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husband left me to be on herion
how do herion usuers think do they care about there family even though they dont show it or does herion block off there brain is that why he is so cold towards me???hi everyone iam 23 years of age never been involved with herion or any type of drugs i have a daughter that is 15 moths old and 7 months pregnet. my husband is an active herion user he has been on and off herion since the age of 20 he is now 26 years. we have now been seprated for almost two months reason being him being on herion , selling drugs, never at home, never spends time with me or hes family.he is currentley selling herion and has had a taste of the easy money which surports hes use. i kicked him out caus i couldnt handle hes actions any longer i then asked him to come ack home he refuses to come back home.. heis a smoker and hangs around an older man who injects and he sells from that house ... the man has a 15 yr old daughter that my husband always hangs around and they phone each other and go for drives ... i really want my husband to come back home at the start when he first left he would ignore all my cals and text msgs and he only talks to me in regards to my daughter . im not sure if he is seeing this 15yr old girl thats why hes not returning back home or the reason being he is so caught up being on herion that he just wants hes freedom so he can be on it in peace. he has a place to stay where there are all active drug usuers that keep him busy... iam just going so insane that i cant belive that he would just give up on our marriage after being together for over 10 years .... iam unsure how to deal with this situation im stuck im pregnet with hes child , i love him but i cant handle him being on herion ....i say i will except him being on it just so he comes back.but i noe deep down it will kill me slowley do you think he will come back to me if i cut him off out of my life ??? how do herion usuers think its killing me here ???
fatwez, hi and welcome to the community. I am glad you found your way here and you are reaching out for help. Sad14u gave you some good advise. Unfortunately, you can't help your husband and you can't get him clean. It is something he needs to do by himself.
Right now all of his needs are being met. Meaning that he has his drug, he has money, he has food and he has shelter. The drug is all consuming to him and he uses to live and lives to use. It is that basic.
As hard as it is to understand, do not take his words or his actions personal. The drugs are talking and acting for him now and it is all that he sees. It will stop either by him deciding that he wants it to or by him getting arrested..or thrown in jail, something like that.
In the meantime, please take the advise to take care of yourself, your daughter and your unborn child. this needs to be your priority.
There are support group that you can join to get an understanding of drug addiction. They are a group of people just like yourself who are learning to go on with their lives. If you want more information I will help you to find it.
Please hang on hun and know that you did the right thing by letting him go. Keep posting here and talking with the members. I wish you the best.
Right now all of his needs are being met. Meaning that he has his drug, he has money, he has food and he has shelter. The drug is all consuming to him and he uses to live and lives to use. It is that basic.
As hard as it is to understand, do not take his words or his actions personal. The drugs are talking and acting for him now and it is all that he sees. It will stop either by him deciding that he wants it to or by him getting arrested..or thrown in jail, something like that.
In the meantime, please take the advise to take care of yourself, your daughter and your unborn child. this needs to be your priority.
There are support group that you can join to get an understanding of drug addiction. They are a group of people just like yourself who are learning to go on with their lives. If you want more information I will help you to find it.
Please hang on hun and know that you did the right thing by letting him go. Keep posting here and talking with the members. I wish you the best.
I feel the pain of your heart as I read your post and wish that I could take that pain away for you! But the sad truth is that heroin users only love heroin, the only thing they think about or care about is the next fix.........because the addiction has taken control of them........they may love you and want to be the person you need them to be......but they can't .....not until they reach a point where they can't go on any longer some make a decision to get help and they do recover. but. it is a long hard road... I know advice is easy to give, but I would advise you to let your heart release your husband to find his own path and focus on you and your babies. Don't let your mind focus on him or the addiction, focus on you and your family and what is best for your babies. Sometimes we have to set aside our own wants for the sake of our children, try to find a new activity that you enjoy, make some new friends, sign up for a class at a local college. Do something for yourself and everytime you think of him or your desire for him, just acknowledge that desire and release it then refocus on your new path in life.
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