HELP!!! Methadone and Sex Drive

[hc765]

My bf has been on methadone for his heroin addiction for a little over a year, but for the last 4 months we have not had sex (and rarely the months before that). I have heard that methadone lowers sex drive, and he has also gained some weight, which  makes him feel insecure (but he knows that I think he's sexy regardless of weight). This is obviously hard for me to handle (considering we had great sex before this) but the parts which completely baffle me are 1) that he occasionally still has sex dreams (he is a sleeptalker :X), which I would assume wouldn't happen if he has no sex drive and 2) the fact that the other day I saw that he had been looking at porn online. Why would he be looking at porn if he doesn't have any sex drive?! This is hitting me pretty hard and I really don't understand it. I used to consider myself a pretty attractive person but it's really eating at my slef-esteem because I feel like his sex drive has only decreased to the point where he is only turned on by that slutty, porn star look. Does he really not have a sex drive or is it that his normal looking gf can't do it for him anymore?! If any guys can help explain what this all means or if any girls have been through this... HELP!

[lucyred68]

when i was on done i had no sex drive.  it came back with a vengeance when i got off. in fact i was hornier than ever!!  let him know that you understand that it is the drug that has stolen it.  maybe that is what it will take to wake him up and get him to get help quitting.

[WantCoHelp]

Methadone is the worst opiate to come off of.  He can be permanently of opiates if he considers ultra rapid detox. 2 years worth of methadone is what it would cost and he can get a naltrexonee implant to prevent him from doing it again.  Check this out rapiddrugdetox.com  .  THey are the cheapest and the best. good luck

[mr.lucky66]

Sometimes you have to make a choice, do you want sex-love or dope? Do you want to be a feel good zoombie or be a man or woman? I made the wrong choice many times and paid but no more. all the best

[Irritated371]

my husband is on methadone too!! Im having the same probs and hes in denial that its the methadone he trys to tell me he thinks there is something really wrong with him. Im tired of it !! Last year i wrote down every time we had sex and jan 08 i added it up and we had sex 8 times in 12 months when we used to at least once a day .. Im ready to leave him becasue hes never gonna quit taking the pills and thats his whole life. He is so not intrested in me one bit .. I have tryed everything. I am to the point where i am starting to feel like i dont wanna be with him because he makes me feel like im begging for some booty call. Its just lame and im young 32 i dont need to spend the rest of my life with a man that has no desire to try and even quit these damn pills.

[Irritated371]

Oh yeah and my hubby has been taking these pills for 6 years now.. I left him because of them in 2005 and we were split up and he went to rehab and said he was on his way to recovery i thought so as he was very sexual with me for about 2 months then all of sudden i see a decline in the sex and see him sweating and having all the symptoms of being back on them and sure enough he found someone else to prescribe to him... Not sure what to do here ?? Im lost and i absolutley love having sex!!!! How is this ever gonna work he does not see a prob at all he is completly happy being high and not having sex and freaks when i bring it up

[Navydoc69]

Seems to me that you're husband has already shown you his hand not once but twice and you' didn't win.  Addiction is a horrible thing, but it's a choice that clearly your husband has made.  He chooses his drugs over his marriage.  So you've got two choices and that's either to accept him as he is or end the marriage and move on with your life while you're still young and able to land another man...

[Oxyidiot]

It is forsure the pills . I have been clean for 52 days now & im back to normal although my wife has slowed down from me not wanting to have sex when i was on the pills . But she is comming around slowlyLMAO . Before i quit the pills inever wanted to & didnt care how much she begged bitched didnt matter . Now my wife  thinks  im a sex addict which i guess is better than a pill head .

To  Irritated371 if you could get your hubby to see  this forum maybe he would come around & see it really is the pills . Or you could always find somone else if he doesnt wake up . Not that im telling you to do that !!!