene44321]

ok so i'm new at this... but ive been with my boyfriend for a while now & he's the best thing that could have happened to me except for his addiction to heroin... i went into this relationship knowing what i was getting into but i never thought it was going to get this bad, for the past 6 months he's been in jail. He was on a program called "drug court" but that didn't seem to help because he violated it to many times. he was released for jail in november and put into "work release" on his second day out he met up with "trouble" and got caught using again and was put back in the county.i feel like our relationship just hit rock bottom and i don't know what to do, we had court on thursday and he was kicked off drug court now he has to serve a year and a half in state prison.... someone please help me, i dont know what to do & i'm so lost inside! =(

[mtgoat911]

you should goto a narcanon meeting, atleast one time, to see how others handle living with loved ones on drugs

[freebird227]

You may want a relationship with him but his relationship is with the drugs. Everything else comes second to that. You may share some tender moments together and a laugh or two have awsume s-x.Those are the times that you hold on to. The defination of Insanity is Doing The Same Thing Expecting Different Results.I would suggest that you sit down with pen and paper and do a pro and con list about the relationship. A honest one, based in the reality of how thing are . Then try to figure out Who told you that the only thing in life you deserved was a using addict,,,,when in reality you deserve so much more,,,,but you have to come to terms with that. Best Wishes

[nene44321]

i just don't know what to do... i love him and i wanna stay with him..But i dont know how much more i can take of this... i know that deep down in his heart he wants to change and he wants to stay away from everything but its hard when his ex is an addict and everytime he seems to be getting better she pops up and he gets involved again... And its hard for him to stay away from her cause they have a kid together and that kid is his life...

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

I am really sorry for your situation. But I am going to be realistic with you. I wont sugar coat it. I have never seen an individual come out of a prison in any better shape than when they went in. And I do have personal experience here. There is as much dope inside the walls as on the streets. And the environment is very conducive to using. Little rehabilitation , if any, is afforded. I am afraid that you are in for a long fight if you choose to remain with him. There is hope that he can change. But he is he one that has to make that decision. Doesnt sound like he wants to quit. It could literally turn into a lifetime project for you.