Help for my daughter

[scaredmommy1]

I am finding myself in a position that I never thought that I would be in. My 20 year old daughter is addicted to oxycontin. I am scared to  death and really don't know what to do. She lives a half hour away. I have been dealing with this knowledge by myself and it has been hell. I finally told her stepdad today, that went better than I thought. He says to make her come home for now. I think that is best but how do I get her to? Yesterday she quit school. She is spiraling. She has a script for suboxone strips but who knows if she is using them or will stick to it.

[scaredmommy1]

Thanks Sara.

[dominosarah]

We are always here and open 24 hrs a day so keep posting.      sara

[scaredmommy1]

The biggest issue that I am having is fear followed by lack of trust. I worry that she will either die or get arrested. The first would ruin my life, the second hers. The trust issue is hard. I find myself doubting everything she says. I don't want to appear non-supportive, but she has lied so much that it is really hard to trust anything that she says.

[dominosarah]

Once she cleans up and gets into recovery her actions will speak louder than words.  My dad used to tell me you can lose trust and your reputation in a day but you can get that back with time and positive progress.  Its okay not to trust her as she has lied over and over to you.  Your daughter is a good person, her choices arent.  This is why we tell you to keep going to these meetings.  They can help you help her in a supportive way.  

I know and understand the fears of death and being arrested on both sides of this.  It is torture, plain and simple.  Hopefully she will come around real soon.  Talk with her about your fears.          sara

[Teetime4u]

Well your story is almost a carbon copy of mine. My daughter is also an opiate addict. I feel your pain.the constant worry of a call that this time she did one too many, or that the cops picked her up for something.... The worries and list is never ending.. I have been beating my head off the wall for 2 years now. The constant lying is just a given, just take most of itg with a grain of salt. Especially if its to obtain any money, trust me its not for what they say its to get their daily fix. My daughter has stolen from family members, places of employment... So never drop your guard. My daughter was a sweet honest person till this addiction got her and now she is a whole different person that I don't even know. The advice and support that I have gotten from this site is amazing. Just remember you cannot fix her!! Stop beating yourself up over the should of could ofs cause you did not give her her addiction. She did and until she wants to get rid of it you are defenseless..pleas contact me any time through this site, I am available, and I know what you are going through!! God bless!

[dominosarah]

I hear some new found strength in you!!

I am glad you are both here~~~~sara