Family support is awesome.

[ILoveLukey]

I have so much support from my mother and my sister. They are the ones that are helping me get thru this               nightmare. That being said, I so hope all of you out there get the same support that I do from family. No one is judgemental. They all understand that I did not wake up one morning and decide to get addicted to something.  I tried to hide my addiction for a long time because I was embarrassed.  Guess what? I fooled no one.  But when I stepped up to the plate and admitted it, I had more support than I ever dreamed of.  We all need support, especially from our loved ones.  I urge anyone who needs help to talk to their family members. You will be surprised, as I was, of the support that you will get.

[LateAugust]

I pray that some day my daughter will truly  know in her heart we love her unconditionally, as you know your family supports and loves you.   Thank you for sharing a beautiful experience.  There is always hope.    

[joann1975]

Thank you so much...you are so sweet. I honestly have no intention of admitting my addiction to my mother. Maybe my Dad...they are divorced of course. But my Mother has so many issues of her own that she is in denial about that she takes pleasure in bad mouthing anyone to make herself feel better. She will literally throw one of her 3 kids under the bus to make herself look good. (not realizing that people are thinking you are talking about your own kid) She lied to me my entire life about my Dad, my sister, my brother and anyone else we talked about. My bro & sis barely have anything to do w/her at all. I feel the obligation to do the things she needs or asks for. Like...I moved in w/her to help her pay her bills b/c she was going to lose her house (before i was married) and I have made more money than her for many years now. Well, come to find out she had been telling EVERYONE that she was having to give me money and support me. My Dad gave her $2500 b/c he thought it was true. I was giving her anywhere from $500-$1500 per month plus buying household stuff etc. Even now that I am married and staying home w/my son and we are on a tight budget we still have to loan her money b/c I can't let her not have groceries. Ok, one more example and I will get off my whining soap box....I had my gallbladder out in March on a Wed. and my husband was home w/me Wed & Fri and his aunt took the baby that Thu. Well, I thought I would be ok lifting him to change diapers etc by Sat when my hubby had to work and I couldn't do it. So I called my Mom and she couldn't come over b/c she was cleaning house and my sister was going to the gym. Well, I only needed like 2 or 3 hours of help my hubby was going to be home by noon! That is the support I get from my family. Ok....sorry to have taken over your post but I opened up a can of worms and just had to let it out. Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this. But on a positive note I have the best husband in the world and he is supportive and loving and wonderful!

[confused456]

I don't have that since all my family pretty much are addicts themselves, but I am sooooo happy to know that there are families out there that give unconditional love and support!! That is awesome!!

[ILoveLukey]

Ok. Maybe your situation is different. You sound like a wonderful person and that YOU would be supportive of anyone in your family with a problem. I am so sorry that your mother can't understand. You are  probably correct in that she may be the root of your pain.  Just remember Joann that it is not the situation on hand that is bad , it is how you react to it. Keep working on it and remember that you are a wonderful person and are doing your best to get well. That is all that matters. Maybe try to approach your mother and explain your situation to her and maybe she will understand and you can become good friends again . Good luck hon.

[joann1975]

I understand what you are saying but I still couldn't bring myself to tell my parents or siblings. My husband yes. But on the flip side if any of my loved ones told me they had a problem I would be totally supportive of them...however I have one of those Mom's who will bad mouth her own children just to be talking or to make herself feel better about her bad situations. (deep down i think she is the root of the pain i am masking...but i am working on that as well)

I am happy you are doing so great and that your family is so supportive! All of you guys deserve great big hugs!

Have a great night!